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really insecure,should I just dump him ?

okay so a little details,my bf and me,we’re 19 and been together for 3 years,so here’s the problem,my bf met this girl who he finds awesome because she’s kinda like him,metal chick,weird blue hair and well I’m the opposite a total girly girl,metal and me are like way apart

the problem,she likes him
she knows I’m his gf and still is clingy
my bf thinks I’m crazy,and doesn’t believe me but I’m a girl and I’ve seen the way she looks at him and gives me these nasty looks
thirdly he wants to make a band with her so they always talk
she keeps texting him,and my bf keeps encouraging her,I think he’s attracted to her
I told him I’m not comfortable with the way things are going and he’s not listening he’s bringing up things like I asked a friend for his number but that was because I needed him to complete a sociology survey.
anyway today she asked him to go shopping with her and he said he’ll go,he knows i don’t like it,still he said I’ll take my brother along
what do I do,its getting on my nerves,should I just leave him or tell hm to choose,i told him to maintain a slight distance,he isn’t listening,they talk everyday,I can’t tolerate it,if i would’ve done the same he would’ve eaten me up,what should I do ?

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monkichirmo offline Verified User (3 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (10 minutes after post)

talk about clingy. learn to trust him enough to have his own life(which everyone should, apart from your significant other). you’re scared he’s going to cheat? you think she’ll come on to him? idk what the issue is. either way he has the say, if you feel like you can’t trust him then well…i personally wouldn’t want to feel like a babysitter. not to mention you’re already telling him who he can/can’t be friends with, which is beyond what i’m willing to put up with(again, personally haha).

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Dr. Ozy offline Verified User (6 years) Long Term User Shouts: 34 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (5 hours, 6 minutes after post)

perhaps he doesn’t understand the seriousness of the way you feel. it seems like he IS trying to compromise - he made sure he took his brother along so they won’t be along when they go shopping.

maybe she’s giving you nasty looks because she thinks YOU’RE the mean clingy girlfriend trying to scare away your boyfriend’s friends.

just something to think about. if you always go around thinking, “i’m the good guy and anyone who’s against me is the bad guy,” you’re going to sabotage some decent friendships that way.

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1 year, 7 months ago (3 days, 2 hours after post)

you need to become her best friend (you dont have to mean it!) “keep your friends close and you ENEMIES closer!!!!!! plus, it may make her less appealing to your bf if youre always with her!

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