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Jail is a little tough if all you guys have done is “talked” hes still young, maybe get your parents to talk to him about rehab? or in sevear cases… force him into rehab?

have they sent him to a rehab center? my ex boyfriend went to one for about a month. i’m sure you can send him there longer if he needs it.

you can go to rehab for that.

Oh, hmm. well…

marijuana is technicially a gateway drug, but i have had friends who have and still are “pot heads” and arent getting arrested or sent to jail. I dunno i used to be extremely against marijuana, but after knowing a few people who do it, they arent bad people, or anything, they are my age and just either stressed, or dealing with problems.

Dont get me wrong, I’m not saying thats a good reason to do drugs. Im just saying that your parents wanting to send him to jail is a bit… extreme.

Im thinking maybe you guys should focus on WHY he does it, Not just the fact that he is doing it. There might be a secret stressor, or problem that pot seems to help him cope. Maybe family councelling?

if he’s so dumb that he’d rather smoke pot and risk his parents sending him to juvie, then he’s addicted.

♥♫sadeyes♫ wrote:
I don’t know how an addicted person acts but i can imagine is not hard to find out.
I honestly don’t think that’s the problem he doesn’t act addicted.

I assume this isnt a reply to my comment? if it is, his need for pot might not be an addiction reason if its stress related. If it is though and he continues to rely on it it can develope into an addiction.

I would have to say family councelling or rehab would be the best bets if your parents are seriously wanting him sent to jail. the justice system isnt exactly known for making people any better off then they were before.

rehab will be a nice experience for him. having someone guide all your free time, getting to know real addicts and losers and people who have real issues.

either that, or i suggest, family counseling, or boot camp.

DPT wrote:
For what shock treatment.
Hes 16, how the heck do you thick he is feeling.
This is common for todays youth after the change.

Does he know your parents have no faith in him and do not care for him at all?

dude, they don’t do shock therapy in rehab centers. -_-

seriously, you’re not going to help him at all if your family doesn’t get him to rehab or counseling. if you do nothing, this kid will end up in jail. maybe not now, but when he’s an adult and he can get to be doing real time.

♥♫sadeyes♫ wrote:
candy -I have talk to him but he doesn’t say anything.
I try and aks him what’s wrong but he just say school is hard and life is hard and “i just hate it”. He has told me when hes old he wants to sell drugs and that’s not good i just hate it when he talks like that. OMG i have to say this but his even growing marijuana in the house and i have a 10 year old brother and a 1 year old sister that’s not a good example.
i dont know how to reply with the box>

Cady, but ot importiant :P

Growing pot in the house? How does he get that by your parents? I would think it would use alot of power, ive seen many news reports that said grow ops were often busted by a sudden rise in electricity usage which seems suspicious.

Well… rehab sounds like the best choice then. He will see people who have been around drugs their whole life and who would rather trade places with him and have a chance at getting over them. I dont know talk to your parents about giving it a shot, no offence but it seems like right now… your the only one who seems to have faith in your brother to some degree.

But… if there are younger siblings in the house as well… if all else fails… im sorry to say it but maybe then.. your parents are right. If thats the life he wants… well. You cant force a person to change. Maybe a little learning things the hard way would benifit him. Talk to your parents. May I ask how old you are compared to your brother? older or younger?

♥♫sadeyes♫ wrote:
DPT- my parents do care about him they just don’t know how to deal with it.
my dad is a little strict but that’s jus how he is noboby can change him. I have talked to my dad but nobody can tell him anything.

Talk to your mom then. If they both wont do anything, and your brother wont change by himself… well, it seems to me hes sealed his own future. I would hate to see your other siblings get caught up in drugs as well from his influence. If my advice above doesnt work… well… its his life. only he can change it.

at least since he’s a minor, he won’t be going to adult prison.

well i hope you do something about it. convince one of your parents to do something. we’ve already given all the advice there is to give.

he should go to rehab, that’s probably gonna help

it is physically impossble to addicted to marijuana, fact! it can be descirbed as a personal addiction which most people call a habit, but you cannot be addicted to it. no withdrawal sypmtoms and its not like other addictive drugs like heroin or cocaine. If it is a case of he isnt acheiving his goals then he needs to cut back or stop smoking it, but when your mentioning sending someone the jail for smoking weed when there are killers and rapists and child molesters and horrible people in high places stealing from the world… sounds a little silly. Cannabis has so many medical uses but i do agree it shouldnt be abused. Educate your brother with the history of the drug and the facts, dont tell him hes addicted cause hes not, but you are right cannabis is a gateway drug, but so is alcohol… which one causes more harm.. alcohol… which one is legal.. alcohol! i think if you talk to him like a person experimenting with drugs rather than approaching him as if he were a common criminal then it might help, different folks different strokes but yeah give it a go.

he’s a minor, so he won’t go to jail with child rapists… yet. better that he learns his lesson now than later.

i’m pretty much pro mj, but punks like this need to get their life sorted out before they run into real trouble. sometimes a serious intervention is exactly what is necessary.

i wasnt saying he would be in jail with child rapists, i was saying jail is for people like that, not people who smoked a plant.

jail is for losers who can’t control themselves. this kid doesn’t just have a smoking problem. he has an attitude problem that’s going to get him into a lot of trouble if someone doesn’t do something about it.

that’s why i suggested rehab. being that mj is illegal, you can easily send someone there for that. hopefully the times he’s forced to live straight in there might give him some sort of perspective. you don’t have to be chemically addicted to something to benefit from going to rehab.