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This is about a bird.

A few months ago my dad brought home a pet cockatiel he aquired from a client who was trying to find it a good home. Every weekend when I’d come home to visit my parents house, I’d sit and talk with it, feed it, and whistle and sing to it. I kind of loved that bird, and he was really responsive and would always sing back to me as well.
Cockatiels are really smart birds and need a few hours of attention every day. I did notice though my family was very busy and didn’t really have time in the day to spend with it. They felt bad that he was just stuck in his cage all day, and spoke a few times of letting it fly away, or finding it a new home, especially my teenage sister. I specifically told her not to let it fly away bc it would be unsafe for him, and he would probably die.
Well, when I went home this weekend, I found out that she had released him outside.
The problem is, for some reason this has really been bothering me for a few days now. Like i’m genuinely upset. I can’t get it off my mind and i’m having feelings of guilt knowing that he’s probably dead somewhere, or suffering. I keep hoping he’ll fly back home, but I know thats probably far from possible.
I’m even having freaking dreams about this bird now. Ugh. This may sound silly, I know, but Idk I just needed to rant…i cant seem to get over it :(

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An Unknown Location | 2 years ago (30 minutes after post)

It is sad to loose a pet, they become a part of your family.
Put the cage outside with the roof off and fresh feed and water in the cage and hope that he does remember your place.
If he is in the area and hungry/thirsty he may very well come back.
You just have to be there at the time when he does.
It might be worth a try!
Good luck. EGx

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This is about a bird…

A few months ago my dad brought home a pet cockatiel he aquired from a client who was trying to find it a good home. Every weekend when I’d come home to visit my parents house, I’d sit and talk with it, feed it, and whistle and sing to it. I kind of loved that bird, and he was really responsive and would always sing back to me as well.
Cockatiels are really smart birds and need a few hours of attention every day. I did notice though my family was very busy and didn’t really have time in the day to spend with it. They felt bad that he was just stuck in his cage all day, and spoke a few times of letting it fly away, or finding it a new home, especially my teenage sister. I specifically told her not to let it fly away bc it would be unsafe for him, and he would probably die.
Well, when I went home this weekend, I found out that she had released him outside.
The problem is, for some reason this has really been bothering me for a few days now. Like i’m genuinely upset. I can’t get it off my mind and i’m having feelings of guilt knowing that he’s probably dead somewhere, or suffering. I keep hoping he’ll fly back home, but I know thats probably far from possible.
I’m even having freaking dreams about this bird now. Ugh. This may sound silly, I know, but Idk I just needed to rant…i cant seem to get over it :(

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (41 minutes after post)

Good idea, I really hope he does. Even if I’m not currently living there. Idk I’ve never really been as attached to a pet as i was with this one. I have some weird connection with it :/ I looked up having birds in dreams and there was a lot of symbolism involved lol

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (53 minutes after post)

I understand how you feel compeltely. What kind of eenvironment do you live in? Is it a hot place? If not, I seriously would have LOST it on my sister. I can’t handle any sort of animal cruelty and I. . .GOD! I can’t even believe she did that!!!!

However, someone might find the cockatail and bring it in to a pet store. I work at one and people actually find a lot of weird animals outside. Guinea pigs, hamsters, soft rabbits.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (54 minutes after post)

Also, if you ever do get an indoor bird. It’s really okay if you clip it’s wings. That way it can still fly and leap and around, but can’t fly away. I’ve owened 3 birds in my life and having uncliped wings caused nothing but craziness. You can learn how to do it at any pet store. does not hurt the bird or anything.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (56 minutes after post)

I live in southern California, so luckily the weather is pleasant. However it has been cold lately. Anyways, i think she did it with good intentions, but just didn’t think of the repercussions. We have his cage outside with food and water so i just hope he comes back home :(

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An Unknown Location | 2 years ago (58 minutes after post)

Keep calling his name . I am sure you are anyway. My fingers are crossed for you!

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