Get away from them.
Than try to grow and forgive and forget.
I tried to forgive without forgetting my aunt for abusing me i realize its pointless. If i keep remembering i will always want to pay her kindness back twice what she used to do to me.
You’re out of high school aren’t you?
~Empress~Hazel Nut wrote:
Get away from them.
Than try to grow and forgive and forget.
I tried to forgive without forgetting my aunt for abusing me i realize its pointless. If i keep remembering i will always want to pay her kindness back twice what she used to do to me.
But these people are my immediate family, and 2 of them are retards (literally) and they’re unaware of what the consequences of their actions are, another is just plain ignorant, and refuses to see things from another perspective. I cannot simply leave these people nor do I want to, Family ties are very important to me.
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How can I rid myself of this anger?
I’ve found myself feeling a great anger towards my brothers when they do something they should not have, when I am offended, I find myself imagining beating them until permanently disabled or dead.
For years I thought I’ve let the past go, their mistakes and transgressions, but now, the memories keep coming back. Granted, I have enough control to not lash out over a simple quarrel, but the problem is still there…
And I’m concerned that one day, someone will push me further than I can take and I’ll quite literally explode on them.
So I beg the question: What can I do to rid myself of this anger/wrath that lies deep within me?
Once you find your own inner peace I think others will not anger you this much.
You will not wish for others to control you to this negative point. There will always be those that like to push our buttons but if we can learn to ignore you may find they may back off, for they are not getting the response they want from you.
In the meantime, you could always try a punching bag, run fast, or punch into a heap of pillows. . . anything that is not harmful towards you or anyone else. I know it may sound corny, but at least give it a try. Peace to you, EGx
Vanished wrote:
I have found that exercise is a great way to rid yourself of rage but the underlying issue/s will still be there.
At some point you need to talk out the reasons you are upset with your brothers or anyone else that enrages you.
Very true. i feel the same. It feels great exercising
P.S - surround yourself with the White Light, not Red!
EarthGoddess wrote:
P.S - surround yourself with the White Light, not Red!
Lol i believe she does have a point. White flowers :)
EarthGoddess wrote:
Once you find your own inner peace I think others will not anger you this much.
You will not wish for others to control you to this negative point. There will always be those that like to push our buttons but if we can learn to ignore you may find they may back off, for they are not getting the response they want from you.
In the meantime, you could always try a punching bag, run fast, or punch into a heap of pillows. . . anything that is not harmful towards you or anyone else. I know it may sound corny, but at least give it a try. Peace to you, EGx
Hmmm… How can I find this inner peace? I have a path to take, I have friends, there’s really no reason why I should feel like this.
EarthGoddess wrote:
P.S - surround yourself with the White Light, not Red!
LOL and a red light has a different connotation to me! I have both a white light and a red light.
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Cell wrote:
Forgive.
How can I forgive if they repeat the same actions? if they never learn? If they promise me and gave me their word that they would change, but don’t?
How can I forgive if I don’t feel that they are worthy enough to be forgiven?
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Cell wrote:
Forgiveness is letting go of the anger, choosing to not hold something against them, basically letting them off the hook when the DON’T deserve it. That’s forgiveness.
See, that’s what I thought I’ve been doing this whole time! But something is still holding on to it! I don’t know or have forgotten how to let go. There’s something that I’m not doing… or am doing…
How can I let go?
you need to talk with someone to learn how to deal with this.
We have grandchildren with autism and their brother and sister have had to learn how to deal with this. It is not easy but it can be helped by talking about it with a professional. Good Luck and God Bless You are a good brother always remember this
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future gone wrote:
you need to talk with someone to learn how to deal with this.
We have grandchildren with autism and their brother and sister have had to learn how to deal with this. It is not easy but it can be helped by talking about it with a professional. Good Luck and God Bless You are a good brother always remember this
but whom? my parents? they’re in as much pain as is, to bring to their attention my state of mind, might not have a positive result. and those who are making me feel this way? They do not nor will not understand, I’ve tried. If you can suggest any professionals, I can only say, I’m limited to my means of transportation, and my wallet.
… heh, I’m sorry everyone, I know it might seem like I’m being difficult, but I’m not. This is just the situation I’m in…
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Cell wrote:
When I have trouble forgiving I ask God for help.
I am Catholic, and as such, I pray a rosary every night, and an additional prayer afterwards, often reflecting upon the courses of the day, and especially topics like this.
I am asking God for help, but my being human probably doesn’t let me see what’s obvious to Him. like His answer to my prayers.
you need a professional and they are out there and you can get help sometime for little or nothing been there down that hope this helps in some small way
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Cell wrote:
Hmm…ask God for wisdom. The Bible says that if we ask for wisdom He will give it to us. God can give you the wisdom needed to solve this problem.
I could also pray with you sometime if you like, or I could simply pray for you. I find praying really works for me. Have you asked Him to help you forgive?
lol Dearest Cell, I have asked numerous times, for wisdom, knowledge, and even tolerance, strength, courage, endurance, and just about anything else that can help me forgive someone. I guess I’m more ignorant to the answer than I thought O_o
But I’d be honored if we prayed together.
Counseling. If you’ve got this building inside you and cant find a way to process or release it (note: not suppress it) then you need to talk to someone who CAN help. I’m not religious. I never sought answers from God. Maybe that’s the way you will find what you’re looking for, so I’m absolutely not saying that praying can’t help. But my counselor helped me verbalize and process exactly what it was that was causing me to still feel all this epic badness towards people (family, specifically) in my life. There’s low cost counseling available, depending on your situation possibly even free. The magic words are sliding scale.
http://www.medhelp.org/user_journals/…
Good basic information.
http://findahealthcenter.hrsa.gov/Sea…
Possibly helpful.
And it’s just a pacifier, but finding a way to blow off steam is a good immediate solution when you’re having a really bad moment. Away from others. When I got really agitated about something, I would chuck ice cubes at the outside wall of our house. There was something satisfying in the way the ice just shattered all over, and nothing got hurt.
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ikyifyoudont wrote:
Talk with someone. Maybe spend sometime alone. Do all you can to figure it out.
agreed
~Empress~ Noisette wrote:
ikyifyoudont wrote:
Talk with someone. Maybe spend sometime alone. Do all you can to figure it out.
agreed
Heh, Thanks for the advice, ikyifyoudont. Unfortunately, this is what I’ve been doing, coming here, is only a sign that I have become aware of running out of options. And soon, I’ll be down to carefully watching my actions, otherwise I’ll do something rash.
red1263 wrote:
~Empress~ Noisette wrote:
ikyifyoudont wrote:
Talk with someone. Maybe spend sometime alone. Do all you can to figure it out.
agreed
Heh, Thanks for the advice, ikyifyoudont. Unfortunately, this is what I’ve been doing, coming here, is only a sign that I have become aware of running out of options. And soon, I’ll be down to carefully watching my actions, otherwise I’ll do something rash.
I dont come here out of last option. YOu might feel like you do . but you sound like a well grounded guy you just need new surroundings
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