Love help: My boyfriend of two years told me he doesn’t love me. - Help.com

For me i can´t see the solid foundation of a good healthy relationship atm. Might be worth while to have a good talk to figure out where you both stand in it all.

Sometimes one can work things out but other times we need other teachers in our lives to give us the lessons we need.
This relation seems to be fallen victim of habit and that´s not a good ting. Change is needed but as said, talk tou your partner and figure out what the both of you should do with it all.

Best of luck to you.

Yep talk to him. Tell him how your feeling, but if you are still not feeling the love after that move on and make yourself available to someone who can love you. This guys just using you as a maid. After 2 years if theres no love, then whats the point? You may feel like “but I invested 2 years”, but I ask you does that mean you want to spend another 50 with someone who cant love you?…Now it sounds like he is just biding his time until someone he feels is better comes along. Wouldn’t that devastate you? Best to have that talk with him, and if he can’t give you what you need. Leave.

I feel love, he doesn’t. I brought up the subject a couple of weeks ago and he told me he feels like i’m pressuring him and giving him an ultimatum. Then was onery with me the rest of the day. Isn’t two years long enough for a man to decide whether he loves his girlfriend or not?

Anonymous;

If you were married to this guy for ten years had two kids with him, a house and ect, ect; I would tell you to work on your relationship and try to give you some good advice on how to do that.

But with your situation being what it is; I can only tell you to get out and cut your losses now. Life is not going to get any better on your current path for a long time. Sure “maybe” if you put in a tremendous amount effort and wait a long time “maybe” … “maybe” … he might come around. But that’s a big maybe: hell it would be a big maybe if he had larger incentives, like not wanting to loss his kids or house; but for your situation it’s an enormous “maybe”.

Really and truly what you need to do is leave him as soon as possible. Your young and you should not have to put in a tremendous amount effort with such little guaranty of a return.

Now I know that’s easier said than done; especially since I’m guessing you love him. But again your young at 25 you can’t risk being unhappy for the next 70 years because you didn’t get out now when it was easiest … and believe me the longer you stay the harder it gets to leave once you decided to.

I’ve been thinking about cutting my losses for a long time now. I’ll have a place available to move to in a month or two. He knows i’m going to move out, but he doesn’t know i’m planning on breaking up with him as well. The move was supposed to help our money situation. This is my idea and I know he thinks it will be better cause he will have to pay even less attention to me and won’t have to pay for my food intake. I’m done with the situation. Thanks for the advice guys. Other opinions are still welcome.

I don’t think your erstwhile boyfriend is ready for a serious relationship with any woman.

My only real question is, “Why are you still sitting around this guy?”

And, yes, a guy should definitely know within a couple of years if he loves a woman or not.

This guy is living in his own little world of video games and isn’t ready to come out and play in the real world.

It’s not you. It’s this guy. Only jerks tell women that they love them, and then recant their professions of love. Your erstwhile boyfriend is a jerk–and after two years, he can no longer keep up the facade of being anything other than a selfish, immature little jerk.

He’s taken you to dinner–what, five times? Yes, he really shows appreciation, doesn’t he?

Leave this guy so fast that his head will swim. He will try to get you back after you leave. Don’t listen to him. Find a gentleman out there, and resolve to not waste any more time with jerks!

dragon8princes wrote:
I feel love, he doesn’t. I brought up the subject a couple of weeks ago and he told me he feels like i’m pressuring him and giving him an ultimatum. Then was onery with me the rest of the day. Isn’t two years long enough for a man to decide whether he loves his girlfriend or not?

Yes thats what I mean you feel love but you are not feeling love coming from him. Two years is definitely long enough to know how you feel about some one. But ask yourself this, if a guy is telling you after 6 months he does not love you, why do you think this would change and why did you stay? You are running around after this guy like your his maid. I think you have self respect and confidence issues.

❤Phoenix Queen❤ wrote:
Yep talk to him. Tell him how your feeling…

Best to have that talk with him, and if he can’t give you what you need. Leave.

The time for talk is over! He doesn’t want to talk about, and more importantly, to LISTEN to any talk about love. He gets what he needs on one level and even he knows it’s not enough. Two years and he plays video games continually and has only taken you out to eat 5 times? This behavior can only get worse if you marry him.

Follow these directions: Underneath one of the arms of the sofa (the end where you sit, not him), if you lift up the padding you will find a red button with a little Plexiglas cover on it. It’s marked “boyfriend eject button”. Flip up the cover and firmly press the button. Then call a company to repair the boyfriend-shaped hole in the ceiling and roof.

Life Lesson No. 14: It takes the love of two people to make a meaningful relationship. No one person can love enough for two people. If you love, but are not loved back, then you do not have a true love. And if you settle for less than a true love, your life will be unfulfilled and you will never receive the love that you deserve.

You are awesome Sans. Lol. That sounds like a great idea. But I would have to do it while he is in my car, as the house belongs to him.

Sans Unleashed wrote:

❤Phoenix Queen❤ wrote:
Yep talk to him. Tell him how your feeling…

Best to have that talk with him, and if he can’t give you what you need. Leave.

The time for talk is over! He doesn’t want to talk about, and more importantly, to LISTEN to any talk about love. He gets what he needs on one level and even he knows it’s not enough. Two years and he plays video games continually and has only taken you out to eat 5 times? This behavior can only get worse if you marry him.

Follow these directions: Underneath one of the arms of the sofa (the end where you sit, not him), if you lift up the padding you will find a red button with a little Plexiglas cover on it. It’s marked “boyfriend eject button”. Flip up the cover and firmly press the button. Then call a company to repair the boyfriend-shaped hole in the ceiling and roof.

looool too true! Leave him, hes already sucked you in for two years - dont be his sucka for any longer.

dragon8princes wrote:
You are awesome Sans. Lol. That sounds like a great idea. But I would have to do it while he is in my car, as the house belongs to him.

lol thanks. Forgot to add, very important.. don’t confuse the “boyfriend eject” button with the “boyfriend ejacu****” button (located you know where), as this would only delay the inevitable break-up.

Find a place to live. Pack. Move out.

And don’t look back!

lmao!!

I have found a place to live, but it won’t be available for another almost 2 months. I’ve already begun packing though. Small, unnoticed things. Only my own things of course though. :)

Find a girlfriend to put up with you for two months . . . and leave. It’s the only way to maintain your self-respect.

REINDERR???? sorry if this is not the most beautiful reinderr…I have a best friend that is in a very similar almost exact situation. moving on is a really good idea. you have passion and aspiration for better things in your heart. he is a worker bee…a drone perhaps. somebody will love you–the moment they set eyes on you maybe…but sounds like this man doesnt deserve the BEST YEARS OF YOUR LIFE. good luck sweets. xoxo