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You will achieve it if you want it. Its not too late in life!

You are soooooooooooooo young. Some people just start later at things. I suggest you try a dating site like match.com or chemistry.com. If nothing else, you’ll get dates.

I feel your pain. The question is, do you want a relationship? You are still very young. I have know people in your situation that have never dated anyone. They are very normal. I feel like sometimes people read other people wrong. I never dated in high school. Not because I did not want to, but because no one asked me. I also at times suffered from this after high school And it wasn’t becauuse I was unattractive. I was more attractive than most my friends that were getting dates all the time. I found out that I was sending out the wrong vibe. Most people I found out thought that I was a *****. They went on my facial expression. I was just backward and bashful. I think you need to hang in there, don’t get discouraged. But maybe find a way to change your body language and signals. Also change your outer image to match your inner image. Please keep me informed and good luck!

find some geeky lady. they should fit your interest if and both of you have a lot in common, it can be a bit more lol… but don’t be afraid to have a 1st date. I remember I didn’t have any real dates until I was 18… and I experienced very quick. I’m a computer geek too.

SO what is it that you really want? to finish college? To find that one girl? ask and answer them youself sometimes. some people may know what you’re going through but they’re not you. They won’t feel how you feel, no one will. And if you feel like you should do something, just do it.

I know its strange but maybe you can practice the whole flirting thing online first then maybe it would get you past the awkwardness of the whole asking or flirting with a lady. I just turned 21 and can relate to your situation and can honestly say, getting past the shyness is the hardest part. Hey at least your not everywhere with every girl like most guys

i can relate you quite a bit. Im 17, and just recently (5 months) got my first boyfriend. I think you will learn that it was a good choice waiting. Your not waiting for just anyone. I wait for the right one to come along. I did. And i am happy about it. I could wait 5 more years with it without worries. I have had people intresset in me, and me in them. But nothing have really happened. So its nothing to feel sad or down about. I personlie think its better. I still do those cute little things with my boyfriend and dont take him for granted. You learn to appreciate what you have if you wait longer, what i think. But dont get me wrong, i know there is people out there that still do the small things they used to in the begging, even if it pass 5 years! So just wait! :D It will come when the time tell you so

There’s nothing wrong with not having a girlfriend. It just makes that one that you find all the more special. Alot of young relationships amount to pain and sometimes drama. Don’t rush it buddy just let whatever happen happen. I myself am an introvert but i’ve been lucky enough to find a great girl. Don’t sweat it.

There are a lot of people like you. you have to have confidence in yourself and truly love yourself before anyone else can love you.
Are you truly being you while not hurting others? Are you living life the way you think life should be lived?
Are you happy being in your own skin?
If things are rushed and you date any old insecure girl things will go sour real quick. This I know from experience.
Just be happy being alone for now and love will follow in due time.

Sometimes things just come on there own, it sounds like you have put yourself out there but sometimes things happen when you least expect and in some ways you may have an advantage not having to deal with the young drama that comes with younger realtionship, and just because you see people together doesnt mean they are happy. i think everything happens for a reason, if it is something that is really troubleing i would suggest a dating site this way you can get to know some one, and the people there are looking for something similar to you, down worry things will look up sooner or later.

i feel the same with you ,it’s common .and others ‘ lives are not so beautiful as it looks,so don’t be so sensible .everyone need love and company ,so try to give .

Hi dude, I can totally understand you as a few years ago I was in the same situation and as you said most people don’t/ can’t realise how lonely we can feel…
I found that often the harder I tried to find someone the better I failed so I tried instead.. my issue was that I was a bit introverted and lacked self esteem and confidence with unfortunately for us is a turn off for most girls.

If you feel the same you have to try develop your confidence, for example:
go to the gym, or get good grades in your study, work hard if you have a job, buy you a set of new clothe, read a good book, improve you culture or try to say hi everyday to one girl you find beautiful.

Even the most little things like that will affect your confidence and your attitude and with time you will start to attract people and they will come to you instead of you coming to them !

I hope that helped !

take care

I have been there myself. I will say that love always seems to come when you are not looking and are not trying. Just stay being a good person and you will attract a good person. And remember…sex and all the touching is the best when love is involved.

Hi I was just wanting to send you a message. I am 27 yrs old. You are still very young and though you might get sad or depressed you really shouldn’t. I know its easier said then done but positive thinking really works. You have plenty of time to find a gf. You are so young life is just begining for you. Try dating websites. Girls love humor. Faking confidence also helps. I remember when I had no confidence. Every time I walked into a room I felt like no one saw me. I would read magazines to help me and most would talk about confidence is key. I didnt knwo how to gain confidence so I started faking it and it started working and eventually I gained real confidence, honestly. Now I can walk into a room and not look around at what girls are more pretty then me. I walk into a room only worring about myself. I used to look at pretty girls and hate them right away but now I smile at them because I have confidence. Don’t think about what you havent done. Think about what your going to do. build your self confidence even if you have to fake it and everything else will follow. I promise

When the right one comes it will be special until then – keep trying and don’t give up!

don’t feel so down! your still young, I have an aunt who went through the SAME thing she is 29 years old now and just got her very first boyfriend through match.com almost 2 years ago and i know for sure wedding bells will be ringing soon and they couldn’t be happier. so just wait and you’ll find someone don’t worry so much. I notice that when you try to look for something really hard you never find it so just live life and don’t think about it so much and maybe you will find someone :)

The right person will come, for real. Real love isn’t something you can force. If someone isn’t interested, they’re not right fo ryou, trust me. Why would you want to be with someone who didn’t respect you??? No reason at all! :] The best you can do is work on developing yourself as a person, FOR YOU, immerse yourself in your interests, explore and try new things, and gain confidence and a sense of purpose, and the right one will come at the right time. Good luck, and I’m sending you wishes for it to work out :]

Good things happen to those who wait. I know there is someone very special out there for you. True love only happens once so u want to be ready when it comes ur way.

all u need to do is to come out of your shell try hanging out with friends even if you are in there mist aand you dont feel like talking just hang out with them.concerning the girlfriend stuff look out for a lady that you like talk to her if you feel u cant spin her your self then talk to a friend you u think can do that for u .

In this current culture I didn’t even meet someone worth being with until I was much older than you are now. I definetly wouldn’t take your not having experiences yet as any kind of proof of your future. Also, easy to say after you’ve found the right one. It’s difficult being were you are. Know it’s not forever.

iceman123 wrote:
Hi dude, I can totally understand you as a few years ago I was in the same situation and as you said most people don’t/ can’t realise how lonely we can feel…
I found that often the harder I tried to find someone the better I failed so I tried instead.. my issue was that I was a bit introverted and lacked self esteem and confidence with unfortunately for us is a turn off for most girls.

If you feel the same you have to try develop your confidence, for example:
go to the gym, or get good grades in your study, work hard if you have a job, buy you a set of new clothe, read a good book, improve you culture or try to say hi everyday to one girl you find beautiful.

Even the most little things like that will affect your confidence and your attitude and with time you will start to attract people and they will come to you instead of you coming to them !

I hope that helped !

take care

Yes confidence is my deciding factor for the right guy. Confidence.

I myself am single, i have dated before and i just say give it time

When you find someone you truly love you always wish they were your first.

give it time

You are careful it seems. This is a good thing. You’ll be in a relationship soon enough if you aren’t by the time I’ve finished writing this.

Cesar Millan. He calls it calm assertive energy. I call it yum!

Relationships aren’t supposed to be taken lightly. You’re still 20 years old, patience is something that’s important in these kinds of things because people who rush these thing usually end up not being happy.

you know there is a lot of validity to why you feel so lonely through all of this. But you have to realize that every person, and I mean Every person, goes at their own pace. This whole century that centers the media around young, unrealistically-photoshopped people who find love and do everything early only puts pressure on the rest of the world to hurry it up. And it shouldn’t be that way. I just read an article today about a woman who is a cabaret dancer at 70 and she’s still a virgin because she hasn’t felt she’s met the right guy. She said she had high standards, and you know what? She’s happy with her life and her decisions. Being an introvert is not a bad thing, it doesn’t make you a dysfunctional member of society or any garbage like that. It just means you’re shy. The right time will come when dating starts for you. The hardest part about it is the fear of rejection. But as long as you strive for that feeling of the hand holding and the sweet texts, you have to put an extra step in your efforts. Ask a girl about her day, try to smile more, and show her your interests and ask about hers. There will be people who will find you charming and wonderful, and who will want to take the chance to get to know you better. You just need to put yourself out there a little - and only if this is what you truly want. Don’t avoid people becuase of jealousy and fear that you can never have a relationship. You are every bit as capable and wonderful as anyone else. You know why? Becuase you are you. That’s what makes you unique and the sole reason why people should want to get to know you. Everything good about you and bad is what makes you who you are and for that you should be proud. Don’t lose hope, ok? You can do anything, and time is all it takes.

It took a great deal of brvery to post this, and I am so proud of you for doing so!It has been a year since this was left, and it is my hope that you are now involved with someone wonderful. If not, hang in there! Fruit worth eating takes time to rippen. Enjoy your life! Once you are in a committed relationship, things change, no real time for just you time! Also, the time that you are spending alone, you are discovering who you are REALLY on the inside, and thereby becoming whole. It takes two “whole” people giving 100% all the time to each other to make a relationship really work and produce two happy people working together as one. You sound like a real catch! The right woman will come along and embrace you in due time! Stay encouraged ok?