Feel help: I really think that I have a fear of success. - Help.com

Yes, it is something I can so relate to.

I’m worried I will [adversely] change when I get ’successful’
I’m worried I will not be able to handle myself when I get ’successful’
I’m worried I will lose value for the everyday people I have in my life

I’m worried someone will hold my family as my vulnerable point if I become rich [feels extremely stupid to say this, but honestly, I remember reading in the newspapers about rich business people’s children kidnapped for ransom, sometimes returned alive, sometimes untraceable, sometimes found dead]

This last one is SO irrational and yet I recall reading this in the newspapers and feeling scared and talking to myself [almost a decade back!] that ‘if THIS is what happens to the rich, I’m happier being an average someone, at least I won’t have all these worries and fears’

Your question brought to surface some things/thoughts I had when I was SO much younger. And yet, as I look within now, I see it still has some sort of a grip on me. Though I never paid much heed to it for years and years.

Small wonder [perhaps] that I’m highly respected in every place that I have worked, yet that ’success’ ‘achiever’ thing is not mine yet.

Thanks a lot for your post. You have brought out something I need to pray about. There are so many things in which I need to sort myself…

What are your thoughts around this?

There is no such thing as a fear of success we all want success, its failure we fear and avoid taking chances because of it.