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I need advice on this girl..

Long story in a nutshell:
>fall in love with girl
>she swaps me for her former bf 2,3 times then comes back to me. We get together. Have best sex ever.
>after 2 months says she loves me too, but she was insecure, didn’t know what to do bla bla
>starts acting strange, tries to control me. I notice this and involuntarily start to not keep my promises (most of them money related… she had financial problems and I helped her from time to time)
>starts acting even stranger, odd behavior, jobless, gets diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and clinical depression. Starts taking meds.
>Even on meds treats me like ****. She wants me to have nothing else in my life except her. Every time I said “I am busy, I have no time, I have to work, I have to meet a good old friend etc etc.” she would go batshit on me claiming that “this means I`m not a priority for you”, “I`m sick of this, you are so immature”, then, the next day “I love you honey”
>due to treating me like **** I go into battle/defense mode. I stop enjoying time with her. I am apathetic, I stop making plans with her…plans on my money. I tell her what the problem is and why I act like this. She says she understands but continues to act this way with me.
>I dump her 3 weeks before Christmas.
>Two days before Christmas we get back together.
>Things go fine for a month. Then everything goes back to how it was. I feel like a slave, I tell her “Baby, we should be partners with equal rights”, she agrees but still tries to take over my life.
>I dump her after 3 months.
>She goes to a psychiatrist for counseling.
>Two weeks after we separate, we meet again and turn in fuckbuddies.
>Stay fuckbuddies for 3 months.
>She keeps trying to convince me to get back with her and tells me she loves me, tries to tickle my ego with all sorts of compliments and tells me she feels a lot better now, that her sickness is under control.
>lolno
>She dumps me last week. Refuses to answer my calls etc. Says I used her and I`m egocentric.

The bad part, /adv/, is that I still love her. I think about every day and I dream about her almost every night (mostly nightmares with her having sex with her ex-boyfriend). I am restless, I have anhedonia and I don’t know what should I do…

Any kind of opinions would be greatly appreciated.

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Sapphire_Torment offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (17 minutes after post)

dump her

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Siren offline Verified User (4 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour, 26 minutes after post)

good riddence, she sounds insane. you dont need that, it will hurt for a time but you’ll be ok

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1 year, 10 months ago (7 hours, 6 minutes after post)

are these signs of insanity?

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seasaltislandx offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (8 hours, 58 minutes after post)

You NEED to get over her. Trust me it’s for the better. Your spouse would understand these things and let you be free.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 6 months ago (3 months, 2 weeks after post)

I know exactly how you feel- except I’m a girl and the guy I just can’t quit is my ex-boyfriend. (I just broke up with him, but can’t ignore him.) He’s like an addiction to me in a way. I’m getting the advice from everyone to cut it clean, get away, and heal. (Oh, and there are sane people in this world, wonderful people and someday if you’re patient and you make yourself happy you will attract something worth having.) Hope things get better. :)

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