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I was asked to go to a birthday party of one of my good friends…

problem is he is a mutual friend with the ex whom I haven’t seen since October(for a very good reason). I feel like if I go it might put me in a volitile situation. Any advice?

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Jeff offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Admin Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
Gamla Stan, 26, SE | 1 year, 7 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Go with a quick exit strategy?

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Fionna offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (27 minutes after post)

What kind of volatile situation are you afraid of? That if you see your ex you will do something you regret? Or that s/he will? If the former, I’d say go, and just decide that you’ll be in control and won’t let him/her affect you negatively. If you’re afraid of the latter, you might have a word with your friend about it and ask what he’d like you to do.

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C.M.Theisen offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Admin Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Providence, RI, US | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Hey, I remember you talking about that ex. If I were you I would not risk going to any social even where that ex could show up. It was a bad break-up you had trouble getting over. Maybe you can put it down to stupid drama, but that doesn’t make it it any less real. You’ll feel badly if you see this ex. I think your friend will understand if you explain why you can’t go. You can always make it up to your freind by doing something else for him.

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