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Kaybaybay

Is this just a phase/stress or is it full blown anxiety?

I’m an 18 year old girl &Well, I’ve had some symptoms that resemble anxiety/stress for like a month now…
The first symptom I even noticed was a tingly sensation in my left hand.

I’ve had ever it since I’ve noticed it, which has freaked me out on bad days. (thinking I’ll have a stroke or something) Which has put more symptoms on the map…
I’ve had it checked twice and the doctors have told me the same thing. Stress/nothing wrong with my hand. at the time, it was just tingly and now it aches
I’ve just realised that I’ve been self diagnosing myself with Anxiety as I’ve been scouring this forum for a while. (mainly because of the tingling in my hand)
The tingling only comes on if I’m actually paying attention to it.

Other symptoms I’ve had are:
Trouble breathing. (ocassional)
Trouble sleeping (But that was only when trouble started) Right now I’ve no trouble getting to sleep
my left arm sometimes aches
sweaty hands (at night if I’m sitting up doing nothing)
Crying for no reason (ocassional)
Chest pains
rare lightheadedness
Hair pulling (which my mum has just brought it my attention

The thing that is bothering me is that I don’t know what I’m stressed about.
When the stress first started I was having a lot of trouble with my boyfriend. I also am wondering whether these symptoms are down to alcohol.
During the christmas period and after christmas, I was partying a lot & drank more than i usually do. Which was one of the best times of my life as I was happy and had broken up with my boyfriend who hurt me alot.
I only started feeling anxious/experiencing these symptoms when the friends I was partying with stopped talking to me for no reason &also when my boyfriend and I got back together.. I’m wondering whether this “downer” was caused by the paused drinking and social life…as I’ve always been a worrier and I’ve had cases where I couldn’t breath, but I’m wondering why I’ve got this tingling that I’ve never noticed before and also I get butterflies for no reason sometimes.
I find that when I’m not feeling lonely (which I always am) I don’t any problems.
I have no trouble socialising but I do have my “i want to stay in bed” days.

As of now, I do nothing, sit around the house with no company and no friends…&wanting to get out of this failing relationship with my boyfriend of 4 years?
Is this what’s stressing me out?

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babacup 7 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 2 years, 3 months ago (30 minutes after post)

If you want to get out the relationship, you just need to do it. You said you were happiest when the two of you were broke up.

I would say the being in a relationship that you do not want to be in is causing stress. If it is causing the anxiety I do not know.

Have you ever had anxiety before? If you have anxiety, almost anything can bring it on. It is like your mind will find things for you be anxious about. Even if it is things that do not makes since.

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The Sherlockian 27 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Sounds like early stages of depression. You need to see a REAL doctor, not those quacks who send you home without having helped you. You may have a dopamine deficiency; if so, you need some medications to help you through this period.

Your feelings and symptoms are NOT normal . . . these are warning signs that something is wrong. Heed your body and see a doctor who specializes in treating depression.

Don’t put it off!

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shelle 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (47 minutes after post)

the thing about stress and anxiety is that when you worry/stress about them they become worse! I agree, go see a different doctor and ask for 2nd opinion and really think about if the relationship you’re in is right for you.

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Kaybaybay 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (59 minutes after post)

No, I’ve struggled with depression.
I did have an anxiety attack, when smoking weed (only smoked it once and never again)
and I can kind of think back to it & compare to the feeling I had somewhat.
But obviously under the influence of weed it obviously seems much worse.
and after that I NEVER touched weed again and had a bit of paranoia for a while..But thats about it.
Now all of a sudden, I’m getting these feelings…

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Kaybaybay 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

chev.jame wrote:
Sounds like early stages of depression. You need to see a REAL doctor, not those quacks who send you home without having helped you. You may have a dopamine deficiency; if so, you need some medications to help you through this period.

Your feelings and symptoms are NOT normal . . . these are warning signs that something is wrong. Heed your body and see a doctor who specializes in treating depression.

Don’t put it off!

I’ve been to the doctors.
They just tell me it’s stress and have referred me to a psychologist who specialises in anxiety,depression &stress..

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Kaybaybay 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

shelle wrote:
the thing about stress and anxiety is that when you worry/stress about them they become worse! I agree, go see a different doctor and ask for 2nd opinion and really think about if the relationship you’re in is right for you.

I’ve had a second opinion.
The first doctor was really caring and could tell that I was sort of depressed and said I should bright and cheerful as I am an attractive girl and I should be enjoying life.
That really made me want to help myself out as it is true.
But I feel like I’ve come a long way from depression.
I use to not want to interact. Not because I was scared or anything.
Just because I had no motivation. No energy, just plain down &out.
I realise I become like this when I feel like nobody is around me, I change friends a lot.

The second opinion…was just a minor hand check up and he listened to my heart which was all good.
so he just refered me to a Psychologist.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (2 weeks after post)

sound like all the pages of expert opion on depression and anxiety.. really should look more into that realtionship, sounds well not good.

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meltat8 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 2 months ago (4 weeks, 1 day after post)

I know exactly how you feel! I suffer from anxiety too and it causes problems in my relationship. i get the tingling hand and sometimes i get sharp pains in my hands and chest, have trouble sleeping and randomly cry. its so tough to deal with i used to take xanax for it and it helped a little. and as for the drinking, kindas like xanax, it helps calm you down when your upset theres nothing wrong with drinking every now and then we are young. with me and my boyfriend when i get all anxious we start fighting and its like he just doesnt understand. you just gotta think about what is right for you and if hes in it for the right reason. i dated a jerk for three years but i was so inlove with him that i let him treat me like crap and lost so many friends, it came to the point where i had no one and he would be out with his friends getting wasted and only come around for one thing.it took a new friend to point out how unhappy i was and i finally just broke it off, and eventually found the guy im with now. its hard to break up especially when you have been together so long but girl you deserve a better guy to treat you right, and it shouldnt matter what friends you have. i have anxiety and depression problems that come and go in waves, the only way i have been able to help it with out doctors is just try to stay possitive, and get rid of all the negativity around you, and you gotta surround yourself by people who love you and build you up

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edmcintyre 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 12 months ago (3 months, 2 weeks after post)

I think seeing a doctor would be very helpful, if you are depressed, getting treated will help that, and then when you are more clear headed you can decide if what you really want is to break up, and you will be able to carry through with it!

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