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my psychiatrist tells me I have to deal with it on my own

I cannot believe this statement! Really? His/her job should be to WORK it OUT together with you!

“How to increase your self-esteem”:
http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnoses…

“Six Behaviors that Increase Self-Esteem”:
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“Helping Someone with Low Self Esteem”:
http://www.mynichearticle.com/self-es…
 
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No one is worthless, i don’t know what sort of friends you had that are fading away at the time when you need them the most. anyways, as Zirbel stated above, your psychiatrist should be by your side, this is really wrong to tell you that you have to deal it yourself…i would say try those sites which Zirbel gavce above, if possible change your psychiatrist and love yourslef, make yourself comfort, if your aren’t happy and comfortable inside neither can you make others happy and comfortable around you. Your aura sg=hould be soothing so that you are never left alone. don’t care who has given up on yopu, never let yourself to give up on you and the most important thing God’s blessings and Love is always there for you, either you feel it or not.
work on your weaknessa nd cross your fears instead of hiding and running away from them. hope things get better, stay strong not for others but yourself dear.
wish you luck.

i’m right there with you friend. all you can do at this point is do your best not to let yourself blow away and even then you might fail. i can relate to pretty much everything you said, all my friends have left i have no one (except help.com) to talk to my family and connections i spent years making have given up, i can’t find a job and i’m married to a person who i can’t see whenever i want and i’ve become self destructive and my biggest struggle every day is NOT harming myself in some way just to make it to another day. only god knows why i haven’t given up yet, but as i have been saying lately, you only fail if you give up. in a way this is testament to your strength because even after being alone and having nothing left your still here and still trying to find help. Your stronger than you realize and eventually you’ll be on your feet again. for now just keep yourself alive physically and emotionally, its all we can be expected to accomplish with the $hit we’ve been dealt.

You seem like a strong and positive person if you are still trying to make things better on your own even when everyone else has given up on you.

Can you help us understand how are you self-destructive? And who or what are you in love with?

Whenever im alone (and it is often nowadays) I tend to think negative thoughts. I wish to think a bit more positively but I really don’t want to let go of the past. What does it mean to move on? Is it to forget my love? I have always been the loyal type, and now I suffer from withdrawal. I have been a bit existential lately; wondering if there’s anything left for me in this world. There are days when I forget hygenic things like fixing my self in the morning and taking my medicine. Often I would not even get out of bed until late in the afternoon because I have trouble sleeping with all these thoughts. At the middle of the night I would walk in bicycle paths just crying silently. The next day I would miss appointments, to the doctor, job interviews, class, human testing. There are also terrible things that has happened, but I dont feel comfortable talking about it. I have thought about really harming myself quite a bit as well. I just feel that I can’t get through this by myself but I don’t know where else to turn. I will still try to be strong, thank you for all your comments, I really appreciate the support!

We can only draw so much strength from others after a point we have to fight those battles on our own if we wish to win.

You need to start by getting rid of self-defeating thoughts… From whatever you have said you seem to be your biggest obstacle right now. Thats a good thing and a bad thing… good because no one knows the enemy better than you… bad coz the enemy knows you.

Start with little things. Wake up, go for a run, have a warm watter bath, dress up… these simple things go a long way in helping you feel better about yourself. I remember when I was down in the dumps I wouldn’t bathe, would sit around in my pajamas. I was embarassed initially and would never step out like that or let visitors see me like that… but that changed… the more I dwelled on the negative things in my life the more I let myself look like crap and the more I looked like crap, the more I felt like crap.

Clear your schedule… but keep atleast 1 activity per day that requires you to step outside your home.

Do not go for job interviews or meet people related to work as you need to sort yourself first.

Enlist help from friends/ family- people you can trust to share what you are going through… if they’ve all abandoned you then you know what kind of friends they were. Make a mental note of the kind of people they are and promise yourself that in the future you will find better friends- you know the kind you can lean on for emotional support.

You are mourning the loss of a relationship. But, don’t you feel you have grieved long enough… not just for the relationship but also for the kind of person you were?

Think of this as your metamorphosis phase… you will go through this pain and then you will shed this skin and emerge a stronger, better, wiser version of yourself.

I BELIEVE in you… can’t you?

But how can I feel better, If I promised myself that I’ll never fall in love again? I feel its a burden I must carry till the end. I want a second chance. Are there no second chances?? Is it all forgive and forget??? I wish to make everything right, I guess if there’s any change to be made, it has to start with me right. Creed

Anonymous wrote:
But how can I feel better, If I promised myself that I’ll never fall in love again? I feel its a burden I must carry till the end.

Don’t be melodramatic

I want a second chance. Are there no second chances?? Is it all forgive and forget??? I wish to make everything right,

What exactly are you looking to make right? How have you transgressed?

I guess if there’s any change to be made, it has to start with me right. Creed

Right, all change starts from within.