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((((huge hug)))

Is there any chance of you getting back together?

Time really does heal.
First time i got my heart broke, it took me 5 years & 3 bf’s & a cocaine habit to get over it

/Hug
Just give it time, it heals all.

I’d take you out for a drink, but I have a feeling you don’t live near me. So take a raincheck?

why did he leave?

Hard Liquor and ice cream? Um, Okay. Where am I driving?

x_glitter wrote:

Dr. Jackson wrote:
Hard Liquor and ice cream? Um, Okay. Where am I driving?

New york, dear sir.

Hmm, that is a drive indeed, I might need more than a drink if I am gonna drive that far. So, are you a looker? (Blest if your reading this, don’t you dare say a thing! :p)

He helped you? I think he’ll always be a part of you then.

Hugs.

It hurts, no denying that.

well glitter, you don’t only ever get one chance at love. if there’s a legitimate reason to break up, then there’s a legitimate reason to improve yourself or find someone better. you can give someone everything you’ve got, and they can still leave you. it happens all the time, for better and worse partners. but the joy of love is something worth fighting for, so it makes sense that we sometimes have to suffer along the way to find it.

…ah hell…it…ok ok ok, this may seem mean but i did that a lot in my days and all i can say is RUN, run far run fast i did that to a few girls in my time now i know you didn’t say it but i take it he made some some unannounced vistits to you where you guys may have “Talked” now and again, things is if thats the case please do us both a favour and move on i’m only talking off of what i gathered from what you said but if there is any relation in what i said, Just stay away please

x_glitter wrote:

BuckingFastard (J.N) wrote:
((((huge hug)))

Is there any chance of you getting back together?

Time really does heal.
First time i got my heart broke, it took me 5 years & 3 bf’s & a cocaine habit to get over it

:/ I’m not sure… He said he’ll “get back to me” & that he’ll still contact me, but he doesn’t really answer me at all…
Yeah… it seems like I’m gonna be going through the same process. Except it’ll be X__years, 0 boyfriends & a lot of cuts & meds. This really drove me off. So unexpected.. *hug* :(

Yep, i know that well, i have a body of scars, a medical history of lots of drugs, prescription & illegal from that time & time spend in a psychiatric ward, but im still standing & you know what else? I’m stronger for it, no guy will ever hurt me that badly ever again, i have had quite a lot of relationships since that guy, ive even loved some of them, but i have never let myself fall so deep that he has the power to ruin my life, to rip out my heart & to kill me.

You see what i’m trying to tell you? Yes, it really hurts, it’s an awful time & it feels like there’s no way out, that you’ll never get over it, but one day, you’ll think of him & not really feel anything, your mind will wander onto him, but it won’t hurt you any more & it will be some other guy that gives you a kiss before you go to sleep & it will be this ’some other guy’ that you spend all your time thinking about & eventually you’ll be able to think of your ex & not see all the pain he caused, not see the hurt, you’ll just see some guy you used to know, thats it, that time will come

It is better to have love than to not have loved at all. You can only keep this as a memory. Forget about the “I wanna get back with you.” People like to talk. And if he meant what he’d say all in his will. He should possibly do the things that could come equally to your needs as well. Because if one person in the relationship is unwilling there is no use. As for self affliction grief oh man is that the worst part. Especially when someone means somethng to you. Everything is a process. I understand you though. Not exactly, but I get the idea of how aweful you must feel deep down inside.

I’m so very sorry. :-( *HUG*

No one is worth hurting yourself over, especially a guy. I know how you feel. It hurts, you feel like its then end of the world. You just have to stay strong. Get rid of everything to do with him. If it wasn’t meant to be, it wasn’t. It’s fate. You will find someone special for you someday. He is out there, don’t give up. Just believe in it, be strong and do what ever you can to make you feel better, there is someone waiting for you, you seem like a great girl, its okay. Just be strong.