Confused. Heart broken. Love. Sad. Hurt. Deja vu. Frustrated. Hurt. Hurt.
cupcake7 wrote:
Confused. Heart broken. Love. Sad. Hurt. Deja vu. Frustrated. Hurt. Hurt.
i personally think you two should just say **** it and run away together. you obviously love each other so much and yes it would cause alot of pain for both families but you gotta do what makes you happy. and if neither of you are happy, then whats the point?
does that mean you want to go back to having an affair?
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sounds like a certain someone is doing something no bueno? anddd its hurting you more than they know it? youve had this before?
It’s hard for people to help if you don’t give them a little to work with. You’ve got to let this out somewhere even if not here, because you don’t seem to be moving forward.
Based on what I know of your story, this is what I’ll say:
There seems to be no reason for you to try to keep things the way the have been considering how poorly it has worked out. Whatever you’re currently considering, I would say if it’s more of the same you’re just asking for pain. You have to change something, for things to be different. And things being different is the only way you will be able to find happiness.
Good Luck!
I’m confused whats a love saga like the love roller coaster if it’s like that then you need to let the relationship go or your gonna get sick! Sorry if this doesnt’t help but I have no idea what a love saga is Sorry!
marylanae wrote:
I’m confused whats a love saga like the love roller coaster if it’s like that then you need to let the relationship go or your gonna get sick! Sorry if this doesnt’t help but I have no idea what a love saga is Sorry!
Saga is commonly used to describe a chronicling of events and things of the sort.
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marylanae wrote:
I’m confused whats a love saga like the love roller coaster if it’s like that then you need to let the relationship go or your gonna get sick! Sorry if this doesnt’t help but I have no idea what a love saga is Sorry!
Saga is commonly used to describe a chronicling of events and things of the sort.
So yeah like a love roller coaster
Cupcake, I completely understand you….yet I will tell you that you must do two things: one, tell your husband you are not happy with him and you don’t love him anymore and file for divorce…you don’t want to spend the rest of your life cheating on him right?…two: quit working where you are and find another workplace. I know it is easier said than done but you and your boss are not strong enough to just work beside each other and pretend nothing had happened. There are two many things at stake. You deserve a new life where you are going to be happy and loved by someone who belongs to you only and who would be your life partner and not somebody’s husband and father. You are a beautiful, intelligent young lady. You deserve a new start without anyone dragging you down.
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I’m so happy. But conflicted. I’m trying my best to open up. It may take a while. I’ll try.
Cupcake, what did exactly happen or did not happen? Can you tell us a little more so we could help you somehow, but you know the final decision is yours and it is only YOU who can put an end to all.
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1 year, 9 months ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)
it sounds like she went back to having the affair.
be what you are , and say what you think should be said.
We saw eachother first time since saying goodbye a month ago. Feelings are still there, more so. I didnt expect it.
cupcake7 wrote:
We saw eachother first time since saying goodbye a month ago. Feelings are still there, more so. I didnt expect it.
so whats the plan :)
I dont have one. I see him Monday for 16 - 18 hours straight. My heart is excited. Although my head knows I shouldn’t be, for some of the resins that it is.
The complication. The added one that I dobt want to admit to. Not that I am at any fault is his best friend made a move on me. This person is our third and only coworker. I haven’t worked in the office this week. I’m very blessed to have that opportunity. I literally went home to mom and dad for a visit. But Monday it’s back. I dont have a choice.
It is more, much more complicated then I summed up. But lord. Help.
His best friend made a move on you? Be careful. There is a reason for that. More in the email.
He’s newly divorced and was drunk. No. He knows nothing.
Isn’t that insulting that these men are thinking about you as an easy prey? What was he thinking, you are that easy to catch? Shame on him.
I am shaving my head and going to disfigure my face. It’s a plan.
Like I told you cupcake, you have two weapons in your hand: your beauty and your intelligence. A rare combination in a person, 90% of the time one has either this or that. So no wonder if men are attracted to you like flies. All you have to do is to shush them away, shoo flies. I call them flies because they don’t care whether you have wedding ring on your finger or not. They even like that fact you are married because it is cheaper and risk free for them to date you than if they’d gone out with someone free.
This coworker came to my hotel floor… Didn’t know my room number but there were only four rooms at 1:30 am call me and knock on doors.
Did you comfront him the next day what he did and did he apologize?
He pseudo appologized. I have to work with him. So I kindda chose to laugh it off. He talked about poor choices me made and asked how I was tge next day.
OK, so that’s the end of a private conversation with him. Show and treat him as a colleague, three steps away always. He will get a hint then.
Oh yes. The next day at tge conference he asked to have lunch, just he and I. It was via text. I just ignored it. Saw him later at dinner with our assigned seats side by each and *** across the table directly from him. I was as quiet as a mouse and just played with my food.
I wonder if *** asked him to get involved with you so he would wash his hands…. just a thought. He has to know something about you and *** and he definitely knows you are married so why is thinking he would have a chance with you? Think about it.
No. *** was in my room at the time he came knocking.
This other guy is ten years older then I. He has always had a crush on me. ??
You should be careful dear… things dont look that good. May be you should talk to you friend or some higher authority. But before that, may be you can have direct conversation with him and tell him, his acts makes you feel uncomfortable.
Cupcake, we offered all the help and advice you needed. Now it’s up to you to take them to heart and DO SOMETHING about it. You are a married woman who is obviously unhappy in your marriage. You tried everything to make it work but your husband was still unreceptive and insensitive. So the question is: are you going to spend the rest of your life with someone like him who makes you so unhappy? You can do something about that you know, other than cheating on him.
*** and you are a match made in heaven BUT!!!! HE IS MARRIED AND WON’T LEAVE HIS FAMILY AND CHILDREN. Would he divorce for you? The game would be over for him and there won’t be anymore excitements of secret meetings, hidings, etc. Question number 2: are you going to spend the rest of your life being someone’s second hand “citizen” in secret?
None of these make you happy. We offered you help but you still do not act upon any. You keep falling back because YOU let it happen. The change in your life will happen ONLY when YOU take charge of your life. It’s all UP TO YOU, when that is going to happen. You deserve to be happy. Do something about it!
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1 year, 9 months ago (4 days, 19 hours after post)
I’m not going to quote from your shoutbox but the last shout you left for chevy is quite different from:
cupcake7 wrote:
This coworker came to my hotel floor… Didn’t know my room number but there were only four rooms at 1:30 am call me and knock on doors.
cupcake7 wrote:
No. *** was in my room at the time he came knocking.
What am I to believe? At this moment, I don’t believe any of it. I feel like you are writing a novel and trying it out on us. This makes no sense.
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1 year, 9 months ago (4 days, 19 hours after post)
cupcake7 wrote:
No. *** was in my room at the time he came knocking.
This other guy is ten years older then I. He has always had a crush on me. ??
He is younger than the one you are having an affair with, isn’t he?
No not a novel.
I promise all here that this is real. The same night *** came to my room so did this coworker.
I promise my life. My everything on this.
This coworker is younger the ***, but still ten years older then me.
What I told Chev is true after one night *** came to my room.
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1 year, 9 months ago (4 days, 22 hours after post)
What love saga? You are adulterers. Where is the respect that goes with love? You can’t really blame the other guy for trying. You are making a reputation for yourself. You aren’t trying to hide anything or protect anyone.
You may as well go to his house and knock on his door. Tell his wife that you aren’t planning to get out of his life. Let the cookies crumble. The next time somebody knocks on the hotel room door, it might be her.
That’s how I feel. Useless. I didnt say what happened in my room. Not exactly what it may sound like. But I know it’s not proper.
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