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Accepting my “hair”
How can I accept my hair? I’m in my early 20s, female, and I have really thin(ning?) hair. To make matters worse, it’s fine and straight. It shows that I have very little hair, and people make comments sometimes, without being asked! Like “Oh your pony tail is so thin!” or “Oh, you must save a lot on shampoo!”. This coming from grown ups! It’s very embarrassing. It’s genetic though, for as long as I can remember, I’ve had little hair, even being a teen. My mom and dad both have thin hair. My dad started going bald in his teens and my mom has always had little hair, ’cause my grandad was bald. It’s not something I can help. So I can only accept it.
Extensions, weaves and all are not an option, because I don’t have the kind of money to buy quality fake hair. And that’s the other thing. It’d be fake. I know, those things are made from human hair, but it’d still be fake, it wouldn’t be MY hair, it’d be somebody else’s. I don’t even wear fake eyelashes or padding in my bra, so fake hair is out of the question, although I will probably have to go down that route when I get older.
But right now I can only accept my “hair”. It’s healthy and shiny and all, but I just have a little amount of it. The problem is I can’t wear it short because it doesn’t suit my face, also because I have a trauma since my mom made me wear it short as a girl and everyone told me I looked like a boy. I also wish I had other striking features to highlight and distract people from my hair, but I don’t have them, I’m quite plain. I know this sounds like a non issue to some, and that I sound shallow and vain and insecure, whatever, but it really can hurt a person’s self esteem, especially a woman’s. Guys can just go bald when all else fails, but that’s not an option for most women, as it’s still considered “weird” and “crazy”. Women are not “supposed” to go bald or have few hair when they’re as young as I am! Women are associated with beauty, so yes, this causes some distress for me. That’s why I need help.
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