Love help: Hi, I am 16.5 weeks pregnant and having a hard time with my emotions. - Help.com

Cell wrote:
How would you hurt the baby?

Female hormones are horrible. Just hang on it’ll probably get better.

lol I know but…whenever me and hubby get into argument, i lose all control of my emotions and get upset really easily and quickly and I cry pretty good for awhile and then I don’t feel good after :( very sore in pelvic area (like today). i can’t hurt the baby. i wouldn’t be able to live with myself and i’ve already had a few pregnancy scares though they checked the baby and me pretty thoroughly friday and baby was doing great.

~Empress~ Chaos wrote:
Find what calms you down or sooths you?

Also find what is making you so emotional. Things that just sends u over the edge..

All else being pregnant is something i would say makes a woman emotional LOL

Listen to soothing music. Surround yourself with light colors instead of dark. Open your windows. Live in a clean and airy atmosphere :)

i’m not sure what calms me. my emotions are crazy. i’m angry, then laughing and when i argue with hubby i get super upset and cry and then I hurt in pelvic area and get terrified that i hurt baby :(

Cell wrote:
Crying or getting emotional will not harm the baby. Being emotional while pregnant is totally normal. Warm showers always help me feel better.

then why do i get so sore afterwards? see i spotted pink last friday morning about two days after arguement with hubby. i got super upset (when i argued with hubby) and cried and i feel like spotting was my fault :( if anything happens to baby i will feel like it’s all my fault and i won’t be able to live with myself. we are super attached to this baby. we love this baby so much!

Cell wrote:
No. It’s just your muscles are sore from sobbing. Baby will not be affected.

Try to keep in mind that at least half of your emotions are due to hormones right now.

I know…it’s just hard. And when I get so upset, we really worry about the baby. My hubby says I need to do better at staying calm for baby…and he’s right…just have no idea how! Any suggestions on what could distract me enough to stay calmer?

Cell wrote:
No the spotting had nothing to do with getting upset.

Don’t work too hard though. Don’t do high impact work outs or lift anything heavy. Even vacuuming should now be hubby’s job.

I can’t do any heavy lifting so no worries there. I hope you are right. I’m super sore today after arguement with hubby…wish I would feel better. Baby is so important to us. We love baby so much.

Cell wrote:
Nah, he doesn’t know what he’s talking about.

well stress isn’t good for baby and i have lots of that and we both know it can affect baby. i get stressed when we argue cause i love him so much and i don’t want to hurt baby but i can’t seem to calm down fast enough :(

Cell wrote:
Don’t let him lay any guilt on you. I know how hard it is being pregnant and how worried you feel.

If he says that again tell him HE needs to be more supportive for baby and stop making you feel WORSE!

I can’t say anything bad about hubby. He has been insanely supportive and stays patient as long as he can which is actualy quite a while. He’s been very good to me while pregnant. Always here for me.

Cell wrote:
Nope. My doctor insisted that emotional stress doesn’t impact the baby.

Well I seriously hope your doctor is right. I still wouldn’t mind suggestions on how i can distract myself…even if just to calm down a little faster than i would normally. any ideas please?

PixieSticks wrote:
Hormones are going awol, especially this early on when everything is changing, just try to relax, and avoid stressful situations. Count to 10, don;’t engage in arguments, not worth it

I know…it’s more my fault to be honest. My hubby tries to avoid fights and I just make it worse :( I don’t mean to, I really don’t!! My emotions take over and let loose… I always feel bad afterwards for doing that to hubby and our baby…my other problem is that I think ALOT like all the time. My **** mind won’t shut off….if I could get my mind to settle down some or kind of quiet down, it would help.

PixieSticks wrote:
You’ll find things will get better, after about 18 weeks your body will settle into pregnancy. Just try not to blame yourself, you’ll be a good mum

thanks. hope u r right!

Cell wrote:
Walk outside, warm shower, chocolate ice-cream, sleeping - yeah sleeping, did LOTS of that while pregnant.

thanks. i like the ice cream part lol. i’ll try all of those.

caseymahoney2 wrote:
Trust my wife want through that.I would ask her a question and she would cry.I bought so many flowers that 9 months.

Thanks Casey Mahoney

awww that’s nice that you bought her lots of flowers though :) we can’t afford to do that but my hubby is very wonderful and tries very hard to help me :)

Pep with a JellyBean wrote:
Thanks for the invite, Cell

@ IDon’tEverQuit:

I’m currently pregnant (28 weeks) with my fourth child. However, I’ve been pregnant a total of 8 times and had miscarriages.

I can tell you that I have gotten extremely emotional during all of my pregnancies. It’s normal. I cry at the drop of a hat. My kids go to the summer movies and I take them…at the movies I do one of two things: cry or fall asleep. It’s totally embarassing to cry at “Ramona and Beezus” and “How to Train Your Dragon” and “Megamind…” *sigh*

One thing: Make sure you get enough sleep and make sure you take your vitamins and eat well. Those things will help your body feel better, which will help your mind feel better.

One thing to keep in mind, as well: I DO think your baby can hear you yell and I DO think that a baby feels when your blood pressure/heart rate go up. I know that docs say they don’t, but I honestly think that they do.

If you are emotional now, during pregnancy, you need to keep in touch with your doctor so that after pregnancy, if you get post partum depression you can be medicated for it. Nothing wrong with being medicated for a short amount of time when it is related to a major hormonal upheaval.

I hope you start to feel better. But I don’t think your emotions can harm the baby (make you miscarry). If you are going to miscarry, you will whether you are emotional or not.

Thanks :) Appreciate it.

cheesecakebaby_blueb wrote:
hi, i think you should just meditate… meditation is the best way to clam someone’s emotions… it will relax your mind and would energize you inside out.. try to look for some meditation-techniques in the net… :)

thanks :)

cheesecakebaby_blueb wrote:

IDon’tEverQuit wrote:

cheesecakebaby_blueb wrote:
hi, i think you should just meditate… meditation is the best way to clam someone’s emotions… it will relax your mind and would energize you inside out.. try to look for some meditation-techniques in the net… :)

thanks :)

you are welcome… i like your mini profile.. it’s exactly what i need to hear today… now i know and i believe that inside myself is something greater than any obstacle…:)

it’s true :)

cheesecakebaby_blueb wrote:

IDon’tEverQuit wrote:

cheesecakebaby_blueb wrote:

IDon’tEverQuit wrote:

cheesecakebaby_blueb wrote:
hi, i think you should just meditate… meditation is the best way to clam someone’s emotions… it will relax your mind and would energize you inside out.. try to look for some meditation-techniques in the net… :)

thanks :)

you are welcome… i like your mini profile.. it’s exactly what i need to hear today… now i know and i believe that inside myself is something greater than any obstacle…:)

it’s true :)

hehehe now maybe i could fix all of my problems.. :)

hope so :)