Love help: Rejection.

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Rejection.

That’s how I always have been treated. Most girls that I like all have rejected me, the girls that I talked to that told me they like me picked someone else and left me in the dust, and the girls that I have dated have all cheated on me. No one has ever made me happy for to long. The longest relationship I have been in is a 2 month relationship, and the girl was cheating on me with one guy 2 weeks after we started dating, and two guys after a month of dating. Depression is a feeling that has always been by my side, and I’ve learned to accept it.

The girl of my dreams, the only one I have never been able to get over, will never have feelings for me. She has rejected me 3 times. And while she dates other people, I smile and pretend to be happy for her, but inside I am in such great pain. I only wish she could see how much she means to me. Depression is a feeling that has always been by my side, and I’ve learned to accept it.

Depression has been the only girl to love me, as I can never seem to escape her tight, cold grasp.

That is something I thought up on the fly. I’m just really depressed after being rejected by the girl of my dreams. I just needed to vent, and I was gonna rant about my problems at first. But this, this came out instead. I’m guessing it’s a poem?

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Space Weaver 15 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Back in the day I liked three girls very much. Two of them were two of the most popular girls in school, smart rich and well known. Problem was I was the exact opposite. They all found out I liked them. Needless to say it didn’t work out the way I wanted.

The point im saying is sometimes it works out wrong for some sometimes it works out for others. Im alittle different then ordinary people as wrong things seem to like me. However your different. You have asked the person you want to be with three times and not just once like I did so you still have alot of hope left. Don’t let a few setbacks hold you back from finding true love. Sooner or later if you want someone bad enough you will get them to you. Just keep trying and keep being who you are. If she somehow doesn’t except you then it just means that you have another chance to be with someone better.

Anonymous #
1 year, 6 months ago (27 minutes after post)

I remember when my last girlfriend cheated on me. Kinda a relief now. Just one more horrible person out of the way towards the girl I’ll one day love 3 I also remember how my ex girlfriend left me for my best friend…and how this girl I’ve liked for months ended up already dating someone…she was apparently a lesbian XD. And how this other girl I really liked was asked out by someone a day before I asked her. And how when I asked this girl out she said yes and then never talked to me again. All good times right? Relationships and dating are simply getting to know someone better. One bad girlfriend is just more expierience and one more girl out of the way towards love

Sparrowhawk 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Rejection happens to everybody at some point, but that doesn’t make it any less hurtful. Even though we can’t really help who we’re attracted (or not attracted) to, it’s hard to be rejected by people you like or care about. It can make you feel really low.

Convince yourself that people who are rejecting you are missing out, because they are. It’s their loss, and you could actually be better off for it. It can be really hard when the person you like doesn’t feel the same way, but just keep trying to get through to her and show her how amazing you really are. Don’t give up. You’re a lot braver than me, I’m quite timid and would be horrified to tell someone I liked how I felt about them. So I think your perseverance is really admirable.

And just as a sidenote, I think you’re a pretty good writer. Keep it up.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 6 months ago (4 hours, 21 minutes after post)

Why can’t people like us find each other?

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Cannnnn 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 hours, 33 minutes after post)

I have found (by experience) that everytime a bad situation repeats itself to me…I am usually doing something wrong. Perhaps you are too? Not saying it IS THIS WAY. Just stating the posibility of what I have found through pain and…..well, mistakes.

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linuxya 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (13 hours, 50 minutes after post)

Girls who reject you are not the girl of your dreams… by definition.

There are now 7,000,000,000 people on the planet. That means 3,500,000,000 females on the planet. If you want the “1 in a million” girl, that means there are 3,500 of them out there waiting for you. Yeah, that’s a lot.

Here’s the way to find fabulous women.

1. Start taking care of yourself. Running, biking, swimming. It builds up your testosterone and confidence
2. Join social groups and focus on getting to know EVERYBODY. Don’t take yourself seriously. You are not there to impress. Just laugh and smile and really take risks to be yourself.
3. Women will notice you and you will have plenty of choice.

It works.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (5 months, 1 week after post)

I need an opinion on a matter I was really good friends with a girl we saw each other almost every day and did sports together and so on. I told her I liked her and asked her out. She told me she would tell me when there were less people around, but never spoke to me again afterwards how do I take this what should I do? I was just surprised as we were close friends before.

peopleofourworl #
An Unknown Location | 1 week, 3 days ago (1 year, 6 months after post)

I guess most of you are still rather young possibly college kids. Not my case, I have seen the sun much more than you have. But I can feel the pain just the same. You don’t meet the woman of your dream every week, month or even year. I’d say for me one came along every 5 years in between thousands of everyday women . You know the one, it’s not just the first minute you see her, it is that feeling of an overflowing heart, you’d be happy no matter what comes to you if she was by your side. You learn to distinguish the romantic fling from the real true love but she rejects you. It happened to me again and again. It is the dark side of love, its counterpart. Instead of a blooming miracle it is a cold calamity but you burn like a dry piece of paper in the desert with a fountain of freshwater five feet away out of reach. These are times when you can really feel deeply what the world is, it gives you a philosophical force and polishes your fortitude like a diamond stone. This kind of energy will not come your way everyday, if you can channel it and project inside-out, it will make you better for it even though you have to endure the pain. Rejection is rejection. The most difficult I had, was that woman, I saw her in a good restaurant where she worked, looking at her I never seemed to be able to fully grasp her beauty, it was always like trying to drink from a fresh mountain waterfall. Not the kind of beauty that you see in the media (they’re not anyway) but the one you can feel in your heart. From the first few moments I knew she didn’t like me. It is the painful part to talk about you know it. I saw her again on several other occasions. I knew from experience there is nothing to do with a woman whose body language shows she has no interest but to honor that. Later I learned she was married anyway and has a beautiful baby. So she was a good wife on top of it. I respect her happiness and knew it was not to be. But… a heart doesn’t know that. It’s hard to put into words how much love one can have even in such a situation. I guess that is where the most beautiful music and art comes from. Not the love that is shared but the one that is rejected or impossible. I have been in relationships with women I didn’t love. I knew from the start they were not the real thing. At least up until now, whenever I had met my dream woman I did not have a chance, nothing. It’s not that I lack physical appeal, I used to think that’s the reason but it really isn’t. The more I look at it, I see it’s just the way life is ordered from the get go. Those ones were not meant to be. The power of fate is what happens. You have to be humble yet respectful of yourself and reach deep and don’t give up making a good run with the cards you were dealt. Nobody plays with the same cards. Learn the game better, there are good moves and bad moves for any hands. That’s as positive I can be on that topic. But yeah it is a cold pain. like time didn’t matter.

I guess most of you are still rather young possibly college kids. Not my case, I have seen the sun much more than you have. But I can feel the pain just the same. You don't meet the woman of your dream every week, month or even year. I'd say for me one came along every 5 years in between thousands of everyday women . You know the one, it's not just the first minute you see her, it is that feeling of an overflowing heart, you'd be happy no matter what comes to you if she was by your side. You learn to distinguish the romantic fling from the real true love but she rejects you. It happened to me again and again. It is the dark side of love, its counterpart. Instead of a blooming miracle it is a cold calamity but you burn like a dry piece of paper in the desert with a fountain of freshwater five feet away out of reach. These are times when you can really feel deeply what the world is, it gives you a philosophical force and polishes your fortitude like a diamond stone. This kind of energy will not come your way everyday, if you can channel it and project inside-out, it will make you better for it even though you have to endure the pain. Rejection is rejection. The most difficult I had, was that woman, I saw her in a good restaurant where she worked, looking at her I never seemed to be able to fully grasp her beauty, it was always like trying to drink from a fresh mountain waterfall. Not the kind of beauty that you see in the media (they're not anyway) but the one you can feel in your heart. From the first few moments I knew she didn't like me. It is the painful part to talk about you know it. I saw her again on several other occasions. I knew from experience there is nothing to do with a woman whose body language shows she has no interest but to honor that. Later I learned she was married anyway and has a beautiful baby. So she was a good wife on top of it. I respect her happiness and knew it was not to be. But... a heart doesn't know that. It's hard to put into words how much love one can have even in such a situation. I guess that is where the most beautiful music and art comes from. Not the love that is shared but the one that is rejected or impossible. I have been in relationships with women I didn't love. I knew from the start they were not the real thing. At least up until now, whenever I had met my dream woman I did not have a chance, nothing. It's not that I lack physical appeal, I used to think that's the reason but it really isn't. The more I look at it, I see it's just the way life is ordered from the get go. Those ones were not meant to be. The power of fate is what happens. You have to be humble yet respectful of yourself and reach deep and don't give up making a good run  with the cards you were dealt. Nobody plays with the same cards. Learn the game better, there are good moves and bad moves for any hands. That's as positive I can be on that topic. But yeah it is a cold pain. like time didn't matter.

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