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Dad met a woman in a chat room.

It moved from the chat rooms to emails, instant messages, and telephone texts. They have spoken for years this way. They have sent each other things in the mail through a third party. I’ve watched Dad over the years with this person. I’ve seen him go from happy to miserable. There came a time when he wanted to break it off with her, but he folds when a woman cries so the relationship continues. His relationship with this person has caused rifts in the tapestry of our family. He just doesn’t seem to know how to walk away. Every time he tries, he hears of how much she has given him and sacrificed for him. The guilt he feels compels him to continue on this path that is having adverse affects on his health. He has never met this woman, although she wants to make this online relationship a realization in real life. How do I get my Dad to face what this is doing to him? What this is doing to all of us? How do I get Dad to walk away?

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ticdoffus offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 minutes after post)

its his bed and he has to sleep in it now…

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bythewaydoll offline Verified User (3 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

ticdoffus wrote:
its his bed and he has to sleep in it now…

This is true, all you can do is talk to him and express your concearns but I doubt he will pay much attention. It is tough but you have to take a back seat and allow him to make is own mistakes. Amazingly, I have gone through the same thing, my dad was having an ‘online/telephone’ affair with a woman behind my mother’s back but I learned the hard way not to play with fire and keep out of it!

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vampireninjabunnie offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (28 minutes after post)

First off you need to know that your feelings completely valid. Everything a father does effects his children in some way. As far as what you should do that’s not so easy. You need to tell your father how you feel. Tell him the truth because sometimes people can’t see it for themselves. And stop pretending everything’s okay. I know that it seems like it’s the right thing to do but it isn’t. He needs to know that this is effecting you so deeply.

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2 years, 1 month ago (1 hour, 2 minutes after post)

He should let her know this isn’t working, not respond further to any of her communications, refuse and return her future gifts and hope like ell this really is a woman he’s communicating with …he’s never seen her? hmmm

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Always griffin offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (3 hours, 44 minutes after post)

Wow, stop the internet

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