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hitting in a relationship is wrong, and should not be ignored, put up with, or swept under the rug.

if you are being hit, kicked, punched, swore at, made to feel like rubbish, being put down by the person who is supposed to love you?..

and the person who is supposed to love you, does those things, & no matter what you say or do, it never stops, or goes away?

they just keep on hurting you time after time, making out how its your fault, or ‘you need to get your head sorted’ or simlar things.

then that is not normal, and should not be put up with..as I have been there myself.. not so long ago.

as from 2005 - 2009, my ex boyfriend did those things to me, made me feel like i was the one in the wrong, I was mental, and so on.

he also stopped me from ‘being me’, stopped me from seeing my friends, wearing make-up, socializing with firends, cooking for myself, everything that is normal, was taken away from me, and so i wasn’t myself anymore.

this went on for years, and yes, you may think i was daft for staying so long with him, but love is blind.. and so thats why it was so hard for me to leave him. ( even though i didnt love him anymore, as he was so horrid to me)

anyway, in 2009, after much thinking, I desided to leave him, and it was the best move, i’d ever made.

yes it was hard, and i’m not saying it was easy,
but once your away from all that, the hurt, lies and hitting, you start feeling much better, and start coming out of that protective shell you put up around yourself.

and as I sit here typing this message, for all to see,
I’m happy, i’m ‘me’ again, I have become all i ever wanted to be,

best thing is, i’m not being hit anymore, and I found a great guy by chance at a party, who worships the ground i walk on, and is loving, caring and all those good things.

that when I look back to back then, and see a scared young woman, being hit and putting up with it, i wish i could have gone back in time, now, and say…

you only have one life, get away from that awful relationship, be yourself, and be happy, as he will never stop hitting you.. and I was right..

as his new gf is being treated how i was, as he’ll never change, no matter what you say or do, or what he says or does..

he’ll always hit you, even tho he may say, i wont do it again, we all know he will.

so get out now, while your still able, and you’ll be alot happier and better off.

even go back to your parents/family/friends.. as its better than being with a guy/girl like that.

trust me, as i’ve been there.

hope this helps, from Raven. x

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emma45 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years ago (23 minutes after post)

i agree i just had my ex locked up for punching

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DarkSnow offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (38 minutes after post)

Indeed. I’m glad your life improved a lot since then. The way I see it as well, if a person loves you, why should they treat you so much worse than a friend or even a random stranger would?

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emma45 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years ago (44 minutes after post)

i know if you love the person you shouldn’t hurt them

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

thank you for you post. your story is one that needs to be heard so that other women can perhaps learn from it and hopefully avoid making harmful mistakes by learning from the examples of others. thank you fro sharing.

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