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I just found out that my sister was molested by my

father from age 6-11 through a post she made on this site almost 2 years ago (the username she used and the details in the count let me know it was her for sure). He died when she was 13. I’m 2 years older than her and its been 4 years since he died now. She never told me, even though we were close. I’m not sure what I should do. Should I ask her about it? Keep it quiet? I know it’s detrimental to her because she’s dating this girl who is 3 years older than her and is very unstable, a high school drop out, and does drugs. They started having sexual relations when she was only 14 and the other girl was 18. I’m worried about my sister. I don’t know what to do. :/

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The Sherlockian offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 39 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (27 minutes after post)

I think the most you can do at this point is to tell her that you love her and that you will be there for her if she needs you. You might also tell her that you are concerned that someone may be giving her drugs, and that drugs can lead straight to the gutter.

I wouldn’t bring up the thing about the father . . . not unless she does.

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*CaraMiaLovesYou* offline Verified User (3 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 63 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (39 minutes after post)

All you can do at this point is to be there for her with open ears and a very open heart.
I agree with chev.jame….Don’t bring up the father…let her…if she EVER does.
Right now I am quite sure that she is carrying quite a burden around with her.
Just be there…that is the best thing for her…
My heart goes to your sister and to you….Cara

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babacup offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

Sometimes a person can not talk about it. Sometimes they want to talk about it, but they do not know how. Sometimes, they simply are not ready to face it.

I think you should let her you know what happen to her, and that you are sorry that she had to experience that. That you love her and you want to help her deal with it. See is she would like to get some professional help, she is going to need it.

The main things is that she knows you love her and will support her through the pain she is dealing with.

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Zirbel offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (5 hours, 33 minutes after post)

babacup wrote:
Sometimes a person can not talk about it. Sometimes they want to talk about it, but they do not know how. Sometimes, they simply are not ready to face it.

I think you should let her you know what happen to her, and that you are sorry that she had to experience that. That you love her and you want to help her deal with it. See is she would like to get some professional help, she is going to need it.

The main things is that she knows you love her and will support her through the pain she is dealing with.

Very well said!

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gfrance5 offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (9 months, 4 weeks after post)

If you read about her molestation on this site then it is clear she is wanting to face it. It is always hard to approach the subject either by her or by a loved one but you can aprroach her this way…. “I read a post on line about a girl that was abused by her father. I feel so badly for that girl and I wish I could help her in some way. Even if it is just to say that I believe her and that she is loved. Then I thought what if she was my sister. I wish I could be there for her”. Maybe that will help her feel safe enough to tell you if it was her. Give it a try.

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