She Was help: i have to write a letter to my grandparents but idk what to write. - Help.com

Tell her about your life, about your boyfriend. Give her an update on things she’s missed in the past 8 years. Write like you’re writing in a journal, but to your grandparents. If you’re worried about handwriting it, type it first and then rewrite it by hand in stages so it will look very nice. Your grandma will love a hand-written letter from you.

I would hand write it, it holds more sentimental value. If my parents sent me a card that was typed up while I was in Iraq I would probably laugh.(Unless it was through e-mail)

If you feel like it’s going to be an awkward situation if you release too much personal information why don’t you just keep it generic. Maybe you’ll warm up to them… maybe you won’t.

Your grandma is probably writing on behalf of your grandpa. My Mom sends me cards all the time and it always says love Dad but in my Mom’s signature, it’s obvious that my Mom shows the most affection. Doesn’t mean my Dad doesn’t love me though.

aadasdasd wrote:
screw you!

Must be your grandpa.

I’d suggest you write two drafts. The first to write out what you first feel like responding (you can type this one since you are going to rewrite it) and the second as what you decide to keep in the letter if you feel some things you should remove and not put in. Though I’m not sure what you’d have to be worried about mentioning.
As for writing style, normally it’s best to mimic the way a person first talks to you. If she put in both of their names, you put in both of their names. If she wrote hers by hand, you try to do likewise ^^ Normally people appreciate the styles they are used to the most.

That’s too bad for your grandpa. I’d prefer to be able to survive in life wherever I decided to go, whether it was somewhere rich or somewhere difficult such as a ghetto.
However, with your grandma, perhaps a different focus would help. She isn’t asking to know about what kinds of problems there are. She’s asking to know about what good things there are. It’d be odd either way if a person wanted to only hear about good things or only hear about bad things, in my opinion. However, it’s a different focus. There is always good in life and always bad. If she wants to hear about the first, I suppose that’s her choice ^^

Grandparents love their grandchildren, no matter what! Your father had a fight with them when you were 10, and you haven’t seen them since then? Seems to me you barely got to know them before the Great Wall was put up. Now that you’re older, maybe you would like to visit them on your own. You might find that you like them after all. I wish I still had my grandmother! She was really great, and I adored her. Rich or not, your grandparents are part of you, and you might learn a lot by getting to know them – plus you might enjoy letting them dote on you! Grandparents are good at that. : )

I think it was very nice of your grandmother to write you such a sweet and personal note and some money. You are fortunate to have someone like her in your life.

I would respond to her the same way she acted towards you. Tell her about the boy and tell her how much you appreciate her sharing her experiences with you. Tell her you miss her and would really like to get to know her better, and thank her for the gift.

Her fussing at you for your table manners was more of a slight at your parents for not bringing you up in the fashion she would have expected them to. Many times people with money want their children and grandchildren to have a bit of class and not act like a bum off the street who has never seen the finer things in life. She can’t help it. 50 years ago there was much more of a class system and your manners and speech decided your place in society. This still goes on in very wealthy circles but not so much in mainstream America….

Write them back and just say thank you for the gift for now. No need to write anything dramatic and your grandma is trying to make a fresh start. I’ll bet she has cried a lot missing you because of a fight her husband and your father had. After you send the initial thank you, you might want to send another note or call her and ask if she will meet you for lunch if she lives close by, or tell her you would like to see her. You have forgotten her because of stupid mistakes adults made. You deserve your grandma’s love and she is reaching out to you. You can see her without your dad or grandpa around if you want. You might find you like her and start to remember things about her from when you were little. She is reaching out to you. Reach back and see what happens. Leave your grandpa and your dad out of it.

Dr. Ralph wrote:
I think it was very nice of your grandmother to write you such a sweet and personal note and some money. You are fortunate to have someone like her in your life.

I would respond to her the same way she acted towards you. Tell her about the boy and tell her how much you appreciate her sharing her experiences with you. Tell her you miss her and would really like to get to know her better, and thank her for the gift.

Her fussing at you for your table manners was more of a slight at your parents for not bringing you up in the fashion she would have expected them to. Many times people with money want their children and grandchildren to have a bit of class and not act like a bum off the street who has never seen the finer things in life. She can’t help it. 50 years ago there was much more of a class system and your manners and speech decided your place in society. This still goes on in very wealthy circles but not so much in mainstream America….

Good points, Ralphie!!