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My son is going to be two in September.
I dont not know how to deal with the fits he throws he acts crazy screams all these crazy things that i dont understand and he hits me and anyone else around no matter what i do he just gets worse, if i spank him he justs hits me more and screams at me. I try to put him in time out but that never works,,PLEASE SOME ONE HELP ME!!!!
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im not a parent but i work with kids. i dont work with 2 year olds (thankfully) but i can tell ya that im nobody’s victim. hold the kid down if u have to, explain to him how he makes you feel and how he is hurting you. i restrain kids all the time when they are hurting themselves or someone else. i dunno how much you can reason with a 2 year old but simplify it and give it another go. time outs work most of the time. YOU ARE THE BOSS. take away toys and treats if you have to but dont go overboard lol
oh and not my place to say how or how not to be a parent but try not to go crazy with the spanking, its a thick line between abuse and discipline but there IS a line. been on the other end of that one and trust me, its no good lol
good luck mom! keep trying…
Eep, my baby is thirteen months, and developing social anxiety. I’ve been scouring the internet for things that worked. I guess you should take punishment into account? What kind of punishment for a two year old, I don’t know…
Hi, I have a daughter who is going to be 5 soon and a nephew who is 3… so, I’ve seen and experienced what you are going through and felt the helplessness now and again.
They don’t call them the terrible 2s for nothing! Toddlers begin to be aware of themselves at that age and their egos are starting to develop (this is a good thing, they are creating a self identity). So, shouting, hitting does not help at all.
Approach with logic (but break it down, since he is barely 2)much like you would an adult (remember this is a person, not just your child). Talk about action and reaction, talk about consequences of action. Usually when we refuse children it is because they are asking for something that isn’t good for them, explain that to them.
Avoid saying no… instead say it a positive manner. Like if your child is insisting on a piece of candy, you can explain that since he is hungry you can offer him fruit etc…
Never ever change your stance because he is yelling/screaming- the battle is lost then and the next time he will start to ask by yelling and screaming since it worked so well before.
This has worked very well for my daughter. I usually, show her pics in books to explain consequences etc. All this has worked well for her. She understands that I have a reason for whatever I say or do… Sometimes though since she is a child she tells me to just pretend it is okay and let her do what she wants anyway :)
Have you watched the ‘Happiest toddler on the block’? Look at the reviews on amazon. I downloaded it from tehparadox myself.
OCD… Obsessive Compulsive Disorder….Go and check with your Doctor.. Could be Food.. Could be all other things…..
As far as the hitting is concerned… Restrain him by holding his hands together so he can’t raise them. Tell him it’s not ok, that his behaviour is not ok and it is making you angry or sad (be stern at this time). Do not lose your cool, do not show anger on your face.
Then take him infront of a mirror and show him how scary he looks when he behaves like that (always worked with my daughter). Smile, hug him and kiss him, tell him that you still love him but it’s not ok for him to hit you or anyone (my daughter would start sobbing at this point).
Sometimes children need to be reminded that we discipline them because we love and care about them- they think we’re mad at them and don’t love them.
Here is what I did with all 3 of my children. First, when they throw a tantrum at home, just step over them as though they are not there. After 10 times or so, they will get the idea that it will NOT get attention. If he is hitting, you NEED to put him in a chair/couch and sit close enough to pick him up and put him back. Let him know that he will sit there until he stops. Keep something to do with you, like your computer so you can ignore him unless you HAVE to engage. He may bite himself, the furniture or throw pillows. That is OK! I have had to do this with my son and there was one time he lasted about an hour.
If you are out, you need to stop what you are doing, put him in the car, and take him home. He WILL throw a fit in the car, but he will probably stop. There is NO need for explination, he will get it.
Please remember, it will take time. However, the time spent now is WELL worth it in the end. My mother did not dicipline my half brother when he was younger. As a young teen, he was in and out of placement. He is now on many meds to keep him from exploding and living with her, which he will be until one of them dies.
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