relationship help: Would you date a girl if…..? - Help.com

Can I just ask: How old are you?

since you have been diagnosed, I think you should just stick with the therapy and see if they can’t help alter your thought process

I mean, you’re intelligent so you know that you’re not your skin so you just have to do what it takes to you come to the point wear you can alter you behaviors and thought patterns

I was with my ex for four years until she broke up with me. She suffered from anorexia/bulimia and a host of other problems and I was with her through all of that until she was able to atleast somewhat win her battle with it. Obviously, she had extreme body dysmorphia and it caused tension and she was often highly defensive. You may be diagnosed with an acne problem, but I doubt that it’s anywhere near bad enough to make you undateable. And if a guy won’t date you because of the clearness of your skin then likely they’re jerks and would lead you into some form of abusive relationship (as has been my experience with friends).

In short, I’m sure you look absolutely fine. But it’s not about us telling you, its about you telling yourself you look fine. You don’t even need to believe it.

As for your original question, I would date someone with a great personality that I really liked, regardless of some noticeable scars. In fact, I’ve considered it before, but found out some things about said potential date that I wasn’t happy about at all.
You are right though, you need to build self esteem before trying to get into a relationship. But then again, I honestly don’t think anyone should really TRY to get into a relationship. It causes people to rush and think irrationally, looking over obvious flaws in personality and maturity because they want a relationship so bad. I’ve seen it happen too often, even in my own family. Let a relationship come naturally, and try to keep from judging yourself.
I’m sure you’re not downright ugly, and I think you know that, so don’t tell yourself that you are. Besides, there are ways to get rid of acne if it really is a problem. A tip I’ve heard on the internet is to put a clean, dry towel or wash rag over your pillow before you go to sleep. I haven’t tried it myself, but I could understand why it would work.

The way you present yourself would impress me more than your appearance. If you think you are repulsive or even mildly unattractive, it will show in your eyes and posture and so on. Overcoming your dysmorphia is a very good first step.

Scars can be sexy. So called ‘perfection’ scares me, and makes me wonder what kind of work they’ve had done, and why they hate themselves so much as to torture themselves that way.

You probably already know this, but most young women go through a phase of dysmorphia. Many never get over it. When you are ready, you’ll find someone. in the mean time, though, find and or keep some good friends, both male and female, who will tell you the truth and be supportive and help you see the real you. Keep an open mind, knowing as you do that what you see in the mirror isn’t what others see. Don’t ‘try’ to date. just stick to situations where you are comfortable and where you simply don’t think about your appearance. Places where you can just relax and have fun. People will then see more of you and less of what you think of yourself.