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I use to see a counselor for some things I was working through.

This went on for about 2 years. After 2 years things were good and we decided that I should just check in once in a while to make sure all is well. I met with this woman a year ago (september ‘10). 6 months later (March ‘11) I ran into her in public, where she told me to call her at the end of summer when I had time. A few weeks ago I called because things were getting crazy and I had some time. I called her and she never returned my call. When I contacted her secretary she informed me that my counselor had moved to Arizona. I was obviously upset and have no way of contacting her. I found her on facebook, would it be appropriate to contact her and ask why she didn’t tell me she had moved? What should I say, if anything?

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FoxyFrustration offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (14 minutes after post)

I think U could ask her about it.
I mean, she should have informed you about.
She probably told her other patients, so y not U?

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xx_lily09_x offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (17 minutes after post)

That’s what I was thinking… I’m just so upset about it. Now if i want to talk to someone I will have to start over. I’ll have dig up what has been done to be able to explain the here and now.

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FoxyFrustration offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (25 minutes after post)

U could.. talk to me.
I have a pretty good intutition and sensitivity to people’s issues.

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Cannnnn offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (36 minutes after post)

Perhaps she has many patients. Also, she can’t stay in a specific country because of her patients. Sometimes people just move. Its not accurate to assume she told all her other patients either, what proof do you have?

If you feel angry I believe that’s fine. However, you should move on and if you really feel the need; contact with another counsellor. Maybe the next one has new/different things to say about your troubles that will help you? Its also a good idea to backtrack all which you have done until now. When those things are clear in your mind they get easier to explain and solve.

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~FlutterBy~ offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (4 hours, 45 minutes after post)

I wouldn’t think the two years worth of counselling would be in vain. If you were to contact the secretary again and ask her that you feel you need some follow up counselling and are your notes still on file, she will more than likely find them and then be able to hand them on to the counsellor that took over from your last one. Sure, it is upsetting that the other one you got use to, is gone, but unfortunately these things do happen, for different reasons and not to be taken personally. I would say, by the sounds of it, she didn’t even know she’d be going, because of what she said to you. she may have been requested to go to Arizona, who knows.
You can mention something to her on FB, but I personally would not, because I see FB as a fun social thing more so than business.

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