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How can I talk to my abusive(verbally) girlfriend, I don’t want to end it with her because I love her.

I don’t want to threat a break up either.

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IrAdler offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (0 minutes after post)

Is she cursing you or why do you say she is verbally abusive?

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1 year, 8 months ago (3 minutes after post)

What do you love about her?

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1 year, 8 months ago (17 minutes after post)

I tried, but my words always get twisted when I tell her something. She’s like “no I never said that” I can’t explain to you how. I just get so hurt sometime.

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Melisa offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Tell her about your feelings and what you think of her. Be straight and open with her. she should be able to understand all of that, being your gf. If she doesn’t, it’s time to quit her. I know it’ll hurt, but then there’s someone else waiting for you who will treat you right.

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CA | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

Tell her that you’re feeling hurt about her attitude towards you. If she tries to turn it around make sure she understands this is about YOUR feelings, not hers. It doesn’t matter how she interpreted a situation if it still ended up hurting you. You will probably need to give examples if you want to get the point across.

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1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Wow, I know a breakup is never easy, but to be with someone even just verbally abusive is a really bad thing…well, you probably need to be more specific about how she’s verbally abusive..but I’ve been there and it really is wrong. A healthy relationship, friendships included, is about mutual respect and open communication and if you are verbally abusive to someone, you basically have no respect for that person. I don’t know your situation exactly, but I found that a lot of times relationships end because people only care about what they’re getting instead of giving..anyway, I hope you find your way and a wonderful person you deserve.

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moufette_l offline Verified User (4 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (5 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Depending on what you mean about verbally abusive you should point out that its making you feel bad. Tell her that you love her cause obviously she is not aware of it if she is trating you in such a way. couples have problems but it doesnt necessarily mean they are not compatible. work on youre communication skills and show her that you two can be happy with a little more respect towards each other. things are so much better when people improve themselves and make an effort. its efforts like these that make love stronger.

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IrAdler offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (16 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Verbally abusive to someone leads to be emotionally abused by that person. In your case she tells you something and your feelings are hurt and when you comfront her she denies it. Ask yourself: do you want to feel sad and hurt all the time? Is this what loving someone mean to you? Tell her if she doesn’t change her way of talking to you which hurts you, you’re going to leave her. If she doesn’t change and ridicules you for saying that, you know what to do next.

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1 year, 8 months ago (4 days, 4 hours after post)

She also complains about how she hates her family a lot. And when I tell her that I wish you could love yourself. She just says that won’t ever happen. She says she always tries, but it doesn’t seem like shes working on her self acceptance. I don’t know how to feel, I love her so much.

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1 year, 8 months ago (4 days, 5 hours after post)

Can I ask you, to ask yourself a few questions:

How likely is it that she will change her verbal abuse?

If it is likely, when?

Are you willing to endure that amount of time?

And if she never change (as we all , personally doesn’t just change, it takes effort and willingness), Are you willing to endure her abuse for the next so many years?

I hope this will help :)

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1 year, 8 months ago (5 days, 2 hours after post)

Its love I love her for the person she is when she isn’t upset and angry with everything keeps inside. I know it isn’t lust because I love when she is bare faced without make up. Shes just the way she is I don’t have to tell her what I would want her to wear. She makes me happy, we go from hell and back. Honestly I believe she will change. I have so much hope.

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Stephen191 offline Verified User (1 month, 3 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 3 weeks ago (1 year, 6 months after post)

Ma gf is breaking up n abusing me loads ..but I dont wan to how can I get her back?

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