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Honestly I find it cliche’ when people do these elaborate proposals like blimps, game signs, cops pulling you over, and so on. Though I will admit I thought it was neat when i saw a video one time of a guy in armor, on a horse, arriving at the womans work just to propose.
Dr. Jackson wrote: Honestly I find it cliche’ when people do these elaborate proposals like blimps, game signs, cops pulling you over, and so on. Though I will admit I thought it was neat when i saw a video one time of a guy in armor, on a horse, arriving at the womans work just to propose.
oh man, that would be awesome. embarrassing, but still very “hell yeah!” awesome. ;)
Hmmm, that’s a tough question. I’ve actually always dreamed about getting proposed too more than I have of getting married. . .however. It’s tough to think of something.
I would like to be taken to my favorite place, like the zoo. Or a pet store or something and I would want the ring to be hidden in a cute place with an animal? Hahaha. Kind of silly. But honestly? With me, no matter where the proposal (As long as it’s with the right guy) I’d be so overwhelmed with happiness that I just would be happy no matter what they did. Unless of course, he put it in a smoothie and I swallowed it something stupid.
yeah, the she-ate-the-engagement-ring story is one i’ve definitely heard of. i would never in a million years consider that if i was a guy, considering how much those rings cost, nowadays!
what are some other ideas you’ve thought of? i’ve never really given much thought to how i’d like a proposal to go down. i feel like i should have.
I think an earnest proposal should be when you guys are doing something special to you two or it just seems right. I don’t like big public ones myself. I think it takes attention away from the real question. Do you two want to spend the rest of your lives together? So yeah, ramantic places are great, but it shouldn’t be about a show. I really think unless the guy knows the girl wants attention it should be private. …..I mean other people who are really asking might not really be in a position to know the answer. you guys have talked about your future though so congrat’s ahead of time. :)
PS hiding rings can lead to lose of rings, swallowing of rings, and various other mishaps so I hope he’s careful it you like surprises
LadyMufflewump wrote: Errr, not to be critical, but … shouldn’t it be a surprise?
well we both know it’s going to happen. i wasn’t going to hand him written instructions or anything, but i was just curious because i’ve never thought of it before. ;)
i don’t understand the surprise element too much. if someone genuinely surprised me by asking me to marry them, i’d be like “what the heck are you thinking? have we even talked about getting married?”
When I proposed, I did it the old fashioned way. Romantic, but no gimmick. It was a sunny Sunday morning. We took a walk in the historic district. When we came to the waterfront, I got down on one knee and proposed. After she accepted, she took the ring of her former fiance (who had bailed on her the previous year) and threw it into the harbor. As it sank to the bottom I said, “When the ripples are gone, the past is gone.”
A scavenger hunt. Where he leaves clues all over the place before he goes to work. So you follow the clues all day. Takes you all over the city to your favorite places. Meets you for lunch at the perfect time. Then you follow a few more clues. Then it takes you to dinner where he proposes on an outdoor patio with candles.
or
Having the most intimate love making and afterwards pulling the ring out from under the pillow. Not romantic so much, but very personal?
or
Calling the newscasters and paying them as much money as required to propose to her on life TV. Telling her before hand to watch the news because he’s going to be on it.
or
Rent a row boat in a different city or country and floating in a canal or river. All alone, with a picnic basket and some music and just asking right there.
or
If it was for me, I would like if there was a box in my aquarium and when I saw it and opened it. There was a ring, with him hiding in a different room?
or
Making me a CD to listen to and having recorded his own voice in between a few of the songs. Then having you listen to the CD with him. And getting on one knee while the CD plays the music and his proposal. Could be said in person too.
Sans Unleashed wrote: When I proposed, I did it the old fashioned way. Romantic, but no gimmick. It was a sunny Sunday morning. We took a walk in the historic district. When we came to the waterfront, I got down on one knee and proposed. After she accepted, she took the ring of her former fiance (who had bailed on her the previous year) and threw it into the harbor. As it sank to the bottom I said, “When the ripples are gone, the past is gone.”
now that’s a story i like. that sounds wonderful. :)
domestic wrote: I think an earnest proposal should be when you guys are doing something special to you two or it just seems right. I don’t like big public ones myself. I think it takes attention away from the real question. Do you two want to spend the rest of your lives together? So yeah, ramantic places are great, but it shouldn’t be about a show. I really think unless the guy knows the girl wants attention it should be private. …..I mean other people who are really asking might not really be in a position to know the answer. you guys have talked about your future though so congrat’s ahead of time. :)
PS hiding rings can lead to lose of rings, swallowing of rings, and various other mishaps so I hope he’s careful it you like surprises
thank you! i’m looking forward to so much in the future. :)
and yeah, i agree that private proposals are more meaningful. i like the “it’s just you, and me” intimacy of the moment. some girls do like the whole world knowing, though. that’s interesting, too.
Sans Unleashed wrote: When I proposed, I did it the old fashioned way. Romantic, but no gimmick. It was a sunny Sunday morning. We took a walk in the historic district. When we came to the waterfront, I got down on one knee and proposed. After she accepted, she took the ring of her former fiance (who had bailed on her the previous year) and threw it into the harbor. As it sank to the bottom I said, “When the ripples are gone, the past is gone.”
now that’s a story i like. that sounds wonderful. :)
I forgot to mention that we were walking my 12 year old golden retriever at the time, who was dying of cancer. He chose the place where I proposed by stopping and just waiting until I knew that was time. And no, it wasn’t a complete surprise, just a little.
a-cortex, those ideas are so interesting! each way says something a little bit different. the elaborately planned ones seem so dedicated, and the spontaneous and sweet ones seem so genuine. :]
Faith&Reason wrote: who cares how it happens, it’s all good! congratulations!! :D
thank you! :D yeah, he could propose to me with nothing more than a kiss and a hug, and i would be overjoyed. he’s much more of a romantic than i am, and he wants everything to go perfectly. he really couldn’t go wrong.
Sans Unleashed wrote:
Ozylogist wrote:
Sans Unleashed wrote: When I proposed, I did it the old fashioned way. Romantic, but no gimmick. It was a sunny Sunday morning. We took a walk in the historic district. When we came to the waterfront, I got down on one knee and proposed. After she accepted, she took the ring of her former fiance (who had bailed on her the previous year) and threw it into the harbor. As it sank to the bottom I said, “When the ripples are gone, the past is gone.”
now that’s a story i like. that sounds wonderful. :)
I forgot to mention that we were walking my 12 year old golden retriever at the time, who was dying of cancer. He chose the place where I proposed by stopping and just waiting until I knew that was time. And no, it wasn’t a complete surprise, just a little.
i find that to be amazing, when you just know in your heart that this is the time to do it.
thanks for the invite…and congratulations on your impending engagement.
my ex was not very romantic….so i won’t share that story.
but i have a couple of stories that may help
one young man invited his girlfriend over for dinner. he had borrowed candles from every one he knew so the room was candlelit…and had opened the door to the screen door. when he heard her car drive up…he was down on one knee with the engagement ring (and box) in hand. he told her the reasons he loved her…his hopes for the future and asked her to marry him.
the other young man hid the ring in a park they liked to jog in. he planned a full day of activities and ended in the park where he produced the ring and again told her why and asked her to marry him. (oh…he had one of his friends hang out in the park to stand guard on the ring all day)
If I were gonna propose I would make it very personal amd just come up with something based off of who my significant other is and their specific preferances and such I guess.
Ozylogist wrote: those sounds like wonderful stories. :) how would you want your engagement to go, if you had your way?
(and thank you!)
well, i’m kinda used to the single life…so don’t really think about that much. But i would say…i’d like it to be private & not on the jumbo-tron at a sports event and not on a tv show. i would think more about the marriage and life together than the proposal & wedding. at my stage of life….it would have to be spontaneous and elopement …i think ;)
Ozylogist wrote: those sounds like wonderful stories. :) how would you want your engagement to go, if you had your way?
(and thank you!)
well, i’m kinda used to the single life…so don’t really think about that much. But i would say…i’d like it to be private & not on the jumbo-tron at a sports event and not on a tv show. i would think more about the marriage and life together than the proposal & wedding. at my stage of life….it would have to be spontaneous and elopement …i think ;)
yeah, elopement always sounded better than wedding to me too. I know some great places to party after all that would cost way less than a wedding. My mom would hunt me down with knives though ;)
First, congrat Ozy. I hope that you are over the moon.
Give him nonspecific ideas that would help him to create a wonderful moment for you?
like:
-do you want to be alone or in public?
-is there something that you do NOT want… like friends to know first?
-would you like him to “ask” your family first?
-what feelings do you hope to have in the moment? excited, romantic, suprised,
-is there an activily or a tallent that is very ‘you guys” that would be great… guitar, hiking…
Haha! Oh my god! Someone posted the Trolol video! That thing makes me laugh hysterically every time.
I saw someone mention that it wouldn’t be a surprise if you know he’s going to propose but that’s not true. It still can be a surprise because it can happen when you least expect it. If you’ve seen The Office I thought it was cute how Jim proposed to Pam, and he kept her guessing all the time.
Honestly, when I propose to a girl one day I’m going to keep it small and personal. I won’t put her name on a big billboard sign or anything. I think the sentiment is what matters and not the flashiness. I’ll probably take her to her favorite place or a place that is special to us after giving her whatever her favorite food is and I’ll see if the moment seems right. I think the bigger the idea, the worse the idea usually. It needs to be small and personal, not big and advertised.
if i decided to get married, i’d probably have to wait for a good day. a day where nothing stupid happens at work, just everything is going fine kind of day. surprise her with some sort of nice dinner, then do something fun. it really depends on the girl, so it’s hard to be specific. but then she could find surprise #1, which is also a mystery because it would be something i made for her personally. probably a badass painting or a sculpture, which would have a personal meaning to both of us. at that point we would be near home again, after dinner and stuff so we’d take the scenic route back. i invite her in, and let her walk in first so that she finds surprise #2. right in front of the entryway is a table with the ring box, probably flowers and a light on it and stuff. enough to make sure she notices the table with the ring on it, and not just walk past it or trip over it. i dont imagine she’d say anything right away, so i’d let her be confused for a second before i step in and take the ring out of the box. then i would explain what’s going on here, get down and offer the ring.
thats all just off the top of my head, so it will probably happen differently! maybe she doesn’t like surprises, in which case i would have to do something different…
This is actually the best proposal I’ve seen so far.
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I wouldn’t recommend the extremes we found ourselves in … it being a case of us both on our knees in a bit of a pickle (to say the least) and him saying “if we make it out of here, I’m definitely going to have you by my side forever..” Then he twisted a bit of metal into a ring and that was it :o)
If I’d had a choice, I’d have preferred him to pop the question on a quiet country walk I think !
I’m not for commercialisation of anything and do worry that proposals are heading that way.. you have to do something dramatic and expensive and comptetitive now.
For me, the simplest things in life are the most beautiful and most memorable really.
so_sienzz wrote: This is actually the best proposal I’ve seen so far.
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Holy Crap. This made me cry my eyes out! What’s wrong with me?! hahahaha.
Cell wrote: My husband popped the question when we were sitting in his truck in a parking lot. I was so happy. I actually didn’t care about how he asked me. I just wanted to be with him for the rest of my life!
Just be happy that you both love each other and you’re going to spend your lives together :) it shouldn’t matter at all how it’s done, the fact that it’s happening should be enough for any woman, like it was for me ^^
Ozylogist wrote: those sounds like wonderful stories. :) how would you want your engagement to go, if you had your way?
(and thank you!)
well, i’m kinda used to the single life…so don’t really think about that much. But i would say…i’d like it to be private & not on the jumbo-tron at a sports event and not on a tv show. i would think more about the marriage and life together than the proposal & wedding. at my stage of life….it would have to be spontaneous and elopement …i think ;)
yeah, elopement always sounded better than wedding to me too. I know some great places to party after all that would cost way less than a wedding. My mom would hunt me down with knives though ;)
haha, good ideas. it’s funny how much tradition that we still hold onto, even if life might be easier going a different way. i don’t care much for a wedding ceremony or things like that, but it means so much to the rest of the family. though if i were no strings attached, i’d do it. ;)
cupcake7 wrote: First, congrat Ozy. I hope that you are over the moon.
Give him nonspecific ideas that would help him to create a wonderful moment for you?
like:
-do you want to be alone or in public?
-is there something that you do NOT want… like friends to know first?
-would you like him to “ask” your family first?
-what feelings do you hope to have in the moment? excited, romantic, suprised,
-is there an activily or a tallent that is very ‘you guys” that would be great… guitar, hiking…
ah, this is a smart way to break it down. i’m more of a private person, so i’d want it to be just me and him. and everyone, like us, will probably know it’s coming, but the special moment, should just be between us. and no matter what happens, i’ll be out of my mind with excitement. my boyfriend is a magnificent cook, and exploring new places (like restaurants, museums, or concert halls) or going on long walks is something we both enjoy as “our” time.
Nante wrote: Why not just jumpc out of a cake?
That can never be done enough.
i should tell him that. half naked and with nipple tassles too! ;)
Marquis De’Carabas wrote: Honestly, when I propose to a girl one day I’m going to keep it small and personal. I won’t put her name on a big billboard sign or anything. I think the sentiment is what matters and not the flashiness. I’ll probably take her to her favorite place or a place that is special to us after giving her whatever her favorite food is and I’ll see if the moment seems right. I think the bigger the idea, the worse the idea usually. It needs to be small and personal, not big and advertised.
yeah, i can understand the desire to want to go big, but putting someone on the spot in front of a whole bunch of people seems to sap the intimacy out of the moment.
check it out… its funny or insping wedding or propsal pic and videos.
Pyro the Cat wrote: if i decided to get married, i’d probably have to wait for a good day. a day where nothing stupid happens at work, just everything is going fine kind of day. surprise her with some sort of nice dinner, then do something fun. it really depends on the girl, so it’s hard to be specific. but then she could find surprise #1, which is also a mystery because it would be something i made for her personally. probably a badass painting or a sculpture, which would have a personal meaning to both of us. at that point we would be near home again, after dinner and stuff so we’d take the scenic route back. i invite her in, and let her walk in first so that she finds surprise #2. right in front of the entryway is a table with the ring box, probably flowers and a light on it and stuff. enough to make sure she notices the table with the ring on it, and not just walk past it or trip over it. i dont imagine she’d say anything right away, so i’d let her be confused for a second before i step in and take the ring out of the box. then i would explain what’s going on here, get down and offer the ring.
thats all just off the top of my head, so it will probably happen differently! maybe she doesn’t like surprises, in which case i would have to do something different…
that sounds really sweet. :) i think that sounds like a good plan.
mumstheword wrote: I wouldn’t recommend the extremes we found ourselves in … it being a case of us both on our knees in a bit of a pickle (to say the least) and him saying “if we make it out of here, I’m definitely going to have you by my side forever..” Then he twisted a bit of metal into a ring and that was it :o)
If I’d had a choice, I’d have preferred him to pop the question on a quiet country walk I think !
I’m not for commercialisation of anything and do worry that proposals are heading that way.. you have to do something dramatic and expensive and comptetitive now.
For me, the simplest things in life are the most beautiful and most memorable really.
wow, it sounds like you were the one living life like a movie! that sounds like a crazy story, and i bet that’s an interesting one to tell. ;)
i do like the simple ones. maybe not as clever or elaborate, but if it’s heartfelt, that’s all that matters.
so_sienzz wrote: This is actually the best proposal I’ve seen so far.
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Get Howie Mandel and a flashmob involved! :P
man, this makes me wish a flash mob would appear every time we got said. you might be as confused as hell, but you can’t keep crying if people are singing and doing dances, leaps, and twirls for you. that girl looked beside herself!
Cell wrote: My husband popped the question when we were sitting in his truck in a parking lot. I was so happy. I actually didn’t care about how he asked me. I just wanted to be with him for the rest of my life!
Gage’s property wrote: Just be happy that you both love each other and you’re going to spend your lives together :) it shouldn’t matter at all how it’s done, the fact that it’s happening should be enough for any woman, like it was for me ^^
LadyMufflewump wrote: perfect way to propose = sincerely, from the heart
I’d want to be taken to a meaningful spot to us and reminded of what made that spot important then proposed to. (like, if it was my last, the comic shop we met at where he use to work).
mumstheword wrote: “wow, it sounds like you were the one living life like a movie! that sounds like a crazy story, and i bet that’s an interesting one to tell. ;)”
Sadly neither Bruce Willis nor Indiana Jones turned up despite my appeals :o) but yeah, crazy story, crazy times.
sounds book-worthy. you should write your autobiography some day. maybe not publish it, but pass it down to your daughter, or granddaughter. some stories shouldn’t be forgotten. :)
soccer_chick101 wrote: Go to one of the places that means the most to you as a couple - such as where you had your first kiss, met, first date .etc.
And let there be a surprise in there somewhere.
i see what you mean that the surprise part is kind of important. even if you know it’s coming, there’s that beautiful thrill of, “this is it!” when the moment is right. :)
he drove 12 hours to be with me for my 21st birthday and he asked me again what i wanted. i just told him i wanted it to be just him and me. :3
corriga wrote: I’d want to be taken to a meaningful spot to us and reminded of what made that spot important then proposed to. (like, if it was my last, the comic shop we met at where he use to work).
a proposal in a comic shop. :] that’s sweet. our first date was in italy, so that would be a totally cool place to propose if we were rich and could just fly out there (i wish!).
It’d be night and snowing. We’d be on a walk and stop at a bench under a lamppost to watch the snow fall through the light. That’s always a beautiful scene; I have many memories I treasure about doing this. There’s something about the light in the darkness at night while it’s snowing to make the world a wondrous place.
Of course, there would be warm raspberry-flavored hot chocolate waiting for us when we got back out of the cold, but for the moment there’s only one thing on my mind, her.
It’d be a simple ring, yet elegant. A central diamond with small interweaving lines of rubies, topazes, and onyxes.
As she sat on the bench I’d kneel in front of her and hold her hands, reminding her of my weaknesses and failures, hopes and fears, strengths and successes. Then saying that I want to share them all with her for the rest of my life, if she wills it.
I’m just kidding, I’ve never thought about this before ^^ It’s not a concern at the moment for me, and not too important. Perhaps that will change sometime in the future.
Remix.Impulse wrote: haha, well when my parents got married my dad took her to the beach and she went into the water, he buried the ring in the sand. when she came back he told her he dropped his watch in the sand, she began looking for the “lost watch”. she found nothing! hahaha theres a way NOT to do it. xD
oh no! well at least they did get an interesting story to tell about it. :P i would be out there the next day with a metal detector! ;)
DarkSnow wrote: It’d be night and snowing. We’d be on a walk and stop at a bench under a lamppost to watch the snow fall through the light. That’s always a beautiful scene; I have many memories I treasure about doing this. There’s something about the light in the darkness at night while it’s snowing to make the world a wondrous place.
Of course, there would be warm raspberry-flavored hot chocolate waiting for us when we got back out of the cold, but for the moment there’s only one thing on my mind, her.
It’d be a simple ring, yet elegant. A central diamond with small interweaving lines of rubies, topazes, and onyxes.
As she sat on the bench I’d kneel in front of her and hold her hands, reminding her of my weaknesses and failures, hopes and fears, strengths and successes. Then saying that I want to share them all with her for the rest of my life, if she wills it.
I’m just kidding, I’ve never thought about this before ^^ It’s not a concern at the moment for me, and not too important. Perhaps that will change sometime in the future.
haha, but it’s a very sweet idea. :) and that sounds like a beautiful ring. ;)
dude, if you haven’t seen bon jovi’s all about loving you music video, i suggest you do because that i think is the best way to propose and i plan to do it someday, given that i find the right girl.
The sarcastic side of me enjoys poking fun at the sappy side of me. ^^ No clue. Maybe after I’m done designing and getting it built it will be a beautiful ring. Since I’d be imagining it myself it probably would be to me at least.
the_rocketman201 wrote: dude, if you haven’t seen bon jovi’s all about loving you music video, i suggest you do because that i think is the best way to propose and i plan to do it someday, given that i find the right girl.
haha, i’ll check it out.
DarkSnow wrote: The sarcastic side of me enjoys poking fun at the sappy side of me. ^^ No clue. Maybe after I’m done designing and getting it built it will be a beautiful ring. Since I’d be imagining it myself it probably would be to me at least.
well i’m sure you woudn’t give your fiance a ring you thought was ugly. ;)
i’m one of the least sappy/romantic people ever, but my bf loves to be romantic, and so i like doing those kinds of things with him. it makes him happy. :) any ring would be beautiful.
Perhaps so. I’ve found that objects hold greater weight in my mind with the meanings behind them.
Anonymous#
1 year, 10 months ago (2 weeks after post)
I’m the “cheating buddy scenario” lol, returning the favor to you.
For me, I agree with the very first poster. I dislike cliche and would think it’s so much better to be truly original and unique between a couple. So if that means a casual but still special proposal, then that means 10x more than some canned proposal.
I would really want to show my lady how much she means to me, what I feel about her, and all that…but again not in a cliche way. I would find some way to SHOW her how I felt. As of right now, I couldn’t sit here and dream up of a way to propose to a girl because it would need to fit with me and her. Depending on who she is, I would want it to fit for her and mean the world to her. So what my daydream is and what my idea of a possible/future wife feeling special about could be 2 very different things. Plus the specifics obviously aren’t known so I’d take them as they come :)
But no doubt, I’d want to make her cry tears of joy, feel like the happiest woman in the world, and maybe be a tad bit bold with it so that I really go out on a limb to propose to her.
Anonymous#
1 year, 10 months ago (2 weeks after post)
No problem. I’m usually pretty good at acting or reacting within the moment, as well as showing off some creativity so I’m not worried about it not being special :)
I also happen to be the same Anon that gave a shout out thank you on a question a few weeks back as well :)
Anonymous wrote: I’m usually pretty good at acting or reacting within the moment, as well as showing off some creativity so I’m not worried about it not being special :)
I approve ^^ I like to go based off of whatever information I’ve accumulated through my experiences culminating in a certain moment. Making plans for the future isn’t such a bad thing to do, but sometimes those plans become outdated rather quickly so a fluid response is best, in my opinion (except where not possible).
first off theyd have to say how much they loved u for u. nd id want it on the weater over the moon with live music playing but it would be more wonderful if he didnt tell u what he was doing
I’d like something simple, like a walk on the beach while the sun goes down, or a day to ourselves ending with a home-made dinner. The idea of going to a location special to the two of you sounds nice, too. Simple and personal is the way I like it.
a few days ago, my boyfriend asked me how i wanted him to officially pop the question. i told him i honestly didn’t have a clue. most likely i would hardly be aware of my surroundings at that point. :)
but it got me to thinking. i don’t watch many romantic movies, and i’m pretty unromantic myself. maybe i can borrow a little bit of imagination. ;)
married people, how did you propose/were you proposed to? did it go as planned, or was it just spontaneous?
unmarried people, how would you want it to happen? what would be perfect to you?
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