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What does this mean?

There’s this guy I know. I have the feeling that he likes me in some way, though I’m not sure whether it’s just friendly affection or something more.

So the other day we were hanging out (me, him and another girl). It’s a bit of a long story, but he was joking around, told me that he loved me and didn’t back it up with anything to indicate that he was only joking. I don’t recall if I said anything back, I was too busy laughing at how funny he was being. He’s never said anything like that to me before. He didn’t say anything like that to the other girl, and I’ve never heard him say it to anyone else.

It just seemed a bit odd to me. Does this mean anything? Do guys usually joke around like that with girls?

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crystalsandsand 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (15 minutes after post)

yeah they do.

Help me with: I’m not wanting pity but if people have tips to escape the suicidal state of mind that would be wonderful.

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1 year, 6 months ago (18 minutes after post)

crystal2blindnes wrote:
yeah they do.

OK. So it probably doesn’t mean anything much?

crystalsandsand 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (20 minutes after post)

It could mean something. Or it could not.
I wouldn’t decide he likes you just because of that.

Help me with: I’m not wanting pity but if people have tips to escape the suicidal state of mind that would be wonderful.

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1 year, 6 months ago (25 minutes after post)

crystal2blindnes wrote:
It could mean something. Or it could not.
I wouldn’t decide he likes you just because of that.

Oh, I’m not. I really have no idea of how he feels and I don’t want to jump to conclusions. Though he’s done a few things in the past that have seemed to suggest that he has feelings for me, so this has just made me a little more suspicious.

crystalsandsand 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (28 minutes after post)

That makes sense. You could ask a mutual friend what they think. A lot of the time when someone likes you it’s actually a lot more obvious to everyone else than it is to you.

Help me with: I’m not wanting pity but if people have tips to escape the suicidal state of mind that would be wonderful.

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1 year, 6 months ago (35 minutes after post)

crystal2blindnes wrote:
That makes sense. You could ask a mutual friend what they think. A lot of the time when someone likes you it’s actually a lot more obvious to everyone else than it is to you.

I’m sure that would help. We have a small number of mutual friends, and most of them are female. There is a problem though - I’ve got the feeling that the majority of our mutual friends are interested in him romantically (judging by the way they act around him). And I don’t really want to upset or anger anyone.

I’ve discussed it with my sister, but would be so nervous to tell anyone else about it.

crystalsandsand 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (39 minutes after post)

Hmm.. well I guess the best thing to do if you don’t wanna ask anyone is to just continue to act normal with him and wait and see does anything come of it.
If he really likes you he’ll make it clear.

Help me with: I’m not wanting pity but if people have tips to escape the suicidal state of mind that would be wonderful.

Anonymous #
1 year, 6 months ago (41 minutes after post)

crystal2blindnes wrote:
Hmm.. well I guess the best thing to do if you don’t wanna ask anyone is to just continue to act normal with him and wait and see does anything come of it.
If he really likes you he’ll make it clear.

That sounds like a good idea.

What sort of ways could he make it clear? I’m a bit clueless, sorry.

crystalsandsand 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (48 minutes after post)

When I say clear I mean actually tell you or try to kiss you or something.
I don’t mean subtle hints.
Because I could tell you signs that he likes you, but they’re not reliable because I don’t know him personally. It would be a lot easier for someone who knows both of you to tell you.
If you don’t wanna do that though you might as well forget about it for now.
I mean analysing little things he does that may or may not mean something is just torturing yourself.

Help me with: I’m not wanting pity but if people have tips to escape the suicidal state of mind that would be wonderful.

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1 year, 6 months ago (58 minutes after post)

Ah, ok. Thanks for your help, you make some really good points. I’m having a party in a couple of weeks and I could ask someone then, but I just really don’t want to hurt anyone or make things awkward. One friend in particular seems to like him quite strongly, and I definitely don’t want to upset her.

I don’t want to obsess over it. It’s not that important and it’s not really worrying me, as I’m happy being his friend. I would like to know how he really feels, but I don’t want to push things.

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