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This is the first time I have done this kind of thing, so I don’t know what to expect…
The reason for this post is my sister. We’re twins and I’ve always thought of her as same as me! in thought, likes/dislikes, interests, we’ve always done everything together. but it’s not really like that… She’s always been more loud at home, she shouts a lot whenever she’s angry, when I’m more likely to cry. We have arguements all the time. We fought a lot when we were about 10-11, and now it’s an occasional thing. I stopped fighting her back a long time ago, because my dad told me if I don’t fight back, it’d be her fault for being violent. Getting hit doesn’t hurt a lot, because she won’t really hurt me. It’s more the action that hurt me. I never know when to expect things like that, anything I say or do might make her angry. She explodes into shouting & shouting and then she sometimes hit me. I always tell my mum & my mum tells her off everytime, she says everything she’s supposed to say, that violence is not the way to solve things and it’s wrong. My sister somehow always make it out to be my fault, I don’t know how to defend myself against her accusations because they are the twisted version of the truth, so I can’t deny it. She gets the blame for the violence but I also get told off for provoking her, and our mum thinks that although she is always wrong to start the violence, I’m partly responsible too. then me & my sister don’t talk for a couple of hours and we make up again. She always makes me say sorry and won’t say it herself, you made me do it, she says, if you didn’t provoke me then I wouldn’t have done it. After that everything is normal for a few days until her next blow-up, she’s constantly against everything my mum says or talks about and snaps back at her. My mum tries to pacify her and later, when we’re alone again (we’re always alone together cause we share a room & go to & from school together), she would complain to me how annoying our mum was and get angry when I tell her not to snap back. She often ruins the mood when we go out, always critisising what I say & do. so I don’t know what to do anymore. But we are very happy together most of the time. I don’t know what I’ll do without her. But these things make me so upset. I can never cut her out of my life but I just don’t want to live with her anymore. which is impossible because there’s still a few years till university. I know I may seem shallow for talking about all this (everyone has their clouds, right?) but I think my sister has a very big one, and every time her cloud rains, it doesn’t get any smaller, then it just rains again… and again…
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