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Totally crazy! Your only 16! Too much drama for someone your age.
These girls are probably nice girls but not emotionally mature enough for a real sustainable relationship, you can tell that by the irrational choices they have made.

You answer yourself this… How can someone who doesn’t love themselves be able to love someone else? And if they don’t love/like themselves how will they ever believe that you can love/like them?

And here’s the big secret about girls and bad guys….Girls are attracted to confidence the problem is that bad guys have an outward confidence that attracts a girl. It is the real inner confidence though that makes a guy able to sustain a real relationship.

You should just continue to be yourself and let them come to you. Don’t settle for second best and don’t think that girls want an ******* for a boyfriend. Be picky about who you see and set your own standards that they must live up to!

Question 1: girls are confusing. Once they have fallen for somebody they will typically stay fallen…even if the guy treats her badly. Typically girls in these situations are afraid to leave their significant other because they are afraid of change and loneliness. They delude themselves with ideas that maybe things will get better and consume their thoughts with the few good moments and try to ignore the bad regardless of how severe the bad really is.

Question 2: No S does not have the right to be jealous. You gave her a chance and she turned you down. That means she gave up all claims to you. Plus she still has a boyfriend. If she wants to be with you, she should have broken up with him. B’s obviously a jerk anyway. The point is that she didn’t. She has no right to be jealous if you are trying to make the mature decision and move on.

QUestion 2 part 2: You may have a chance but I doubt it and I wouldn’t dwell on it. First off, I would not pursue someone who has a boyfriend. No matter how much of a jerk B is, cheating is not the right way to go. Second, she seems a little crazy. She doesn’t know what she wants and until she grows the **** up and realizes what she is doing, I wouldn’t even bother. She says there is no chance and yet she tries to cheat with you. She won’t break up with B and yet she tries to emotionally destroy you girlfriend C. She sounds like an awful person and I would not give her a chance.

Last Question: yeah it’s crazy but that is what you expect from teenage drama. Never forget though that you have the choice to leave the situation and go find a better person and a better life for yourself. Throw away the drama, don’t let it consume you.

1. As a girl, I know that sometimes we fall for guys that seems like pyscho dirtbags, but sometimes they aren’t all that bad. But it sounds like S is still with him because that’s what she’s used to, she hasn’t known any different than that dirtbag. And sometimes the dirtbags start out nice and then get crazy. (I know this from experience)
2. S had no right to be jealous if she told you that nothing was ever going to happen between you two.
3. You might have a chance, but don’t try to get between them, it will only get ugly. And, judging by her jealous behavior, S is not sure who she wants to be with so just try to find someone else because I doubt she’ll make her mind up anytime soon. And you could do so much better than someone who is going to manipulate you like that.
4. Yeah it’s pretty crazy. Typical high school drama, except maybe a little crazier in this situation. I would just try to get away from the crazies and find some cool people that like to stay out of a lot of drama.