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I am a high school senior, and am applying to colleges right now.

Within all the forms and paperwork, there is another problem-my dad. I understand that there are many people with worse problems out there, but, seriously, he destroys my self confidence. He loves and supports us, but demands good results (grades, awards, and housework) while yelling at me for taking so many AP classes that are not engineering related, like History and English, and doing much better in those than my math classes. He still hits us as punishment, and, seriously, has these man-PMS days-no joke- that are often the most difficult to deal with. I went to school last year after he verbally berated how I sucked in Calculus AB (I got a C in the first semester, a B in the second, and a three on the AP test) in the morning. I went to class crying that day, and was too ashamed to tell my friends what was wrong. My mom is nice, but a complete pushover. Now that I am applying to colleges, he is a control freak, and yelled at me for not getting my essays checked by my English teacher and threatening to punish me if I don’t meet his goals. I don’t feel that it is right to punish a 17 year old like so-I don’t really have privileges I can get grounded from, as I am already very restricted, like a nerdish freak, because my parents demand academic success and plenty of familial duties. He is the one who causes the most pain for me in my life-looking back, even in elementary school, 80% of the times I cried trace back to him. My parents want me to apply instate only, citing cost issues and feeling that I am not responsible enough, at the same time my peers and teachers tell me I am way too serious for my own good. I just can’t stand living at home for another 4 years after high school-my parents tell me my grades are not good enough for most schools further away, and because I want to go into engineering (due to my own genuine interest, not their pressuring), I believe I will have great difficulty looking for a job without work experience and with this challenging major, meaning that I will be dependent on my parents for college. I want to become myself, yet still be free to pursue my aspirations-how?
I am sorry if this is just a complete waste of your time, but help is greatly appreciated.

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R.A.M offline Verified User (4 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Im sure you know he wants the best for you!
and he hopes once you struggle through college and school everything else should be easy for you…
Too bad he is being a bit too over protective :(
BTW, how are you scholarship aplications going?
Have you been part of a FIRST team or other activities apart from school (some schools look a lot into this)
The main thing is to really be into it and take charge of your applications… look into the schools your interested in, figure out what you really want and do your best to achieve it!
If you need any hel, we’r here as well as your parents!
Main thing is to show some spine to your dad and no tonly that… back it up with reasoning and a level o fundestanding that should suprsie him!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Pay for your studies….I’m 19 and I work and pay for a private university.

At that point you can do whatever you want with your studies, although you won’t have a control over your life until you go live by yourself.

Your father cares for you, he just worries too much about the wrong things. He TRULY belongs to the old school. Have you tried a calm conversation, remarking that you want to do something that you like doing, and yet allows you to have a normal life?
Most parents don’t realize that studying something that you don’t like, and then having to work THE REST OF YOUR LIFE out of it, is the worst nightmare there is.

But if he can’t be reasoned with, you’re big enough to make your own choices, and in the end, you’re the first and last man responsible for your happiness. Keep that in mind.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (8 months, 3 weeks after post)

GO TO HELL!! As easy as that! ^_^
Just kill that ******* ***** father of yours!

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