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Is my boyfriend taking me for granted?
We have been together for almost half a year, since we go to the same school and work in the same place we practically see each other everyday. Whenever we’re together everything feels fine, we never run out of stuff to talk about and we really enjoy each other’s company. But lately he would be telling me how we’ll spend the evening together, and later he would just text me and say that his guy friends invited him out to drink and just ditch our plan. I never EVER have problem with him having his boy outings, I wouldn’t even bother him for the entire evening if I knew beforehand that he’d be with his friends. I just cannot help but think that I’m becoming the second choice here, like when he finds something ‘more fun’ to do, he would ditch our plans immediately. That’s really not cool cuz that just leaves MY evening hanging sometimes when I was anticipating to spend time with him, and it’s even more upsetting when my girlfriends already have plans and I just sit home with nothing to do! I drive to his place all the time too cuz he has his own place and I don’t, and sometimes I would do his laundry for him cuz the laudromat at his apartment is always full. And yesterday when I call him for a short ride to school he didn’t even pick up and later called me and said that he was sleeping! All the sweet good-morning and good-night texts have stopped too. He always says that he loves me and how beautiful I am and how lucky he is to have me, but I just feel like I’m doing all the efforts in this relationship. Is it too much to ask him to let me know earlier if he’s gonna be hanging out with his friends? If not then how can I improve the situation and how it makes me feel??
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