Hi kyle, it’s anon from the previous post. Is there a way to privately message you so we can talk about this?
In this year that you spent working on yourself, figuring out who I you where, did you go on dates with someone other than your wife?
I’m sure there is, but I am not sure how, I just found this site today, still learning my way around.
I’ll find a way to contact you soon!
I went on one date, and she knew about it, because I took her on a date immediately afterwards. I told her everything that happened on the date, and how she was all I could think about, thus why I took her out a few days later. That was in September of last year, and I haven’t seen anyone else since that time. I’ve talked to some people, but I just don’t WANT to be with anyone but my ex-wife. I don’t even find myself attracted to other women anymore, no matter how nice, sweet, attractive they may be. Just not interested in anyone else.
kylewds1 wrote:
I went on one date, and she knew about it, because I took her on a date immediately afterwards. I told her everything that happened on the date, and how she was all I could think about, thus why I took her out a few days later. That was in September of last year, and I haven’t seen anyone else since that time. I’ve talked to some people, but I just don’t WANT to be with anyone but my ex-wife. I don’t even find myself attracted to other women anymore, no matter how nice, sweet, attractive they may be. Just not interested in anyone else.
What you need to do my friend is stop worrying about your wife and start to really work on yourself. You need to become the person a girl like your wife wants to be with.
If she just meets you on the street tomorrow you need to be the person who can sweep her off her feet with no back story just the future.
And you can’t do that, you can’t be that person while acting like the person writing this thread.
Man up and get on with your life. I don’t mean that to sound mocho just proud and confidant; and they guy sitting worrying about his wife isn’t proud and isn’t confident.
After you become the person you need to be, than she might come back; and if she doesn’t than you be in a much better position to move on.
I think she might be thinking, somthing different about you..you know like while u left her?
What u have just said on here.. i.e “that you felt you weren’t gud enough for her” just say that. I a pretty sure, she will understand:) And say that she is such an amazing person and lovely personality and u thought that u will lose her and upset her.. all because u thought u wasn’t gud enough foe her…
and then u thought u needed some time to urself to get ur head together and to think things tthrough..all because being in a relationship is a big thing, esp if u are gonna be commiting towards a maritial relationship.
Am here if u would like to talk:)
kylewds1 wrote:
I went on one date, and she knew about it, because I took her on a date immediately afterwards. I told her everything that happened on the date, and how she was all I could think about, thus why I took her out a few days later. That was in September of last year, and I haven’t seen anyone else since that time. I’ve talked to some people, but I just don’t WANT to be with anyone but my ex-wife. I don’t even find myself attracted to other women anymore, no matter how nice, sweet, attractive they may be. Just not interested in anyone else.
You love her sooo much i can see that. And am sure she feels the same?
I have already poured my heart out to her, but she won’t listen. She had made some new friends, and they have her convinced that nothing I say is sincere. They keep telling her that I am not worth taking back. And the guy she is dating now, is a friend of these friends that hate me so much, even though they have never met me or talked to me even once. I just don’t know how to overcome her friends, who seem to have such a strong hold over her actions right now.
She used to love me, even more than I could describe. I never knew that love this strong between two people was possible. Unfortunately, she got tired of waiting for me, and has convinced herself that she doesn’t love me anymore. I just don’t know how love this strong can just go away. It would be so much easier if I could just stop loving the way she seems to have done, but it isn’t something I have any control over.
awww! i know what u mean…
so she has made the wrong type of friends u think? While u guys were togther, there may have been some special moments, something different. Something everyday like, something u guys chatted about? something funny that she liked, and u kept on bringing that up??
Remind her somehow of these moments and she mite reconsider?
But she has known the guy only for a week? huh?
Do u guys have an online thing u could have a chat to.. ?
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Well, love is that kinds thing I guess. Once there was a moment with me where, the guy said we should pnly be friends… i said but only last we u said u liked me.. and had been since oct/nov.. but later i found out cos he thought i was “checking other guys out” no way!! and just like that he was gonna break it up. But I knew summat was wrong so i say.. we need to have a chat, and with that, I asked him why he said that? and he told me, things got cleared up. But what am trying to say is that love is sooo strong and that bond cannot be broken.
No, her friends were trying to push them together since January, but I never knew. She told them she wasn’t ready to see anyone, so they just made sure this guy would always show up when they were all hanging out. My ex and I were still having fun in March. I asked her to come back home on April 13th, but she had her first date with that guy on April 8th. They have been seeing eachother ever since. He drags her away from homework to go drinking and watch movies. She failed two classes this semester because she kept putting off her work for him and her friends. They don’t push her to be a better person, or to succeed in life, all they care about is partying and having gun.
But he is nice to her, and he makes her laugh, so it doesn’t matter if he isn’t good for her. It doesn’t matter if he likes things that annoy her. It doesn’t matter if he seems like a borderline alcoholic. He is nice to her, and that is enough for her to forget about me.
Princess K wrote:
kylewds1 wrote:
I went on one date, and she knew about it, because I took her on a date immediately afterwards. I told her everything that happened on the date, and how she was all I could think about, thus why I took her out a few days later. That was in September of last year, and I haven’t seen anyone else since that time. I’ve talked to some people, but I just don’t WANT to be with anyone but my ex-wife. I don’t even find myself attracted to other women anymore, no matter how nice, sweet, attractive they may be. Just not interested in anyone else.
You love her sooo much i can see that. And am sure she feels the same?
Love is not the problem;
You need to show her that.. and tell her that (somehow) that look all ur grades are falling apart.. and that this guy is not gud enough for u. Sorry am not sure how and i know it not be easy:( Say that care for her, and u want to her happiness. and u just need to say that this doesn’t seem rite to u at all.
I know what u mean, nice to her..makes her laugh.. that’s what sometimes a person wants and doesn’t really see outside the box kinda thing, unfortunately:/
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Princess K wrote:
kylewds1 wrote:
I went on one date, and she knew about it, because I took her on a date immediately afterwards. I told her everything that happened on the date, and how she was all I could think about, thus why I took her out a few days later. That was in September of last year, and I haven’t seen anyone else since that time. I’ve talked to some people, but I just don’t WANT to be with anyone but my ex-wife. I don’t even find myself attracted to other women anymore, no matter how nice, sweet, attractive they may be. Just not interested in anyone else.
You love her sooo much i can see that. And am sure she feels the same?
Love is not the problem;
erm.. Kyle? is this true??
Princess K wrote:
Da⌐11 wrote:
Princess K wrote:
kylewds1 wrote:
I went on one date, and she knew about it, because I took her on a date immediately afterwards. I told her everything that happened on the date, and how she was all I could think about, thus why I took her out a few days later. That was in September of last year, and I haven’t seen anyone else since that time. I’ve talked to some people, but I just don’t WANT to be with anyone but my ex-wife. I don’t even find myself attracted to other women anymore, no matter how nice, sweet, attractive they may be. Just not interested in anyone else.
You love her sooo much i can see that. And am sure she feels the same?
Love is not the problem;
erm.. Kyle? is this true??
it is very true, and when Kyle realizes it he will be that much closer to getting his wife back … if he doesn’t wait to long to realize it.
The part about the date is true. A friend of mine from work asked me to show around one of his friends that just moved here from Utah. It wasn’t a romantic date, and it didn’t go anywhere, but it was still technically a “date.”
If your asking if the love not being the problem is true, I don’t know. Da seems pretty intelligent, based on some of the other posts of theirs I have seen. I just don’t know why they think love is or is not the problem, I lost the context of their comment.
well u both need to feel the same way to make it work.. and you love her and wanting a relationship, but she isn’t.. so that’s why am saying that there is a problem..:/ but am not too sure..
lol *thumbs up* to Da.. u are smart:) bless you..
And as far as just living my life goes, she has a distorted view of living right now. With the exception of her not being around, I enjoy my life. I like sitting at home and reading, I’m not into going out to the bars and stuff. But she doesn’t think I’m living just because I am not partying like she is. Well, I’m sorry, but I think life is about more than just how much fun you can have with people who don’t genuinely care about you. Real friends push you to be better, and to succeed. Friends that only like you if you can party, aren’t real friends.
I guess I feel like, I have my priorities straight for the first time in a long time. And yet, now her priorities have fallen by the wayside.
You left her. That means you have no rights.
Im sure she is also a full grown adult who can be held accountable by her actions. SO blaming her friends for her choices is just disillusioning yourself.
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Kyle, look you have ur own mind.. and oviously u have known her and urslef more than anyone else.. so u know if u are dilsillusioning urself or not.
Yes u are right. Life is what u make of it. So why let people walk all over you?! They ahve no right at all!!
would you like to be friends?
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K, there is a reason I don’t respond to certain things. On a site where people go for help, there is no reason to dignify scornful or unemphatic remarks. And like you said, I know my ex-wife, inside and out. When someone completely changes, and the only difference in their life is the friends they keep, it isn’t coincidence. But some people like to remain ignorant that peer pressure exists, and can affect you at ANY stage of your life, even as an adult.
Also, while I don’t usually respond to scorn.. Firebir, at what point did I say I had any rights? I know that I left her, and that means I have no RIGHT to have her back. That doesn’t mean that I can’t love her, or atone for my mistakes. That doesn’t mean I can’t realize my wrongdoing and try to get her back.
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You have lost her. Move on. Why would she take you back? You divorced her. There is no getting back from that.
But what about if she really does still love him?
and is just not trying to show it??
Like I said K, some stuff you have to ignore. Most people who are so quick to encourage giving up, have either never been in love, or have been burned so many times that they have become pessimistic. They will call the pessimism being realistic, but either way, they don’t want you to be optimistic. It’s easier to tell when you can see them in person though, as the very topic makes them angry, and you can hear the hate in their voice.
You came here for opinions. I imagine you cant like all of them, but that ones was mine. Take what you will or dont. Im just trying to get you to see a side that you are not looking at, if you dont want to consider it, then dont.
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i truely feel ur pain. I know and hope u find the right person who is truely made for you..
It’s not your opinion I didn’t like firebir, it was the accusation. Like I said, I never said I have a right to have her back. I would like a second chance, but I know that it is her choice, and she has no obligations to give it to me.
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maybe Kyle, do u think and did u mean.. u wanted some time apart, rather than a divorce?
Cos, what Cell has said, does make sence, in a way.. don’t u think?
If life was really that black and white, things would be simpler for us all. Unfortunately, we have a pretty big gray area that we have to deal in and use to make decisions everyday. When we got divorced, I was only using it as a way to get my space. It started off with me just wanting to live separately, but then she wouldn’t agree to it. I did what at the time seemed like my only choice, because my view of the situation was pretty closed off and stubborn.
Wow K, you posted that while I was still typing up my post… so, yeah, you are right, sorry I couldn’t give you your props in the first reply.
Hmm.. I get you.. so she was seeing it in black and white? divorce me Vs stay with me?
And now u have decide u love her dearly and would give it another go. And that is the obstacle right? You have to get over that obstacle and make her see that u guys are made for each other.
lol.. i was typing mine as well lol…bless you:)
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Cell wrote:
Now you got your way and you’re alone. You’ll just have to take what you’ve learned into your next relationship.
but erm, what if he never finds her? cos you know how hard it is to find the right person..:/mand he says he loves he very dearily. And was all his life. It’s really realllly hard to find the right person. Despite what people say.
(sorry Kyle, here i am doing all the questioning, bless you)
You are ok K. You have to remember, the world we live in now, people don’t believe in “true” love anymore. Everyone seems to believe that love is temporary, a chemical reaction, a psychological thing. And unfortunately, until they find “the one,” they will never understand what it is like. They don’t realize that you can’t move on, from the one person you were MEANT to be with.
My wife and I met over the phone. To people that don’t believe in anything greater than ourselves, such as God, or fate, or things like that, our meeting was a coincidence. But to me, when you meet someone on a one in a million chance, and you fall in love, and everything works out to bring you together when you live over a thousand miles away from eachother.. that isn’t coincidence, not to me.
I’ve had the high school love, the puppy love, the rebound love. This is different, the joy and the pain, it is all different, and it is indescribable. Every time I thought I was in love, I would get angry at the other person for hurting me. For the first time in my life, I have no anger at all, it all washed away when she said she was going to move on. I don’t have words to describe it, and the only people who understand it, will be the ones who have felt it.
Sometimes, people are mean to be cos, I feel people comein pairs. And therefore if one is gone.. then why stay? (erm no offence..)
What about, if he waits lets say 6 months to achieve ur love.. but doesn’t say a word to you? like hi, not anything, but all that time he loved you.. is this a coincident? is this person worthy of true love? All because he said he would wait and destiny will bring us togther (and it did) .. am just so confused .. hmm .. and u can see how much that person loves you.. - sos am just thinking out loud…
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love is the most magical feeling, anyone can ever experience!
When you feel love you cannot feel anything else. Love is the thing that makes the world go round, without love there is nothing. Love is the thing that makes you go into classes.. the thing that makes you want to go into the steet and sing.. go dance in the rain. You start seeing life like something different and for once you begin to appreciate yourself and the world around you. You see the beauty all around you, the one that you never bothered with before.. or just never saw. The scent of roses.. the sweet singing of birds.. seems more beautiful than ever and come to life.. and you really begin to see the detail in life; like how green the grass is…. and the patterns on the butterflies…..
Life seem to have stopped.. when you are together…
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Ermm, is this how you feel?
It’s more than that. You feel stronger, smarter, more confident. You want to be better, you are motivated to be the best person you can be. It’s like a steroid for life.
My friend Steve used to be an internet whore, he would talk to as many chicks as he could, telling them all he loved them to try and get naked pics or cyber sex. He started talking to my ex-wife, because she was a friend on one of the girls he was messing with. I was at his house one night, and he made me sing to her on the phone, for no reason at all. He was trying to hook up with her, but he made me sing to her. That night, we heard eachother’s voices, and we started talking afterwards. I told her I loved her, before I really had any idea of what she looked like. I didn’t have a job, because the town I lived in was small and I had no vehicle to drive into the city. But a month after she agreed to meet in person, I was offered a job, just by being in the right place at the right time. In 6 months, working part time and making minimum wage, while helping my family with bills, I still managed to save the exact amount of money needed to move. Everything worked out in a way that seems improbable, yet all the pieces fell into place. To me, that is fate…
I love her so much, that I didn’t hesitate to move 1000 miles to be with her. I left everything I knew, and took the risk that I would end up jobless, homeless, and alone miles away from my family or anyone that could help, because I had faith in our love.
The feeling is powerful, it is overwhelming, and it makes life better in every way.
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2 years ago (2 hours, 8 minutes after post)
she goes to college ? how old r both of u?
“Love is the thing that makes you go into classes..” - or go about ur daily day*
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So, you believe that it is a coincidence, that she wanted to come back home, and that she believed me about just wanting space, until her friends told her otherwise? She has admitted to me, that her friends told her I never loved her, and that I only told her I needed space as an excuse. She never believed that until her friends started saying it to her. And I am not supposed to believe they influenced her? I KNOW that I messed up, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t other influences here.
Kyle if I may suggest something: why don’t you approach her and ask her to meet you because you’d like to tell her something very important. Then you suggest her to go with you together to couple counseling that you would really need her help in this even if she were your friend only to do that for you. Then she and you can pour out your hearts and take it from there. It could be both ways: it might help her and you to get back together again or it could be the end of it. You both need to tell each other things you hadn’t done yet and hear each other out pro’s and con’s. Try this approach. I can see she is very confused and vulnerable now.
Maybe she wants to hear that you will wait for her. You had her sitting in wait for a long time. If it were me, and my husband did that, I would want him to say “I know I screwed up and for that I will be forever sorry. I think you still love me, and I will wait until for you like I made you wait for me.”
I agree w/Mom above.
I think because you had your time to yourself, she now needs her time and you may just need to be patient and understanding.
Maybe let her know how you feel for sure, but then back off!
Good Morning to all:)
@ Kyle.. Yes, I know it is a lot more, a lot more feelings and emotions and some other strange and wonderful things involved in love, compared to the piece I wrote.. You realise ur true being, what’s ur purpose in life. *_*
And yes you are very true my dear friend, it changes the whole you!! And probably for the better, if the love is genuine.
It’s like that your love drives your life.. omdzz ain’t that amaZing?!
Aww, yes! you are right:) this does seem like destiny to me. You know how two people come together? I mean like that, and u here seem the case..
I agree with Beatricegalant:)
I did a prayer for you..
Take Care, and shout me.. if am needed:)
x
I’m in a similar but different position myself. I’m thinking it’s just better to move on and go with a “if it was meant to be then it would happen” attitude. If you’re meant to be together, you’ll feel the same way at the same time. Right now, work on looking elsewhere as she isn’t looking towards you right now. You could be missing out on something incredible with someone else while she won’t give you the light of day.
I don’t want to be harsh, but as long as she doesn’t see this situation the way you see it, you’ll never get her back.
You are worrying about things that are way out of your control, and trust me, it is much better to stop blaming yourself and wondering about how you can turn this all around.
We all have that girl which we think we’ll be with forever. But why do we toss our lives away trying to chase after a girl who has gone astray, and refuses to come back despite everything we try? In the end, you’ll have lost her anyway, while she will be happier.
What I think you should do is tell her that you were wrong in seeking the divorce in the first place, and that you don’t want to lose the person who you love. Leave it at that, and go on with your life. One day, once she has matured a bit, she’ll understand. If she doesn’t then you made the right choice anyway. It isn’t fair for you to dwell on this.
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2 years ago (12 hours, 25 minutes after post)
Unrequited love is by far the most painful :(
there are 2 sides to this story and I can see your trying to veiw them both but its hard because you are so close to the situation…
I keep seeing her friends, but the thing is these are her choices not her friends. Regardless of what they say she will only see what she wants to see, they dont have some kind of power, when she said they told her you dont love her, she wasnt saying they convinced her of it, she was saying this is how she feels.
People change from experience not from others making them, this change for her began when she fell in love with you, not when she met new friends, she married you and you left her and she has found her own way of coping with it. Im sorry to say but you dont know her inside out, we can never know a person so well for if you did then she would be sitting waiting as you expected.
You needed time away to work yourself out and left her with no guarantees, this is her time now and the choice she makes is up to her.
There is no way you can actually win her back, what you can do though is be there for her and wait for her as you expected her to wait for you. If she has chosen to move on you do need to respect that, want doesnt always get
Kyle, your story is very unfortunate and I’ve bren in a simolar situation myself. Unfortunately there is seldom one clearpath to winning simeone’s heart, especially when there is a painful history already at play. My only advice to you is that you just need to lay your cards on the table, express to het yout love and devotion with confidence and clear away the misconceptions that her friends have created about you. Be understanding about how she feels and willing to hear her out completely, I can only imagine she suffered a great deal of hurt duribg the time that yall were seperated and undoubtedly the dates you went on as friends together gave her false hope as often it is difficult to vieean ex love as only a friend, and waiting for love can be a painful test of patience. Understand however that she is human and like the rest of us shr will inevitably believe about you whatever she chooses to believe, and winning her back cannot be assured no matter what yoi do. In the end if she doesn’t wanr to be with you I think you need to love her enough to respect what she thinks will make her happy. After that its iin the hands of time wether she will ever come back your way, and in that time you do need to move on with what makes you happy in life. I hope this helps and I do wish you the best of luck no matter how it all turns out.
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if she divorced you let the ho route in hell cause women like that are known to cheat and abuse you and never get the proper respect you deserve
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2 years ago (16 hours, 59 minutes after post)
Juggalo450 wrote:
if she divorced you let the ho route in hell cause women like that are known to cheat and abuse you and never get the proper respect you deserve
he divorced her! why? because he needed to work himself out apparently…she tried to hold on to their marriage, he let it go, its taken her a year to move on now he decides he wants her back after she starts dating
did you actually pay attention to anything before flapping
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2 years ago (17 hours, 20 minutes after post)
Juggalo450 wrote:
if she divorced you let the ho route in hell cause women like that are known to cheat and abuse you and never get the proper respect you deserve
And how would you ever deserve respect Juggalo with a mouth like that!!!
It’s obvious a woman has sh—- on you and you’re angry with them all.
Just to clarify, I asked her to come back BEFORE finding out that she had started seeing someone. She waited to tell me that until after I had poured my heart out about being ready for her to come home.
your wife waited for you. now it’s time for you to wait for her.
First the person you want to talk to go to your shout list and there is a green or orange dot you need to change thatthen you can email I have done this!
Second my husband of 47 years is divorcing me I still don’t know why but because of NO FAULt LAWs he will get the divorce. I sent him flowers and told him I love him nothing has worked. So I will give you my view of what to do.
Send her love notes, flowers, candy ask her out and keep doing it till she talks to you. Tell her you will do anything all she has to do is name it. I wish my husband would just talk to me and his family bug off along with the courts. Get her away from her new friends they are hurting her not helping. She is hurt and now needs to heal Good Luck and God Bless I will pray she hears you what is in youy heart
rebeccalynn16 wrote:
your wife waited for you. now it’s time for you to wait for her.
agreed. you initiated the divorce and now it’s time to be patient with her as she was with you. if you truly love and respect her the way you say you do, you have to let her go. if it’s meant to be, it’ll happen in it’s own time. i’m not saying cut off all communication with her, but be there as her friend. give her a chance to see the man she initially fell in love with. don’t send her love notes, candy, flowers, etc. no amount of candy in the world would make me take someone back after they divorced me. however a listening ear, an honest compliment, a man who is willing to show that he has changed, those things might make me have a change of heart.
Seeing as I am going through some thing close to what your wife went through I know that I would want to be courted maybe I am not to the same stage that she is at. but I still think courting is the way to go. I also know if my husband gets the divorce he is not coming back
Making a $100,000,000 in a year is much easier than your problem.You know what there is always a hope.Can you buy a new dog and keep it happy please!
kylewds1 wrote:
Just to clarify, I asked her to come back BEFORE finding out that she had started seeing someone. She waited to tell me that until after I had poured my heart out about being ready for her to come home.
sorry mate I wasnt trying to put you down, just got a little testy with this guy condeming her
Thing is, you didnt need to divorce her to seperate, you only had to walk out the door, when you divorced her you made a life time decision, honestly how do you get married again now? the officials will put you through the ringer before agreeing to allow you to wed again, its not so simple second time round, and they may even decide not to allow you to wed.
Personally, I could wait for a seperation, but if a man divorced me that would be it, I could never feel secure with him again
My advice if you love her and know she deserves a better life than that is to find a way to show her and explain it to her - if no matter how much she doesnt listen you don’t give up it is my advice, you were married for 5 years - she’s not in her right mind right now it sounds like and it sounds like now she needs you more than ever, and your finally able to be there for her- seems like losing you really took her back a few steps but you had to do that for yourself and it doesnt sound like she is doing anything positive for herself now so hang in there and good luck
I know that you don’t want to hear it or believe it, but the both of you are not getting back together. It’s not going to happen! You will waste away valuable life worrying and hoping for a an outcome that won’t play out. Your efforts will be futile. I know many of us like to put stock in fairy tale stories, but such dreaming is just a delusional mental jerk-off that in the long run gets you no where.
Guess what? This is good news. The two of you are not meant to be together. You won’t believe me or know it until it happens, but there is another girl in the world who will love you even more and that you will be even happier with. You owe it to yourself and this future girl to let go of your ex-wife. I mean it. Bury yourself now in Zen philosophy reading and the art of not being selfish. Because ultimately that’s what this whole problem boils down to, wanting something too much for yourself. Untangle that knot and the rest of the mess will begin to resolve.
Let me give you some other advice in regards to her friends. Half of what you are perceiving is your own paranoid take on their actions / motives. It’s not as sinister as your mind is convincing you it is… but because you feel hurt and not getting what you want you are shifting blame off yourself and projecting it onto others. Now then, the only answer is to start doing a lot of charity work and volunteering for good causes and pour your heart in to it. Who cares if her friends think you are a loser if you are genuinely making a positive impact in the world. By feeling sorry for yourself right now you are in essence proving them right. Get up, and go find volunteer work now. There is a good chance the next love of your life could be doing the same thing… and how else will you two ever meet?
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Juggalo450 wrote:
if she divorced you let the ho route in hell cause women like that are known to cheat and abuse you and never get the proper respect you deserve
he divorced her! why? because he needed to work himself out apparently…she tried to hold on to their marriage, he let it go, its taken her a year to move on now he decides he wants her back after she starts dating
did you actually pay attention to anything before flapping
no i didn’t cause every ho is gonna cheat and
Anonymous wrote:
Juggalo450 wrote:
if she divorced you let the ho route in hell cause women like that are known to cheat and abuse you and never get the proper respect you deserve
And how would you ever deserve respect Juggalo with a mouth like that!!!
It’s obvious a woman has sh—- on you and you’re angry with them all.
yes i do cause i have a sh00ty one right now that i can kick out the door cause i have no respect for her tell me would you respect her if she cheated on you twice but im to stupid to break up with her cause im all shes has 2 she fingered and kied a girl 3 shes abusive 4 i have a kid by her so therefore i have to stay with her…if i upset any of you i am very sorry i am offending anybody
Your ex wife is hurt and she wants to hurt you back for that I am sorry. I still say court her even if you think it won’t work what will it hurt and yes get into counseling will help you both. Women get there feelings hurt, you are both young and maybe that is different from what i am going through but i don’t think so Love is love you both need time. Tell her you love her, sent her favorite flowers. I know i respond to things like that. After invite her out on a date, take her to her favorite place show her you remember what it is that she likes and doesn’t like and don’t let her new friends get in the way. Women like to know that they are important. I have told my husband he can never come back if he divorces me and I meant it when I said it and I don’t know how to take it back.
Good luck I will pray for you both and hope God Hears Our prays God Bless
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your perspectives are way out man
maybe you should open your own post, not degrade every other woman just because your not smart enough to leave the one thats hurting you and your kid
kylewds1 wrote:
The part about the date is true. A friend of mine from work asked me to show around one of his friends that just moved here from Utah. It wasn’t a romantic date, and it didn’t go anywhere, but it was still technically a “date.”
If your asking if the love not being the problem is true, I don’t know. Da seems pretty intelligent, based on some of the other posts of theirs I have seen. I just don’t know why they think love is or is not the problem, I lost the context of their comment.
I think that love is not the problem because it never is. Your wife loved you once she can love you again.
The problem is you; in her mind your not worthy of her love so whether she feels it or not she’s not going to show it to you.
Time to work on yourself. Stop worrying about your wife, in fact go dark, give her time to miss you. And after you fix your self and imerge from your darkness you’ll see where the chips realy lie.
Ive been there, read all the self help books and got my wife back by following the right advise.
Im sorry to tell u this but she moved on u hurt her to many times sum woman just go on,yeah she still goy feelings for u but she rezlized that she dont need more drama in her life and of course shes gunna listin to her friends cuz u not there no more for her,only way to get her back is to grow sum balls and go wherever she is and apoligizez if that,dnt work out, than u should,just keep movin with ur life cuz she wont come back,,,unless she realy loves u and c that chu moved on and try come back to u ,,,good luck and keep the life goin thrre is,billion grulz out,thrre
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There is nothing like a women scorn. When a women is fed up there is almost nothing you can do about it. Let me ask you this. how serious are you about getting her back? If you’re still not to sure if you’re uncertain about the slightest thing leave her alone.
If you are serious then here is some things you must do. A woman can tell if you have changed or not a warning light goes off a woman will choose to obay or deny it so you have to be sincere in everything you do. First find a way to apologize to her for everything you’ve done to her and how you’ve hurt her. Try not to do this in a direct conversation especially if she is acting out she proberly wouldn’t let you get everything in so send a letter with red rosses and chocolate. What you do is make people around her start to like you and envy her by what you do. So go all out. She might reject them at first but she’ll warm up. Every week send her gifts with a letter with sweet words remind her why she fell in love with you. What ever you do don’t ever mention anything about sex. Doing this will get a woman mind going.
While this is taking place start sending her tex messages like I miss u hun,just wanted u 2 know am thinking of u. Stuff like that keep it short and sweet give her a while and she’ll start to warm up. Do this for now but remember to get her back its going to be work because of hurt you proberly created what she’s becomming or she has a good coach and is playing the game of love to get you back. If this is the case you proberly wouldn’t of wanted her back until you found out she was seing someone and going on with her life. Its important to know all this so you’ll know what you need to do.
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