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I’m a 25 year old male.

When I was 19 I was living with my girlfriend. She was a few years older then me, a bit manipulative, and a lot more crazy then I knew about at the time. I got her pregnant. 3 months after I got her pregnant I found another man’s license in her car. I confronted her only to discover proof of her infidelities in her cell phone. When I told her I was leaving her and called her a whore she slapped me across the chest and left a big red handprint there. I’ll never forget that hand print it’s burned into my retina. I was in the midst of packing and had a laundry basket full of my stuff in my hands when she did it. As I headed for the door I vowed to get custody of my son and threatened to call the police because she assaulted me. As a result after I left she cried wolf to the police claiming I pushed past her as I left the apartment. I was arrested for a felony: battery against a pregnant woman. Although they “witheld adjudication of guilt” this record has haunted me for years. I have not been able to get a job anywhere that does a background check. I’m now 36 days away from graduating nursing school and have discovered I probably will not be able to get my nursing license because of this charge. I’ve talked to lawyers and school professors and theres nothing I can do to get this sealed or expunged from my record as its a domestic charge in the state of florida. ive run out of money. i can’t bring myself to work off the books like an illegal alien anymore. i’m innocent, but there’s nothing i can do. my name is destroyed forever. i’ve talked to so many officials to find some sort of hope for my situation. ive reached out everywhere ive been able to and it seems as though this will forever ruin my life. the only thing stopping me from committing suicide is the chance that God may actually exist and i’ll be damned eternally. the world is an evil horrible place. we dont deserve to be here. anything that was ever pure is corrupt. and i dont want to live anymore

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carlyeepi offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

Any job that I have ever gotten did not require a background check.

Not all jobs require them. You might have to switch industries. I understand this sucks. But your job shouldn’t define your life. If you need to find a way to make money - look for a different job.

If you will it, its a **** of a lot more likely to happen. You’ll find a way.

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zildjian63 offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 hour, 57 minutes after post)

I cant freelance in the medical field without a license. I cant get licensed in the state with my record. I have no more money. Cant go back to school when I cant even work to pay off this student loan. I applied to 72 different stores in the tri state area and not one of them accepted me. I was an area sales manager for a retail store. i made divisional store manager of the year. i was excellant at my job. no retail store hires a domestic violence felon. which is what im labeled even though i never even touched her

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 hour, 59 minutes after post)

i gave up my 68 thousand a year retail job to go into nursing because i couldnt stand how shallow and meaningless my career was. i want to help people. and i may never be given that opportunity despite the excellant job ive done in nursing school

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DarkSnow offline Verified User (3 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (2 hours, 32 minutes after post)

There are many ways to help others that I can suggest, but it seems as if your biggest concern at the moment is going to be how you will survive and work.
So far you have been unable to get a normal job, correct? Have you tried contacting people you used to work with to get a foot in to a job?

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Melodys offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (2 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Can you move to a different country and provide medical care there?

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deletethisaccount offline Verified User (3 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (3 hours, 50 minutes after post)

Have you ever thought of getting yourself a job as self-owned and worked? You can do some odd job like mowing yard, etc. anything that is in the basic range and make sure you have your budget made for doing the job.

If that is not an option, I have another in my mind. My mom went through kinda like the same, but more trashy history, like DUI. She went in and get help for changing her name, SSN, everything, start a new life over. So after she got out of jail awhile graduating with a GED from jail, she went to work to a big place and it was really something. She is planning to sell a book, that I’ll advertise when it come out as I help her type out the book so she can go get it published.

Um, if you do want more information about getting everything changed, let me know, I’ll tell you what she done when she went through, and you will know what it’s like to go for. Also, don’t forget, once you do that, there is nothing on that new name. No history, not even went to school. You can try to go for a same name, and keep it pretty simple and see what you can come by.

I hope this help… there should always be another opportunity.

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Pepper Jelly offline Verified User (4 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (4 hours, 51 minutes after post)

I think that you need to talk to the DA and the police who filed a report. If you find information in the police report or discovery from the DA’s office, then take it up with them; or file a counter suit

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Dr. Ralph offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (13 hours, 25 minutes after post)

I knew a guy who had smuggling heroin across the US/Mexico border expunged from his record. It takes a lot of money and a lawyer who knows the Governor.

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