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get him on tape blackmailing you. or text, etc.. Call your local district attorney’s office to see if you could file charges. And then, when you talk with him, tell him that you are willing to press charges. He sounds young enough to maybe believe your threat and no one wants legal trouble. Blackmail is considered a felony in some states. Research it, talk to someone. And why would you like someone who obviously doesn’t care enough for you?

U have to stop letting people push you around. You are worth more than this.

And he needs to stop doing such disgusting things to other people. What is this, a reality show? Crazeee.

well, it’s admirable that you ar understanding. Ok, I hope it works out ok for all of you involved.

I have to go, very tired. night.

If he’s blackmailing you, he’s not your friend. I do not care what he is normally, no real friend would do that. He sounds more like someone to call an enemy.

Tell him you don’t care what he does with your secret, even if you do. If he tells people it will be embarrassing, but if he had nude pics of you, he would further blackmail you. Consider the options. He is a terrible friend.

I have to agree with zeroedin on this one. If you can’t trust him not to blackmail you, how could you trust him with a nude pic of you? And even if you knew for sure you could trust HIM, how could you know for sure it wouldn’t eventually fall into the wrong hands? You don’t keep dark secrets by minting more dark secrets. And by giving him a nude pic, you’d only give him more leverage to be a complete jerk if that is what he turns into. I hate to say it, but, people can change, especially when they start/stop taking mind-altering medications. Be very careful. I’ve seen this first hand, and it is not always pretty…

So, in other words, I urge you to call his bluff: IF HE WANTS TO HURT YOU BY REVEALING YOUR INTIMATE SECRET LET HIM. In doing so, he will also reveal what a titanic jerk he is, and his true feelings about how much he cares/doesn’t care for you as a person. Let him know you are uncomfortable being photo’d nude, creating a permanent record of your intimate and erotic landscape that could eventually leak to the world at large. AND, tell him that your decision has NOTHING TO DO with how much you love/care for him. If he still doesn’t get it, cry in front of him. If he cares about you, he will understand.

It doesnt matter how nice someone is. Have you ever heard of the nice man by day and the serial killer by night. PEOPLE ARE LIKE THAT… drop him if he screws with you anymore… no matter how much you care for him

If he makes the threat on Facebook, you can have his account banned. If the threat is in FB chat, do a screen capture (press the Print Screen button on your keyboard and an image of the screen is copied, then paste it into a word document), and send it as part of a report to Facebook.

Off his meds or not, don’t give into blackmail. If you thought him having a secret was bad, him having a nude picture of you is just something more he can use to blackmail you again. What do you think he’ll demand next time?

so what’s the lesson he was supposed to be teaching you?

that’s a pretty gross way of going about “teaching” you a lesson.

I have a hard time believing this was a lesson and he’s not just covering up for actually trying… Creep.

Yep. If you would’ve given him the picture, I doubt he would have refused it… ;P

I can just imagine him now “I’m sorry, but I can’t accept this pic… You were supposed to call the cops on me. You failed the lesson!!!”

But I agree with these guys. That’s pretty mean and I would reconsider his value as a friend if I were you.

There’s actually a part of manipulation theory where it is mentioned that oftentimes an excuse for it is that it “was a test.” Though I can’t find the description of that at the moment. Regardless of what he says about it, I would personally make him have to prove himself a lot to make up for it.

http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/…

The 7th part has always been an interesting thing for me to study. Manipulative people can often affect others’ emotions, and if they tried to many times they could make so many people feel better instead of worse, but their emotional integrity is too weak. Ah well, wasted potential =/