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Well all i can say is it is’nt my first time of breaking up, so why is it so god **** hard?

I’ve been with Gav a year ad a half things was great..(thats how it is) and moth after month we was getting fed up of eachother, he knew i wasnt happy but i had to try ad change my self to make me happy so i wouldnt hurt him…A few sundays a go he was at the pub with his uncle and didnt know what time he’d be back so i phoned my friend to see if she wanted to go for a drink with me seeing as i didnt know where he was, i sent him a text to say if your in the mood, come up to see us when u get home..(So he did) And i was called a spiteful bi*ch because he says i went out because he did..Why does that make me spiteful?? Such a horrible word! But i am only 20 and hes 21..Arent we meant to enjoy our selves? Why should i sit in my house all alone while hes out drinking and having a good time?
So i finished it yesterday not only because of what he said, i think its bee building up, its so hard coping with the heartache..Can anyone give me any advice or support out there? Hes phoning me, apologising for what he said but im thinking i deserve better than this surley! Should i carry on and be on my own and sort my self out and let him do the same? Why do i keep crying apart from the fact im used to him being here..Why do i feel guilty for the things hes said and done?

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Well all i ca say is it isnt my first time of breaking up, so why is it so god damn hard? I’ve been with Gav a year ad a half things was great..(thats how it is) and moth after month we was getting fed up of eachother, he knew i wasnt happy but i had to try ad change my self to make me happy so i wouldnt hurt him…A few sundays a go he was at the pub with his uncle ad didnt know what time he’d be back so i phoned my friend to see if she wanted to go for a drink with me seeing as i didnt know where he was, i sent him a text to say if your in the mood, come up to see us when u get home..(So he did) And i was called a spiteful bi*ch because he says i went out because he did..Why does that make me spiteful?? Such a horrible word! But i am only 20 and hes 21..Arent we meant to enjoy our selves? Why should i sit in my house all alone while hes out drinking and having a good time?
So i finished it yesterday not only because of what he said, i think its bee building up, its so hard coping with the heartache..Can anyone give me any advice or support out there? Hes phoning me, apologising for what he said but im thinking i deserve better than this surley! Should i carry on and be on my own and sort my self out and let him do the same? Why do i keep crying apart from the fact im used to him being here..Why do i feel guilty for the things hes said and done?

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michelle_parkin8 offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 years, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

What im trying to say..It wasnt just that about the pub, theres been a few errors that he didnt like about me and a few i didnt like about him..But why does it make me spiteful because i wat to go out ad have a laugh as well? Ive got friends who havet seen me since ive been with him..Unless hes been there too because hes frightend of missing something?!
I dont want to be spoken to in that way..Hes not spoken to it by me! We moved in with eachother quite quickley and im not sure if thats anything to do with it..I just dont know!

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An Unknown Location | 6 years, 2 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Jeeze..Ur making everything worse!!
Hes phoning me, begging me to have him back, upset all the time its only been a day and its just as hard for me telling him its over as him receiving what ive said! Money wasnt the issue!

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An Unknown Location | 6 years, 2 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Look..If your not willing to gimme any support just leave it!
He ist forced to do anything, he has many friends & family same as me! Im not showing off about anything and it was one friend i went out with not 10!

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An Unknown Location | 6 years, 2 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Forget it!

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ian.90 offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 years, 2 months ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

er…hogwout…i think ur making things worse? >

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michelle_parkin8 offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 years, 2 months ago (3 hours, 6 minutes after post)

Thankyou - Atleast someone knows what theyre talking about, cheers ian

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Mei Eishi offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 6 years, 2 months ago (21 hours, 17 minutes after post)

breaking up is never easy, no matter how many times it happens. you would think you would get used to it after a while but that never happens. the one i love is going away and i am going to have to do everything i can to stay with her so im up with the heartache part. i doubt you are spiteful for the fact that its a strong word and doesnt seem likely based on how you talk about things. talking to someone can help immensely so keep talking and i will keep helping you out as much as i can.

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michelle_parkin8 offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

Wow..Thanks alot, that made alot of sence. See, now im getting phoned and texed on a regular basis, asking me to take him back, and he’ll buy me this and buy me that. Im trying to say to him, u hve had a year and a half to change his ways..If i was talkin 2 him like crap..And he told me about it, i would finally come 2 my sences and automaticly think..”well if i dont change my ways, im gonna get dumped” and im suprised with the amount of times ive told him..He hasnt changed, he hasnt been any diffrent. Now the part is hurting me with all the apologies, i just dont kow what to do to get over it but not hurt both of us too much!

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Mei Eishi offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 6 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 18 hours after post)

you aren’t talking to him like crap, he screwed up. if he really wanted you back he would be asking how he could do so, no matter what you answer might be. if hes just willing to buy you things then he really doesnt understand what it takes to get back a relationship. People dont change on the inside so remember that if you were to take him back, he would be the same person you broke up with in the first place. I can understand the apologies getting to you but you have to realize that they are likely lies and you need to just worry about moving forward. i hope this helps and i will always be willing to help you out!

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Mei Eishi offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 6 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

im a guy so yeah…

and what other people… you? ya like you have been of help to her…

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michelle_parkin8 offline Verified User (6 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 6 years, 2 months ago (2 days, 1 hour after post)

Yeah i totally understand. I thik thats wot i needed to hear - from a guys point of view - his apologies are lies, n people dot change on the inside - like a leopard doesnt change its spots!!
Cheers Mei Eishi

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Mei Eishi offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 6 years, 2 months ago (2 days, 18 hours after post)

glad i could help, and im always here for you…

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