:/ It depends how in love she was with him. There’s no telling. But be careful. You don’t wanna be the rebound & nothing more.
x_glitter wrote:
:/ It depends how in love she was with him. There’s no telling. But be careful. You don’t wanna be the rebound & nothing more.
Yep it depends I’m afraid just be patient, dont pressure her and be fun to hang out with
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Well you tell her that for one and prove it to her :)
But just be there your an amazingly nice guy :)
Honest and good cherish her and heck it will be awsome :)
x_glitter wrote:
:/ It depends how in love she was with him. There’s no telling. But be careful. You don’t wanna be the rebound & nothing more.
actually she said that, that she didn’t want me to be a rebound, but I’m curious because she was laughing the whole time, granted the loss of a 4 year relation has it’s effect. But she told me that her mind hasn’t gone back to that state where she’s looking for a boyfriend. So I guess you guys are right, I’m just going to have to wait.
I really like her though, so I’m going to be there for her as much as I can!
red1263 wrote:
x_glitter wrote:
:/ It depends how in love she was with him. There’s no telling. But be careful. You don’t wanna be the rebound & nothing more.
actually she said that, that she didn’t want me to be a rebound, but I’m curious because she was laughing the whole time, granted the loss of a 4 year relation has it’s effect. But she told me that her mind hasn’t gone back to that state where she’s looking for a boyfriend. So I guess you guys are right, I’m just going to have to wait.
I really like her though, so I’m going to be there for her as much as I can!
Oh definitely wait - she seems really nice - she could have gone ahead and used you but she was upfront - hear her when she says shes not ready for a relationship right now.
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red1263 wrote:
x_glitter wrote:
:/ It depends how in love she was with him. There’s no telling. But be careful. You don’t wanna be the rebound & nothing more.
actually she said that, that she didn’t want me to be a rebound, but I’m curious because she was laughing the whole time, granted the loss of a 4 year relation has it’s effect. But she told me that her mind hasn’t gone back to that state where she’s looking for a boyfriend. So I guess you guys are right, I’m just going to have to wait.
I really like her though, so I’m going to be there for her as much as I can!
Oh definitely wait - she seems really nice - she could have gone ahead and used you but she was upfront - hear her when she says shes not ready for a relationship right now.
heh heh, it’s not something I’m proud of, but I can be a good friend, especially to girls, problem is that most of them see that as my advancements and develop feelings for me. Now in this particular case, it’s what I’m hoping for :P!
red1263 wrote:
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red1263 wrote:
x_glitter wrote:
:/ It depends how in love she was with him. There’s no telling. But be careful. You don’t wanna be the rebound & nothing more.
actually she said that, that she didn’t want me to be a rebound, but I’m curious because she was laughing the whole time, granted the loss of a 4 year relation has it’s effect. But she told me that her mind hasn’t gone back to that state where she’s looking for a boyfriend. So I guess you guys are right, I’m just going to have to wait.
I really like her though, so I’m going to be there for her as much as I can!
Oh definitely wait - she seems really nice - she could have gone ahead and used you but she was upfront - hear her when she says shes not ready for a relationship right now.
heh heh, it’s not something I’m proud of, but I can be a good friend, especially to girls, problem is that most of them see that as my advancements and develop feelings for me. Now in this particular case, it’s what I’m hoping for :P!
hehehe a case of sods law eh? Well keep on working that magic and you never know! You certainly got that midas touch when it comes to relationships! You should bottle it ! I’d be your first customer!
Just be a friend, Red, and be yourself. She WILL most probably develop feelings for you. You just have to be patient. I’m sure you can do that… :) I think you’ve got all it takes… and more. :) That’s all I’ll say. She’s a lucky girl. :)
♥♡ML♡♥ wrote:
Just be a friend, Red, and be yourself. She WILL most probably develop feelings for you. You just have to be patient. I’m sure you can do that… :) I think you’ve got all it takes… and more. :) That’s all I’ll say. She’s a lucky girl. :)
Heh, thanks ML. That’s really helpful.
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red1263 wrote:
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red1263 wrote:
x_glitter wrote:
:/ It depends how in love she was with him. There’s no telling. But be careful. You don’t wanna be the rebound & nothing more.
actually she said that, that she didn’t want me to be a rebound, but I’m curious because she was laughing the whole time, granted the loss of a 4 year relation has it’s effect. But she told me that her mind hasn’t gone back to that state where she’s looking for a boyfriend. So I guess you guys are right, I’m just going to have to wait.
I really like her though, so I’m going to be there for her as much as I can!
Oh definitely wait - she seems really nice - she could have gone ahead and used you but she was upfront - hear her when she says shes not ready for a relationship right now.
heh heh, it’s not something I’m proud of, but I can be a good friend, especially to girls, problem is that most of them see that as my advancements and develop feelings for me. Now in this particular case, it’s what I’m hoping for :P!
hehehe a case of sods law eh? Well keep on working that magic and you never know! You certainly got that midas touch when it comes to relationships! You should bottle it ! I’d be your first customer!
Sods law? I was thinking Murphy’s Law :P! As I recall, Midas not only hated having the Midas touch, he was greedy and rather heartless…. So I see what you think of me now -_-
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Perhaps start things slowly. As you’ve said, she’s not back at the stage where she can start dating again, so start building up your relationship. If you do it right, then when she does decide to let a guy back into her life, you’ll already be high up on the list.
Being a good man is simple. Be honest, open comforting all that stuff. Just be yourself really :P Going into some basic psychology here (which I give you a 2% accuracy guarantee on) after breakups I would expect people to go through some self doubt. Why would they want to break up, what did they do wrong ect. I know I would, and I’ve heard of other people doing that too. So perhaps a few small compliments here and there wouldn’t go amiss. It would make her feel more confident about herself and will make her view of you better.
On an unrelated note, wow I’m typing loads for replies today 0.o
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I wouldn’t know how long it would take> However, if it’s worth it, you’d just put whatever effort into it that is required for how much benefit you’d gain, and work at it as long as it takes, eh?
And I imagine you’d want to show how you are different from that other guy. As one example, text message to talk to someone about something important? Haha. Be open, be understanding, give her space but keep her close (or something similarly sappy =P), and all around demonstrate the way you are. Over time the two of you will understand each other better and then your relationship will change slightly or drastically, depending on what the understanding is ^^
4 years? Gulp… That is a tough one. Of course some girls come off of a long relationship and then suddenly marry someone else immediately. I have seen this happen quite a few times. I always wondered if they were cheating with that person or just ready to marry after dating so long or what???
DarkSnow wrote:
I wouldn’t know how long it would take> However, if it’s worth it, you’d just put whatever effort into it that is required for how much benefit you’d gain, and work at it as long as it takes, eh?
And I imagine you’d want to show how you are different from that other guy. As one example, text message to talk to someone about something important? Haha. Be open, be understanding, give her space but keep her close (or something similarly sappy =P), and all around demonstrate the way you are. Over time the two of you will understand each other better and then your relationship will change slightly or drastically, depending on what the understanding is ^^
Yeah, I’m still going to try and be a friend to her, and (based on my experience) they develop feelings for me XP jk jk! In all seriousness, I plan to pursue her, so if that means that I must be a friend, then so be it. After all, you can’t spell “Boyfriend” without “Friend”
Dr. Ralph wrote:
4 years? Gulp… That is a tough one. Of course some girls come off of a long relationship and then suddenly marry someone else immediately. I have seen this happen quite a few times. I always wondered if they were cheating with that person or just ready to marry after dating so long or what???
lol I don’t know if I was completely oblivious to it all, but I never knew nor had anything close to an inkling that she was in a relationship ^_^;; Well we’re both still pretty young (and we’re aware of that too!) so I highly doubt marriage is in the near future.
I don’t have much experience which dating and stuff, but as i have been betrayed and hard to trust guys, I feel if you will stay patient and just assure her that you are always there for her and she may take as much time as she wants, i guess she will get over her previous relationship sooner than forcing her to come close to you as she may doubt lots of things and feel insecure.
So all i think is that be patient, let her know that you like/love her a lot, she will trust you and the relationship will get smooth because she knows she has the time and comfort to be with you.
cathetel wrote:
I don’t have much experience which dating and stuff, but as i have been betrayed and hard to trust guys, I feel if you will stay patient and just assure her that you are always there for her and she may take as much time as she wants, i guess she will get over her previous relationship sooner than forcing her to come close to you as she may doubt lots of things and feel insecure.
So all i think is that be patient, let her know that you like/love her a lot, she will trust you and the relationship will get smooth because she knows she has the time and comfort to be with you.
Let’s just hope that she doesn’t take too long, otherwise I might think that it’s just not going to work. But if she asks me to wait for her, I will.
Yeah i hope the same, after being with the wrong guy maybe she won’t take long to he comfortable in your arms, so patience can work here to win her faith back.
All the best!
Well I have a Hypothesis:
What if this “Got out of a Relationship” is just a farce and she’s not interested in me?
I ask the women, would you use this as a reason to let a guy down easy?
well yeah honestly that reason can be an excuse….but it may also be true that she is interested in you but needs some time.
I guess if she takes soooo long then it might be just an excuse.
cathetel wrote:
well yeah honestly that reason can be an excuse….but it may also be true that she is interested in you but needs some time.
I guess if she takes soooo long then it might be just an excuse.
It’s a lil suspicious because I never knew she was in a relationship, much less one for 4 years. So I asked a couple of friends whether it can just be an excuse, and as sad as it seems, it might be that.
Hmm. Interesting. Why not ask her about it? ^^ I have trouble understanding why someone would have to lie like that. Personally, if I was talking to someone, I hope they would know I’d be fine with what they were saying to me and wouldn’t take offense. This on the other hand, would be a bit annoying.
DarkSnow wrote:
Hmm. Interesting. Why not ask her about it? ^^ I have trouble understanding why someone would have to lie like that. Personally, if I was talking to someone, I hope they would know I’d be fine with what they were saying to me and wouldn’t take offense. This on the other hand, would be a bit annoying.
Well on our hang out thing on Thurs, I’ll ask her about it. To see whether she’s honest or another candidate for the Past.
Congratulations on a successful ability to find possible difficulties and use them to weed out candidates so quickly? I don’t know, seems tough Red, I feel for ya =/ I hope it goes well =)
DarkSnow wrote:
Congratulations on a successful ability to find possible difficulties and use them to weed out candidates so quickly? I don’t know, seems tough Red, I feel for ya =/ I hope it goes well =)
One of the few things that get to me is simply lying to me. If you lie to me, then I have less and less reason to trust you, if there’s no trust, how can there be love?
All I ask of people is to simply speak the truth, whether or not you’re vulgar, crude, or just plain direct, telling me the harsh truth is far better than a silk-lined lie.
I will pray that the best happens for you, not what you want ,but what is right for you that brings happiness and Love you way :D
I agree wholeheartedly with that. Truth is an awesome thing.
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