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Whoo, thanx for sharing that, I have so much work to do - and it can’t get done sitting here — just on your inspiration, I’m going in! Be back later, gotta work that steam off …

Wonderful post! Thanks for the invite. :)

thank you

Tinydancer wrote:
Haha. I just pictured you as a train trying to make it up a hill. lol.

Hahaa !! lol ! and of course, I’m late pulling away from the gate …. teeheeee

And show this to your friend:
 
“The Ten Minute Suicide Guide”:
http://www.cracked.com/article_15658_…

“How To Avoid Committing Suicide”:
http://www.wikihow.com/Avoid-Committi…

“What To Do If You Are In Suicidal Danger”:
http://suicide.com/suicidecrisiscente…

My friend is always talking about suicide, and nothing I say will make her change her mind. She says she hates her life.

Nice to have you back. Those are some great quotes. I like the Vince Lombardi one. He was the coach of the football team that won the very first two Superbowl’s. They call the Superbowl trophy the Lombardi trophy. He was a legend when I was in elementary school. We told each other stories about him on the playground in third grade…

Tinydancer wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My friend is always talking about suicide, and nothing I say will make her change her mind. She says she hates her life.

I think this is when you need to be a bad friend to be a good friend; cruel to be kind. Some people need to go to professionals. You need to tell someone before it’s too late. Most suicidal people don’t tell the whole world. They keep it a secret and don’t want anyone to know. Unless saying it to get attention (sorry if that offends but I don’t know the situation) then she will need someone past what you can do. Tell a principle, school dean, or boss. Someone of a higher power needs to know. And just do something that’s most important for a friend: Tell her she is loved and cared about.

This is really good advice from Tinydancer:)

We must remember that it takes professional training to deal with someone that is dealing with wanting to commit harm to themselves and being a good lister until they agree they need help is important. Also, never judge…even people seeking attention have tough issues. That doesn’t mean allowing them to take advantage of you, but telling somebody is the first step:)

Tinydancer wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My friend is always talking about suicide, and nothing I say will make her change her mind. She says she hates her life.

I think this is when you need to be a bad friend to be a good friend; cruel to be kind. Some people need to go to professionals. You need to tell someone before it’s too late. Most suicidal people don’t tell the whole world. They keep it a secret and don’t want anyone to know. Unless saying it to get attention (sorry if that offends but I don’t know the situation) then she will need someone past what you can do. Tell a principle, school dean, or boss. Someone of a higher power needs to know. And just do something that’s most important for a friend: Tell her she is loved and cared about.

I have told people. She also tells anyone who will listen, not because she wants help, but because she thinks it is cool. She IS doing it for attention, but she is actually cutting herself really badly to get the attention. She could die from cutting herself, because she cuts really deep, but she says she doesn’t care. Theres nothing I can do to help her. Nothing no one can do. She won’t listen to people who want to help her.

thanks so much, I needed this :)

I find when some people use the word “listen”, they really mean; they won’t do as they’re told, behave or are unable to be controlled.

That’s just it. It’s useless and short term controlling people with talking.
Motivating them and discovering why they need the attention is where it’s at if you really care or have the time.

This takes training and if you’re not skilled or do it the wrong way…it’ll be a waste of time and it’ll steal time away from you’re life.

Insecurity, poor work ethic, lack of self discipline, missing the earn and reward skills and just plain “it works for them” are factors.

My advice; live your own life. You can’t be your friends keeper forever:)

Max wrote:
I find when some people use the word “listen”, they really mean; they won’t do as they’re told, behave or are unable to be controlled.

That’s just it. It’s useless and short term controlling people with talking.
Motivating them and discovering why they need the attention is where it’s at if you really care or have the time.

This takes training and if you’re not skilled or do it the wrong way…it’ll be a waste of time and it’ll steal time away from you’re life.

Insecurity, poor work ethic, lack of self discipline, missing the earn and reward skills and just plain “it works for them” are factors.

My advice; live your own life. You can’t be your friends keeper forever:)

Oh, and let my friend die??????? Yeah, good advice Max. Thanks for that! NOT.

Good luck:)

Max wrote:
Good luck:)

You have to be the meanest person alive.

Sadly your lack of experience makes you feel like you know what you’re talking about.
That statement doesn’t fit.
I was invited to give my advice and disagreeing with me is fine, calling me a name…lol…….bye:)

I’m not disagreeing with you. I’m telling you that you are a horrible person. YOU WANT MY FRIEND TO DIE.

He wants my friend to die!!!!!!!!!!!!!