marriage help: I’ve been married 21 years.

maypo64

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I’ve been married 21 years.

I stopped being happy after the first 2 years. The question is….when is enough enough?

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yumilingto 16 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (1 minute after post)

enough is enough when your heart just isn’t there anymore. When you just can’t feel the same. Enough is Enough when you feel it is. I’m sorry about that. but, the best thing to do would be to follow your heart. (classic line but so true)

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (3 minutes after post)

i would have to say 21 is way too much. you need to think about your life and your pursuit of happieness. i would say you need to call it quits for the both. god speed and only the best wishes for your future life endevors

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Qzzzz 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 9 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Probably, 19 years ago…and certainly by now.

Have you guys tried a counselor?

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maypo64 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (23 minutes after post)

We’ve had some marriage counceling. It was okay for a while after that. Things always seem to go back to the way they were. Even our therapist thought trying to make a point with him was like beating your head on a brick wall. After a while your head starts to hurt.
I think, perhaps, my religious upbringing keeps me here, in this limbo.

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yumilingto 16 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Yeah,, growing up think divorce is not an option maybe? that could make you feel scared, depressed but it’s between you and god. take it up with him.

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maypo64 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (31 minutes after post)

If I had a job( lost mine due to company downsizing), maybe. I need to be able to take care of my children and myself before I do anything. Please, pray for me.

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Qzzzz 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 9 months ago (35 minutes after post)

Are you an unhappy person?

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maypo64 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (36 minutes after post)

Thank you. You don’t know what it means to me to have someone to talk to about this.

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Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 9 months ago (37 minutes after post)

May, as you know, every marriage has it ups and downs. But, many times, a person is an unhappy person and looking for someone to make them happy. Can you be happy if you were not living with this person?

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Fionna 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (38 minutes after post)

Maybe you should consider separating for a while, and see how it goes? Just get some space for yourself, and work on developing your own life away from the marriage. You don’t have to make a complete break — you can even spend some time dating him if that’s what you want.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (38 minutes after post)

Yes. My husband didn’t like the side effects of anti-depressants, so he talked me into going off them a few years ago. The funny thing is though, that I’m much happier when he’s not here. God forgive me for saying that!

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Qzzzz 2 #
Montpelier, MS, US | 2 years, 9 months ago (39 minutes after post)

That answered my question. You maybe looking at a divorce before you can get some happiness. Good luck..

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maypo64 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (45 minutes after post)

Believe me, I need all the luck I can get. I’m not very comfortable with confrontation, so this will be a hard road. As a child it was easy to avoid the blows if you stayed quiet, as an adult it’s not a healthy way to live your life.

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