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I’m 18 years old and I am in my first year of university.

I’ve never had a boyfriend and I haven’t even been out on a date. Until recently my life has been pretty much drama free. Now there are three guys in my life. I am friends with all three of them.
The first guy is two years older and is such a player. I get along with him great and everything and we hang out but he is not the guy for me. My friends think he likes me as more than a friend and they don’t trust him one bit. There have been rumors going around that the two of us are dating and the rumors don’t seem to bother him one bit. In fact, when they started he just confirmed them so people would stop asking and I had to go around telling everyone the truth. One time when a bunch of us went out for lunch between classes we ended up being late for class. I had to wait around for my bill and everyone else had already left and he was finished but he waited around and told me that he wanted to walk in late with me so people would talk. When we walked into class together he was real smug and announced his arrival by saying “Hey everyone!” One night when a bunch of my friends were out my girlfriend told me to stay away from him and told me to stop flirting with him. I didn’t think I was flirting but according to her I was. At one point he overheard my friend telling me to stay away from him and he confronted her about it and she ended up asking him what his intentions were. He told her that he wasn’t sure. That whole night he kept putting his arm around me and he kept touching my leg underneath the table. I told him how I felt about the rumors and he told me not to worry about what other people think. The thing is, it’s hard not to when the school we go to is a brand new campus with only 125 students. Everyone is in everyone’s business and people thinking there is something going on between the two of us is not good when I like one of my other friends.
The second guy is the complete opposite from the first guy. He’s a year older than me and he has such an amazing personality. I really like him and when I picture that one guy who’s perfect for me I picture him. He’s a lot more reserved than the first guy. He’s not cocky whatsoever and he has so many good qualities that I admire. We have the exact same schedule and are in all of the same classes. In one of our classes we were partners and had to discuss risk. He told me if there is a chance of something going wrong he won’t do it. He doesn’t seem like the type of guy to ask a girl out even if he did like her. He’s a little shy and he sometimes comes off as though he is insecure with his appearance. My friends and I are going out for dinner and bowling and I invited him along. It is going to be the two of us and two of my friends that he also knows from school and their boyfriends. I’m worried about it. I know that it’s not a huge deal and that I should just be myself and have fun but it’s pretty much the closes thing I’ve ever had to a date. I want him to know that I like him but I also don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable and I’m not too sure how to let him know how I feel.
The third guy is seven years older than me and he is a nice guy but I just want to be his friend and it is pretty clear that he wants more. He asked me if I had a Valentine and when I told him I didn’t he told me that he’d be my Valentine. He ended up buying me chocolate and ever since then it almost feels as if he thinks we are dating. He invited me to go away with him for the weekend to meet his friends but I told him that I was busy. He’s always asking me what I am up to and inviting me places. I was going to go out with a bunch of friends from school and he found out and asked me what time I wanted to be picked up at. I ended up changing my plans because of the weather and each time he wants to hang out I always come up with some kind of excuse. I’ve ran out of excuses so I told him I’d going skiing with him but I invited along two of our friends just so he wouldn’t get the impression that it was a date.
I really like the second guy and I’m not sure how to let him know. The other two guys are making it very difficult for me. I really like the other two guys as friends but I’m not sure how to get that message across. I really need advice on how to handle this situation.

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