boyfriend help: So I have been dating this guy.

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So I have been dating this guy.

He is five years older then me. He is an amazing incredible guy, he is always respectful and nice towards me and is always willing to take care of me. However, its frustrating he is so much more experienced then me. Like maturity wise we are very similar but it is frustrating cause his ex and him were together for two years and they were engaged and she got pregnant but he found out it wasn’t his and thats why he left. I also lost my virginity to him so its annoying because I feel like he is such a huge part of my life and I feel so insignificant in his. So I’m constantly getting jealous of that and have built of anger towards him. I also have grown resentful since I lost all of my friends since dating him, not necessarily because of him but he was the catalyst for the inevitable. But since im with him all the time i havn’t had a chance to make new friends. And now he is moving into an apartment with this girl who is really pretty and seems weirdly excited about it and this is extra upsetting cause if he leaves me I have noone so now im constantly stressed and i mentioned my nerves to him and he felt bad and offered to move in with someone else but i said no cause i felt like i would be a bad girlfriend to make him adjust his living arrangements for me. But secretly I’m really really upset about the whole thing and I keep finding myself considering leaving him and I’m always super stressed out.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 11 months ago (7 minutes after post)

So let me get this straight , your boyfriend is moving in with another girl ?

kdawn13 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (9 minutes after post)

well he is in college still and he is moving in an apartment complex where they match you up with roomates but i mean you have a choice, he also has an option to live with this guy from our work but he wants to stay in his complex because he likes the benefits. He is moving in with a two girls and a gay guy, he says he likes co-ed cause girls keep it clean

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Help me with: Where can a fifteen year old work?

Anonymous #
1 year, 11 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Hmmm… so you are still living with your parents?

kdawn13 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (10 minutes after post)

yeah im only seventeen, so i still have about another year or so

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Anonymous #
1 year, 11 months ago (11 minutes after post)

The moving in thing with the girl doesnt sound good ….

kdawn13 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (12 minutes after post)

im just making sure im not crazy. Because he makes it sound so reasonable.but ive been freaking out.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 11 months ago (15 minutes after post)

I think you should just tell him how you feel about everything going on because him moving in with two girls.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (16 minutes after post)

If he is moving in with two girls and a gay guy, quite frankly, it’s not like he was moving in with just that one girl. I know it will probably make you feel a little uneasy but maybe you can hang out at their apartment a lot and get to know the people he will be living with. Who knows, they might turn out to be great friends.

Don’t judge the situation too quickly. Give it a little time and keep an open mind. You don’t really know just now, how everything will turn out.

kdawn13 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Thank you so much. I think i will talk to him and it is good just to get a reality check because im probably just overthinking things

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Dr. Ralph 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (47 minutes after post)

Seems really hard for me to accept.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (13 hours, 10 minutes after post)

kdawn13 wrote:
Thank you so much. I think i will talk to him and it is good just to get a reality check because im probably just overthinking things

I can relate to the over-thinking thing. I have a tendency to do that a lot myself, seeing problems that aren’t really there and being my own worse enemy.

But do talk to him about it. It might help ease your mind… :)

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