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Help me wif my mean and selfish brother.

I hate my brother. From years ago of being seriously annoyed to dislike, disgusted to angry, hurt and hateful. Years ago(at least 5 years) my brother have being doing hurtful things to my parents and many many selfish things that makes me cant help but to hate him more and more. My brother is 10 years older than me, so he is turning 30 next year. He is a serious a**hole, and he do not behave like what a 30 years old should be. He is the eldest in my family and i am the youngest. To see how hateful he is, my whole family actually really dislike him for his endless selfish behaviour. He really did LOTS, sry, TONS and TONS of mean stuff really selfish ones over the years. So i will mention the most “recent” act(have being going on for almost a year alr though) of his.

This happen everyday. On weekdays, when he get off from work about 5-6pm, he will use his laptop to videocam/tweet/facebooking/social websitewithhotgirls until 1 to 2 midnight. He always use his laptop in front of the kitchen door as he need to use the internet and USB plug there. So everytime anyone walks pass him into the kitchen to grab some food, drink water or use the toilet he will get angry and pissed off. He will show that he is pissed off by banging the chair or his laptop. Sometimes, he will say vulgar words whenever someone start to walk towards the kitchen and he will also do the lizard ‘SSHH’ sound when the person walk pass him. He do the same to my parent, myself and my siblings. He don allow anyone to walk into the kitchen from 6 to midnight 1-2(selfish huh?? Cant he see what he did is sooo wrong?? Why he thinks he have the rights??).From around 8 pm onwards he will move his laptop and wire to inside the kitchen and use the dining table there. His selfish behavior will be even worse. Me and my parents cant even go into the kitchen to simply drink water, wash hands or when times i just want to cut an apple to eat. My parents do not want to have a big quarrel with him so they just keep quiet and quickly grab the things they needed and exit. One time, my mum went to the kitchen to hang up the washed clothes, my brother get pissed off and start to bang the table and make the loud breathing sound by exhaling really hard from his nose to show tt he is pissed and really don not want my mother in there. My mum get really angry and scold he that the kitchen is not his only and even told him that everyone in the house is really pissed off wif him and he makes other cant even get water to drink, and then nagged him. He bang the table and pointed at my mother with tight fist and told my mother to SHUT UP(yes he use the word shut up) and told my mum that she better not say anymore cause he don not want to quarrel with her. If my mum continue to nagg he will bang the table and sometimes he will kick and throw things in the house and shout really really fiercely. When my mum say why is he getting violent and disrespectful in the quarrel and he will shoot my mum by saying the that he have alr told her that he don not want to quarrel with her and my mum is the one who started it and trying to find trouble”. And he still want my mum to get out of the kitchen still.

During the weekend where he do not have to work, when he wake up he will open the television and use his laptop at the same time(the living room and kitchen is connected). He occupy both and other cant watch tv because of him and he occupy them for almost the entire day until he move to the kitchen in the evening.

So you must be wondering why he get pissed off when people walk into the kitchen. The high chance is he do not want us to look at his screen when we walk pass his laptop and out of the kitchen. You know those situation where u hate people looking at ur computer screen see what u doing and feel tt you have no pivarcy? However, no one in the family wants to see and no one actually see it. He is being sensitive about it and seriously why cant he move to a hole and use it instead? then i can use the kitchen freely without having to worry about him. This behavior is to the extend where my mum cant go and pour herself some warm water at night when she cant sleep and need to drink some, because of my brother there, she choose not to go. U may say y scare of him just go and drink! the kitchen is not his!! Yes, we all know but it is really difficult. My parents and I quarrelled wif him many times in the past, he just wont listen and in the end it is we who suffer from he getting violent when he knew he cant win me in the quarrel(he wont hit us though). When he cant win me he will glare into my eye and say shut up if not he will throw my items out of the window( my phone , etc). He is this kind of person. Also, he dont listen. Even if when we told him how selfish the things he have done, he will still do it cause he want things to go his ways.My parent and I gave up quarrelling or talking sense to him. I dun talk to him anymore, it is waste of my breath. I really really gave up. I cant forgive him and like him as a brother ever again. I forgive him many many times over the years and each time i regret doing so when he continue to act selfishly. I feel betrayed and one day i just only have hate towards him.

I still want to make him have some sense. I am really at my ends. I feel an unknown pressure and nervousness every time he comes home from work. And yes, i did hope for him to be dead many many times cause i am so misable. I hope u can get my ur experience or advice. Thnks.

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