wayjo wrote:
insufficient info
see my previous posts
Is your girlfriend one day going to be your wife?
if so - her.
Otherwise, need to know more about how much your parents suck.
Who’s makes you choose?
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1 year, 7 months ago (21 minutes after post)
you shouldn’t have to choose
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Chunkymoves wrote:
Is your girlfriend one day going to be your wife?
if so - her.
Otherwise, need to know more about how much your parents suck.
Who’s makes you choose?
They’re trying to change me into someone I’m not, they’re begging me to leave her and my heart is breaking cause I can leave neither
My parents are making me choose.
Anonymous wrote:
If you are a minor then definitely your parents. If you are an adult, it depends. Girlfriends and not the same as a spouse. They may feel like it for the time being but the truth is relationships come and go. If your parents don`t like your gf, it would make having a relationship very difficult to maintain, and if the relationship did go to marriage, you have to think of possible children born into family strife where basically they may be cut off from their grandparents. That`s not fair to them. Also, if your parents are decent parents who do care about you, then what they see in your girlfriend should not be dismissed. Love is blind, good parents are not. If your parents are good (I`m not saying perfect or grand. Just decent parents who sincerely care) then when BOTH say they don`t approve of a gf, there really may be a reason that should be considered and respected because probably they are looking at it for your well being not to make you miserable. If your parents are decent, respect them and give them a little trust because they are your blood, a gf is not.
Thank you
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1 year, 7 months ago (29 minutes after post)
they shouldn’t make you choose, you should have a talk with them and tell them what you feel. they are your parents they will understand, they want what they think is the best for you but at some point they need to realise that you are your own person and they need to let you make your own decisions.
Anonymous wrote:
they shouldn’t make you choose, you should have a talk with them and tell them what you feel. they are your parents they will understand, they want what they think is the best for you but at some point they need to realise that you are your own person and they need to let you make your own decisions.
Yeah, no matter what they do, I still hope they will understand
change in what sort of way?
is it a cultural thing, like some Indian parents want their son to marry and Indian girl?
How old are you both?
Chunkymoves wrote:
change in what sort of way?
is it a cultural thing, like some Indian parents want their son to marry and Indian girl?
How old are you both?
They want me to marry a guy
me and my parents or my girlfriend?
Oh snap - I presumed you were straight. Nice avatar pic btw.
So your question is more “should I betray myself and my sexuality in order to fit more easily into my culture”?
That would depend on your culture. Or perhaps i’ve again made an incorrect assumption?
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Chunkymoves wrote:
Oh snap - I presumed you were straight. Nice avatar pic btw.
So your question is more “should I betray myself and my sexuality in order to fit more easily into my culture”?
That would depend on your culture. Or perhaps i’ve again made an incorrect assumption?
Yep, that’s my question :P
No, you’re right about that.
DPT wrote:
If this person is truely the one, then just remind your parents that they are your parents and they will always be. If they see it as evil thing then they are just trying to pass the blame & shame of their own faulty seeds and eggs onto you.
I don’t know if she’s the one, I’m not sure about her feelings
I guess I’m just lost…
Alexandra, keep going! Your way.
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Zirbel wrote:
Alexandra, keep going! Your way.
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Thanks, Zirbel :)
Are you financially dependent on them?
How old are you?
Chunkymoves wrote:
Are you financially dependent on them?
How old are you?
Yeah, kinda, I make some money, but not enough
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Cool.
I mean the easy answer is follow our heart and all that, but you have a stomach too, so you have to be smart about it. Never give her up of course, but respect your parents limitations.
Some people on here are great at phrasing what to say to parents, but mine where stuck, and no words worked, so never developed the skill.
Chunkymoves wrote:
Cool.
I mean the easy answer is follow our heart and all that, but you have a stomach too, so you have to be smart about it. Never give her up of course, but respect your parents limitations.
Some people on here are great at phrasing what to say to parents, but mine where stuck, and no words worked, so never developed the skill.
Thanks for your support, Chunkymoves! :)
Blood isnt worth more than the heart that pumps it Alex. Youre parents arent acting in love for you they are acting in bigotry to her and you. Just dont let them know you are seeing her and get your parents some sort of job so you can get the **** out of there and have your own space to do as you please.
You should separate your problems from your parents problems. Your parents problems is a lack of trust and understanding for you. There is no reason to submit to that problem because you submitting does not help the situation for any of you. You basically are just giving them love because you feel you have to and because youve been around them and are related. Your parents raised you so they basically have had the ability to make sure as you were growing up that they pound into your brain that youre bad if you dont obey them. Im not saying they have to be 100% bad but you very well know this is hurting you and they know its hurting you and they dont care. It shouldnt even be any of their business, youre old enough to do as you please. Like i kept trying to tell you just find a way out of there. Maybe the reason your parents havent even tried getting jobs too hard is because they know they can rely on mooching off of you. If you just move out you can still give them some money if they need it and fail to take care of themselves but the very act of leaving might just get them acting properly. It basically isnt really going against your parents because its just a way of helping them.
sorry if i sound like im being mean to you or anything and im sorry if i caused you trouble when i first encouraged you to go with her.
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Chunkymoves
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