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well. i have trouble socializing in general, i actually made a post about it today but no one seems interested in helping. but most people like to talk. and i mean talk about absolutely anything. i dont mean you should ramble for 3 hours about eggs and toast, just try at act calm, and don’t be afraid of silences. silence is ok.
but break up those silences by listening to the voices that i know are always running around in your head. thats your brain talking to you. now all you gotta do is open your mouth and let your brain talk to them. remember it is easier to talk about something you know about.
conversation can happen naturally, just start with “have you been up to anything interesting lately?” let her say stuff. then make a mental note to ask her about one of the things she just said. then ask about another thing she just said. maybe the conversation will die, but if it does then just let it.
then, “hey the sunset looks cool” or “omg look a horse.” or maybe “
asking questions is a great way to converse with someone you dont know yet. but its her parents, they probably already understand that you dont really want to be there. :)

“So then, what is it you fine folks do for a living? Really? How do you go about that? Any interesting stories you’ve experienced on the job? I am (or not) sure what I want to do for a career yet but I like doing (insert hobbies) things. Here are the reasons why. By the way, you’ve got a beautiful daughter and all that. I care about her a lot. Any funny stories from her childhood you’d like to share? I’d like to see the look on her face when I tell her that!”

And if your perplexed at the strange silence and can’t think of anything else…

“Anyhow, do you mind if we listen to some music while we’re traveling? It helps me relax. I like (insert music) songs and how about you then? Should be able to find a station we both enjoy on this bloody thing.”

And so forth….

try looking at it from a different point of view: do you want your girlfriend hanging out with these two old people all the time? maybe they’re democrats or something.

are you the one driving? maybe it’s just me but driving and nervousness don’t mix. if i have to do both i try to listen to their crap more than talk about mine, i find it more distracting anyway. so obviously i ask lots of open ended questions and let them yap. if you’re not driving, converse w/ whichever parent isn’t more than the other. don’t force it either, saying nothing is better than stuttering or stumbling over your words.

be honest… try your best to keep things with a natural flow.. but if the awkward silence comes.. tell them your nervous, or somewhat shy for the most part.. tell them you like their daughter a lot and that you are worried about giving the wrong impression, so forgive you for any awkwardness.. you might find they feel much the same and the mood will lift and the conversation will flow ;-) good luck