life help: I’m completely happy in life, I have a great husband and anything I want. - Help.com

muhakma wrote:
I think you should do whatever makes you happy, If that is being with your husband right now then by all means. Just try to find balance like maybe when he goes out. then you could work on music. something like that.

So far I’ve been doing just that. I’ve always felt obligated to work on my music more. I guess it goes back to my dad who got me to start working on a band and helped me get to recording producers. He use to push so hard and I know he did it because he knew I could be great but we had other problems usually about his controlling of me. I couldn’t see it then, but he use to manipulate me, such things such as I was never punished, he just had to make me feel bad and I would basically punish myself. So maybe instead of being content in my happiness, I’m using that old voice, “You need to be practicing!”

gimli wrote:
Give up the things you want NOW for the things you want the most. \

Wow thanks! A great way to look at it. Here recently I’ve been living for the moment which has been amazingly fun! But, I don’t want any regrets. I don’t wanna say, “Man, I wish…” later. I know I could use more balance because I don’t wanna be just the good wife and good friend. I’ve always wanted to do something big.

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muhakma wrote:
I think you should do whatever makes you happy, If that is being with your husband right now then by all means. Just try to find balance like maybe when he goes out. then you could work on music. something like that.

Thanks for the advice. It makes me feel better about doing what I want. I probably shouldn’t feel bad about it anyway. Maybe my dad still working on me.

I always would watch those movies where their love for each other was the biggest thing in their life. and that’s great I always thought it was romantic and sweet, but in reality I’ve always wanted that plus something more.

There are a bunch of things that I would rather do than my music. Not that I don’t love love love it when I get to singing. I think it’s mainly because I never really loved to record that much, but I tolerated it. Now that I don’t have any band members or any friends who play, and all I’m doing is working on my songwriting, that’s all I have left to do is to record. But I have awesome recording equipment that my husband bought for me that’s more professional than any I’ve ever messed with! So I partially feel bad that I don’t use it more. I should balance more, but I would love to have more friends that would play or to have a place to play. I like to sing at open mic night on Wednesday at the Log On Cafe in Beaumont, guess I should do that again.