boyfriend help: My boyfriend wants to start smoking pot again. - Help.com

Those aren’t preconceived notions you are having. It’s fact that it’s awful for you depending on where you live. Just ask my ex boyfriend. He was fired from his salary job and has to work as a server with little luck of being able to ever work in the industry he was in. He has to work super hard and crazy hours now all because of this drug people think is harmless. Stay away from the drugs and stay away from people that do them because you can get swallowed up in that sea of lies.

I think the most harmful thing about pot is the illegality of it. The government made it illegal just to cash in on it. If they made it legal everyone would just grow their own in their backyard and the Mexican cartels and drug wars would end and the prisons would not be overcrowded and the world would be a better place.

That being said any drug can be abused. I like to drink but I do not drink and go to work or drive around. A lot of people who smoke pot can’t control the habit and seem to think they can show up for work high and still do a good job. They are wrong.

Oh I forgot to answer the question… how long have you been dating? Are you sure he is not getting high when you are not around? Can you tell when he is stoned? I smoked in high school and my girlfriend was straight but I was never high around her. She could tell and it made me uncomfortable.

In the end, it’s all about respect. My parents had a lot of problems when I was growing up, but one that was absolutely damaging was that my dad would smoke pot against my mom’s wishes, around her no less, and he seemed to think she wouldn’t be able to tell?? I was 12 and even I could tell when he was high. Earlier in my life, I just thought he was a lot less intelligent than my mom, and honestly I was just kind of pissed that he had diluted my genes with his stupidity.

I’m going to second what Dr. Ralph said and say that the people who smoke refuse to accept or don’t realize how it affects them. If you want to compromise, say that he can do whatever he wants, but that if he respects you, he won’t EVER be high around you or at work or when he’s driving… After all, the worst thing that can happen is that he may start lying about what he does when he’s not around you.

Unfortunately when they pop a drug test on him at work it stays in the system for a while so even if he hadn’t smoked pot the whole week if they give him a drug test he will fail and get fired. He will just be another unemployed loser living off his parents.

well i definitely don’t think that everyone who smokes pot is a failure or underachiever. several of my pre-med or pre-law friends smoke, as well as a few professors and lawyers that i know. i think it’s unfortunate that you’re offended by the very idea of marijuana usage. but it does make sense if what you’re actually offended by is the specifics of the situation.

does your boyfriend act offensive when he smokes? does the smoke bother you? does the illegality of it make you afraid? those are legitimate reasons for wanting your boyfriend to stop smoking. but you need to be specific about them when you are talking to him about it. don’t just give him “smoking’s bad”. give him real reasons about why his usage makes you uncomfortable. when he sees it in that light, he will better be able to understand you and why this is an important issue in regards to your relationship.

My girlfriend gave me a poster that said kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray. I started brushing my teeth twice as often…

kaylaharrison230 wrote:
i just dont know why my boyfriend whats to smoke pot he says nothing is wrong with it but to me their is cuz my dad used to beat me all the time when he was high and
my bother started to smoke pot and him and his friend beat me and it hurts really bad when my boyfriend always talk about smokin pot or when he does do it i dont know that to do

I’ve known lots of people who smoked pot and they were very peaceful. I think your dad, brother, and friend has a problem with anger or issues they need to deal with. I doubt it was pot that made them do those things.