talk help: A decision i need help with.

whaples201

A decision i need help with.

Over the last year i’ve done all i can o ignore, forget, and bury all feelings for my ex-gf.
What i need is simple, a yes or no vote on if i should talk to her again. I don’t care if there’s 1 reply or 100 i just need this.

I’ll check this in the when i wake up and make my decision with whoever replies help. I’m not doing this for attention, i’m doing this once and for all.

So thanks whoever reads and replies.

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Space Weaver 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Well you never forget your first. Unless you plan on crawling back and restarting the drama all over and maybe try to marry her i’d say move on.

Dr. Jackson 43 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (9 minutes after post)

No, move on. Dwelling is bad (I’ve done it).

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Dragon_Lady 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (14 minutes after post)

I think it depends…did she file a restraining order? Tell you never to talk to her? Make it clear she wants to forget you were ever born?

If so, stay the hell away.

But if you ended in a friendly fashion and you think it might help you gain some closure, then it might be worth trying.

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Cold Water 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Yup ! move on.

Z-Anonymous 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (30 minutes after post)

i don’t have enough information to vote.
did you break it off? did she break things off?
what makes you think it would work this time?
for example if she didn’t like that you weren’t ambitious and now you’ve gone and gotten a better career - maybe that’s a positve
but if nothing much has changed….well then why bother?
especially if she broke up with you.

Rachelll 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (35 minutes after post)

But then again, if she cannot forget you either….. it might add more drama, but if your feeling is reciprocated, then I think you should try talking to her again. Maybe I am a dreamer, but I think that when you really love someone, and you could be with them…that if this is really a possibility, then it would hurt like hell to not talk to her and try to forget her, when you could be so happy together… (this scenario is the perfect fantasy)

Again, this depends on her feelings as well, and the sort of relationship you had and why you broke up. In reality, talking to her may make the feelings you have for her even stronger, and you may end up being hurt even more than you would be if you tried to move on. Maybe it is better to move on and find someone else rather than “dwell.” You could miss out on the love of your life if you dwell too much on your ex. But anyways, let us know what you decide.

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Princess Mew. 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (46 minutes after post)

hm. depends on the reason WHY you broke up. More info?

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casper-the-friendly- 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

Talk to her. You’ll always regret it if you don’t.

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Siren 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (2 hours, 12 minutes after post)

well why did you break up? and who broke up with who?

i say talk to her but only try once, if she deosnt want to then move on

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dexter696 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (4 hours, 34 minutes after post)

Yes talk to her:

1) If she’s hot, your odds of scoring improve (or atleast be around her, if you dont want to talk)
2) If she’s not hot, but has hot friends, perhaps you can score with them.
3) If she doesn’t have hot friends, someone else who is hot might think their chances are good about scoring with you, and may score with you anyway.

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Princess Mew. 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (4 hours, 50 minutes after post)

^shallow much?

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whaples201 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (10 hours after post)

Since so many asked for more info i’ll give this one more day.
She broke up with me, reason why, i don’t entirely know. I presume cause was too clingy or whatever i really don’t know or care. She already has a bf, same she’s had since about 2 weeks after we broke up.
Considering the 2 week thing, fact she broke my heart, and didn’t tell me it was over till i saw so on facebook this isnt about getting her back, this is just for friendly courtesy.
I did everything for this past year to ignore her because i saw her every weekday and if i felt anything about her i’dve gone insane.

Honestly im more opted to continue on ignoring and never see her again when i move off to college but part of me wants to talk to her again.

Dr. Jackson 43 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (10 hours, 36 minutes after post)

Still say no, she’s moved on, you need to move on also, the world is filled with potential friends, you don’t need to make it a goal for her to be one.

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Z-Anonymous 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (11 hours, 11 minutes after post)

with the additional info…i vote for ignoring her.

make a fresh start with college. and try to think of all the bad things about her instead of remembering what you liked. make a list of the bad things if you have to….it will help you move on.

crystalheart 21 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 year, 1 month after post)

i vote for no too…..she obviously moved on and so should you
don’t worry or be upset there’s plenty of fish out there in the sea….you’ll find your perfect match soon
good luck

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Anonymous #
8 months, 1 week ago (1 year, 3 months after post)

It depends. Who broke up on whom? If it was you, but you’re thinking about talking to her again, then great. Go do it. But if it was her, it also depends. Do you think she had feelings for you? Or not? Hope I helped.

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