Love help: I just broke up with my girlfriend - Help.com

you should have just taken the time to get married no need to break up, you have all the time in the world to get married, but you could have stayed engaged and say “i want you all to myself and i feel were rushing a bit but i still love you so i hope youll understand that our marriage wont be here quick”

You can always say “let’s slow down a bit” without breaking up.

yeah, was she actually pushing for engagement?

take her back tell her you were scared you were rushing things and you didnt want to seem like you were being forceful.

I agree with Rissa Cole… You were just a bit nervous and should sit down with her and talk about it; No need to run away.

I agree with the above, you panicked. Go explain it to her, and maybe stop talking about marriage so much. The fast-pace relationship is all in your head.

How old are you? After about 25 women are looking for husbands not boyfriends. If she was pressuring you and/or she was not the right one and YOU want a wife, you did the right thing.

Perhaps it was simply an impulsive decision. I don’t think you meant to dump her, but at the time it probably seemed like right thing to do. If you really love her and have no interest in getting married anytime soon, then by all means tell her how you truly feel. I’m sure she will understand.

Can you see yourself raising a family with her? Fighting over who will get up to change the dirty diaper and then for the three o’clock feeding and still loving each other in the morning when one of you got no sleep? That is the commitment it takes. Marriage is not easy, hence the divorce rate of over 50%…

i actually do think you did the right thing. because it seems to me that you might have cared about her, but you don’t really love her. and she is ready for something more than that.

You shouldn’t have broken up with her, you should have spoken to her. Communication is important. 6 months is too soon anyway. I think you should let her know how you feel and if you still love each other then it shouldn’t be a problem

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I just need her to talk to me more. God I miss her. Yes I can see myself raising a family with her.

and yet you feel trapped by considering marriage with her? and you’re attracted to other women?

what does this even mean, “i just need her to talk to me more”? YOU dumped HER.

like i said, i think you did the right thing. you’re not ready for marriage, and you probably need to get things sorted out with yourself before you can start sorting out your relationships.

Without reading the previous responses, my answer is Yes. You did the right thing.

My girlfriend and I broke up after three years that moved far too quickly in the first. It’s like we’d already grown old together without ever growing old. I’m only twenty-five, but when we were together, I felt so much older, and so worn down.

Don’t beat yourself up about it. Six months is far, far too soon for any couple, regardless of age, to be getting engaged.

I really don’t think it was the right thing to do. Remember you are the other person in the relationship. All you have to do is slow it down. She’s not the only person in control here. You could easily have spoken to her or simply just taken things slower and she would’ve followed suit. I mean tbf I think a lot of people on here are negative. It’s not fair to say break up with someone just because things are going a bit fast. No-one was forcing you to move fast I’m sure. It’s normal to feel attracted to other people I mean there are a lot of gorgeous people out there but if you know you love her and her only then that’s not a huge problem just don’t get caught staring at anyone else whilst you’re with her