Love help: I am researching love and lust and need help on the subject and do not know what to think, what do u guys think? - Help.com

There’s nothing wrong with lusting after a girl. That’s the whole point…. You want them because you find them attractive.

It sounds like you’re penalizing yourself for that… It’s normal to be attracted to them at first based on lust as you dont even know them or their personality, how could you love them?

I think you’re putting too much weight on “love”. You should be concerning yourself with meeting someone with some common interests who you can have fun with and make you laugh. When you find that and combine it with time you may find yourself in love, but don’t strive for it. Your goal should be to have fun.

I’ve found myself in a similar situation before and I’m not sure what I did to remedy it but I can promise it will work itself out. Some day you’re going to meet a girl and you will never have even realized a girl like her could be on the earth cause its almost like she was made for you, and you will be so happy.

Dating sucks, it’s a fact. But it’s all worth it once you get her.

Just get yourself out there, goto some parties, and dont penalize yourself for lusting - get in there and get ‘er done.

You’re really young yet, let things work themselves out, just try to have fun with your friends and make sure you get yourself out there. You arent gonna meet a girl you could love if you arent at the party that she’s at.

Right?

Hope this helps.

I think you have realized at an early age how empty lust can be. I don’t think there is much wrong here, just that you have become disillusioned by your own confusion of lust for love. You have reached a point where you want something deeper than lust, but on some level you are angery with yourself for being fooled. I say congradulations! Most people go through their whole lives and never see the difference. Now, let go of your anger and start to get to know girls on a deeper level. When you do this you will find someone you can truely love. Be willing to give it time, because most of the time love takes time. When you find it the hugging and kissing and all of those good things will be sooo muck better for you.

For you I have this advice…. Lust sometimes leads to love. Love is really, really, really hard to recognize…. I’m 17 too.

For KissesHugs0XOx I have THIS advice….. Shut up. People come here and open up for help… No strings (or insults) attached help. You’re just getting in the way.