Love help: I’m about to move in with my boyfriend and I am really nervous. - Help.com

Just take it 1 day at a time. It’s not always easy, but you adapt and learn each others habits. What are you specifically scared of?

Remember to always be yourself and don’t change yourself for him. If he doesn’t love you for you he’s not worth it but I’m sure you’ll be fine :) Good luck!

Well you’ll be seeing each other more than you do now, I don’t think being busy will b too much of a problem. Just be yourself and talk to him if you have any issues with the living arrangements rather than keeping it inside. Don’t be scared! Yeah you’ll fight more often but that will bring you closer in the end :))

LoveDemon wrote:
I’m just scared he’s not going to like living with me, we’re going to fight more often, he’s going to feel neglected because i am a very busy person, our living environment becoming too stressful and causes us to break up. I don’t know, haha, just crap like that. I’ve never lived with a boyfriend before.

You know what? You’re right. You will fight more often, he won’t like living with you.

You know why? Because you spend all your time predicting horrible things in the future instead of focusing on enjoying the present. That kind of self-centred neuroticism and insecurity is a huge turn-off and it’s going to create all kinds of problems.

So why don’t you focus on changing your attitude instead of freaking out and creating a self-fulfilling prophecy?

LoveDemon wrote:
I’m just scared he’s not going to like living with me, we’re going to fight more often, he’s going to feel neglected because i am a very busy person, our living environment becoming too stressful and causes us to break up. I don’t know, haha, just crap like that. I’ve never lived with a boyfriend before.

Aww. I remember feeling that way with the first person I moved in with. We did fight more and she did feel neglected, unfortunately. But…we learned to cope with things and we both began to understand each other better. There’s always going to be good times and bad times, and I know it’s hard, but even if the stress did cause you guys to split, it would be for the best, right? That just means he’s not the right guy for you. Otherwise you’ll adapt. If you can work together and you both love each other, there’s not much that will phase your relationship.

For the past six years or more ive been living on my own but i cannot do it financially anymore and i don’t work so ive decided to move in his house to see if
would work im very nervous that it might not work out because he’s been on his
own and very comfortable with he’s lifestyle do you think i should do it or think
about it more i don’t know what im getting into i do know that i do care about him and always did would moving in bring us closer please help.

Are you going to respond back to me.

aww sandraweber23. Some people don’t log on that much here :/ But if you still need help, make a new post, silly :D That way people will come in and help. It’s hard to find answers if your question is tagged onto another post.

But I think you’ll be fine. It’s going to be different, but just keep communication open! Keep talking about how you feel and make sure he talks about how he feels too. But I wouldn’t move in just because you’re not financially independent. I think you should be able to live on your own. This way, if something were to go wrong in your relationship, you wouldn’t be in a bad situation.

Yes, it will bring you closer together, but it will also highlight your differences. You will have to make sure compromise happens and it’s fair to both of you. If you can do that, then you have 0 things to worry about!

Good lucky:D