woman help: Why is it that a woman tells you she loves you, tells you that you are her everything, says she wants to marry you yet makes you chase her still. - Help.com

Maybe she is too shy?
Or she renders homage to the old fashioned relationship style where men have to seize the initiative always?

Maybe she knows you are busy and she is less busy, so she waits for you to call at a time that is convenient for you?

She doesnt think of my feelings until after I tell her I am feeling ignored. Says sorry and then a few days later does it again. Just had surgery, she came home this morning and knows I have been worried but doesnt think to call me or text me that she is ok. I had to call her. Stuff like this.

shes a what?

Well, just seems that her social skills are not developed very well …

Was she single for a long period of time prior to getting with you?

that’s why i give preference to good friendship turned into love relationship

my boyfriend felt like this with me…. he used to think i didnt care, so he’d do stupid things like try and make me jealous to gte my attention but those things didnt work they just pushed me away. he was my first boyfriend and he couldnt understand me.

some girls are like that, bare with us.
she obviously has been through things in the past, she seems like shes probably been hurt in the past so she is like this… she might have problems trusting people, just show her your there, if u are serious about her, keep showing her, dont give up.

she will come around, us girls are really sensitive things inside, we sometimes put up walls around us to stop us from getting hurt…. her walls will eventually come down, if u are the right guy.

u want to be that right guy , right?

s for the not contacting u after surgery, i see why u may feel annoyed, she should’ve contactyed u… but she didnt do that to hurt u, so dont take it personal or try not to take it to heart. her social skills are just really not developed properly…

and yh, was she single for a long time before getting u?
how old r both of u?

she is not a hoe! the way she is does not make her a hoe!
boys who call their ex’s ‘hoes’ are just immature. they cant take the fact that they’ve been hurt by a girl, so they try and sound like they dont care about her by calling her a hoe.

the word ‘friend’ exists in the word ‘boyfriend’, so this is why i think a boyfriend and girlfriend should also be friends than just lovers.

fair enough really, sums me up, Meh give it six months, you’ll probably think she’s a hoe.

pikacheew, why would u say shes a hoe?

She makes you chase her.

that does not make her a hoe. she the complete opposite of a hoe, it means shes not easy and has self respect for herself.

@pikacheew, u’ve probably just had bad experience with a girl who used to make you chase her, right? and thats why ur saying this.
alot of girls get called things like a ‘hoe’, ’slag’, ’sket’ , when they are far from it , they just called it because immature boys get their heartbroken and therefore decide to call her those nasty things to try and hurt her.

@Anonymous. Been together now since October of 2010. I am 45 and she is 35. She is wearing an engagement ring I gave her 2 months ago. Yes she has been hurt before. Was in a previous relationship that was abusive. Thank you for the kind response! We actually had a very nice conversation this weekend about what I was feeling and she flat out told me, she’s in love with me! She is not doing any of this on purpose, just has been a bit guarded because of what she had been through in the past. Doesnt want to lose me and to just give her time. Well this morning I got a flower delivery, sent from her, professing her love for me. I was blown away. She said she will try a bit more. Told her to take her time, “I’m not going any where”. Thank you @Anonymous

@Pikacheew. Dude you got a f======== problem. Dont call my fiancee a hoe. You DO NOT KNOW her and that is the last thing she is. Have some respect for people, for there posts and for women all together. Maybe your age has something to do with your thinking?? If you cant say anything nice, dont at all!! Please dont post these types of degrading responses on my wall anymore. If you do. I will report you.

@Anonymous. Thank you. I posted a reply but for some reason am waitng for it to be approved. Probably because I told Pikacheew that he has a f… problem. ANyway. look for my reply when it posts.
@Pikacheew. wait for my response to post also. If u can tsay anything nice though about my FIANCEE, please dont post here again

ur welcome! see i know girls! i know why we act in certian ways, i act the same way alot of the time to be honest, because ive been through quite abit in my life and im only 16… my ex ..he was my first boyfriend… he turned out to be different from what i thought, i thought i’d made the right choice making him mine and i thought he’d understand, he turned out to be an immature, self centered git.
and now he calls me horrible things to people like a ’sket’ etc. because he is trying to hurt me… because apparently i hurt him buy leaving him. but i had to leave him, we werent right foreachother, he was no good for me.

@anonymous, hold on to this girl, she is special, she obviously has self respect for herself, because of her past especially, so shes learnt not to settle for anything less than she deserves, and that is a beautiful trait in her, that she has self respect. not many girls have that these days, and its sickening. please dont ever mess her around. she will come around, i promise.

im only 16, where as ur wife is 35 but i feel that i know exactly what sort of situation u and her both feel like your in.

PLEASE be a gentlemen to her. she deserves it. every girl her acts wierd has a story behind it, we put on a brave hard rock front and may seem like we dont care but inside we just want to be taken care of and treated right….alot of us are just the walking wounded.