Feel help: I can’t be the only person that is completely terrified of turning into their parents. - Help.com

i feel the same way, my mother was a drunk, she has issues, a lot of my behaviour is the same as her’s, unfortuanatly, my father says things like, ‘you’re goinna turn into you mum’ or ‘you’re behaving just like your mother’ i hope you could talk to your family and they would be supportive x

You deserve to be happy. We all do. When we were babies and looking out of our cribs at this strange thing called the world, no one asked us if we wanted to be here, or if we wanted to live lives of mediocrity. It’s the world that’s tainted, not you. If life is worth living, it’s worth living fully.

i just thing that genetics mess things up, we didn’t ask for our parents either.

I never really worried (per say) about becoming my parents. Although I certainly learned from their mistakes and I try my hardest not to repeat them.

My opinion, of course, but I think that becoming one’s parents isn’t really the issue. We will have their genes, so to some degree we are already a part of them. The issue is that we see something we don’t like and then don’t wish to become like that. Be specific in what you don’t like and then see what it would take to change that. Its okay to be similar to one’s parents in certain areas and there is a cord or a tie that happens because parents are symbols of survival. Even if a person keeps a “trait” that they do not like from their parents, usually its the attempt at keeping that person alive in their own mind or universe. Once a person no longer wishes to keep the ties and connections, then its easier to change decisions as to how to be. But if the person wants to keep the ties there (even if its a secret to themselves) it will be more difficult to let go of those areas they dislike.
Best thing is to look at what you do not like about someone else and decide not to be like that. However, you can also look at what you do like about that person and decide its okay to love that person for the areas you do like and leave that as the tie. If parents are so abusive and hateful and you have somewhere else you can go, then cutting ties would be a good thing and changing one’s life one step at a time would be a good thing.
The above is only an opinion :).